No I'm not giving towards your GoFundMe page

[Dubiousness]

I'm feeling annoyed after seeing someone's page. I can't give any more details here as it's outing, but let's just say I'm not going to be funding your self-indulgent lifestyle that you can't be bothered to fund yourself. It's insulting that you expect other people to contribute towards this non-essential, egotistical lifestyle indulgence.

You're right, there is no obligation to donate so don't.

No one is compelling you to donate. Why are you annoyed?

I certainly won't, but I'm still pissed off that people have the cheek to ask.

The ones that annoy me are the ones where someone didn’t get travel insurance/home insurance etc as don’t want to waste their money but then something happens while on holiday or the house burns down and then they expect a load of strangers to fork out to pay for medical care/replacing their stuff!! Should have bloody paid for the insurance like the rest of us!

@BrieAndChilli

The ones that annoy me are the ones where someone didn’t get travel insurance/home insurance etc as don’t want to waste their money but then something happens while on holiday or the house burns down and then they expect a load of strangers to fork out to pay for medical care/replacing their stuff!! Should have bloody paid for the insurance like the rest of us!

Add pet insurance to that list!! Paying towards someone’s vet bills because they wouldn’t pay for insurance, so cheeky to ask.

There has been a massive gofundme for a cat whose owner is part of a group I am on, the woman managed to raise over £5000 there plus did other things like raffles.

The vet bills are around the £14000 mark now for a university vet hospital and local vet. I've been astounded that they continued treatment and how much people were prepared to donate.

I'm still annoyed by the audacity.

People funding their lifestyle using family and friends seems a thing now and it makes me sad. I know we aren't under obligation but its hard to say no. I don't object to using a friends business/paying for a service etc but being charged 20 quid for mlm tat or giving to fund trips abroad? No.

Years ago, a guy I had just started seeing lost his job. Let's just say I wasn't impressed with his "efforts" to get a new one, full of excuses as to why xyz wasn't suitable so he couldn't apply etc.

One day he excitedly told me about "an amazing website where people club together to GIVE you money" - he was talking about gofundme, which was in its relative infancy.

He showed me his post. It was to raise funds for a motorbike! "...I'm job hunting, so OBVIOUSLY will need transport" etc etc. I couldn't believe the cheek.

He was a little perplexed and disappointed when none of his SM friends took him up on his offer of "investing in his future" he really thought that he should get a free motorbike via that site!

Yep. I saw someone asking for money towards their surgery for their pet rat. Wtf?

From your op ... I'm guessing they're cheeky-fuckering for a once in a lifetime holiday? Disneyworld
I'd definitely swerve that one and laugh heartily at the audacity but I have given to the odd one over the years. Generally kids with cancer or helping with funeral costs after a tragic/unexpected death.

I don't like it either. Very rarely do I see something that I don't think the person should save up and pay for themselves.

I am in a couple of animal related FB groups and people regularly ask for help with vets bills because they didn’t have insurance
Yes I will happily pay your vets bill as well as my extortionate pet insurance- not!

Ko-fi is another one. I know someone who made £30k in a month after a particularly shitty bit of behaviour. Gullible folk on social media... Not a bit of income tax paid on that, I bet.

A few years ago an old acquaintance messaged everyone on her friends list saying God had called her to leave her job and do volunteer work a couple of times a week. She therefore needed us all to put money in her account every month so she could still pay her bills!

Drives me nuts. “I want to go to theatre school, please give me money because it’s my dream!” Yeah well my fucking dream is to own a Porsche and I’m not asking for money towards that. What makes you think your dream is more important than anyone else’s? If you want to go to theatre school then pay for it yourself.

I had a go fund me started for us by the breed specific rescue because we rescued a very sick old dog and the vet bills were a lot. But when it was obvious he wasnt going to make it, I stopped the fund me, paid his bills and donated the rest back to the rescue charity.

It was very overwhelming though getting all these donations, i definitely wouldn't have felt right keeping it or doing one for me!

My best friend from school has been sending GoFundMe links around twice a year via texts and direct messages to everyone she knows. One is just before christmas asking for money for her to buy gifts for children in care homes/supplies to give to homeless shelters. The other is to fund her 6 week summer holiday (she's a part time receptionist in a primary school so clearly is so hard done by and needs a break by travelling for 6 weeks). She sends reminders every few days to make sure you've donated. I never have and she still sends them to me. We don't message outside of her begging for money. Her husband is on a high 6 figure salary so I highly doubt she needs any help at all.

A friend set up a gofundme for us when my daughter was diagnosed with cancer. We didn’t need the money for treatment (though the whole thing cost us a huge amount in lost earnings etc) but the friend set it up as something to raise money for her to have a treat post treatment. I couldn’t have set it up myself and didn’t share the link with anyone personally m. But I was overwhelmed and so touched by people’s generosity and kindness - and it didn’t seem right to say no either when it was for my child not for me. My daughter is thrilled to have something to look forward to now - we will have a holiday once covid has finally gone away. And it was lovely hearing her say that something good had happened for her as well all the awfulness she went through.

Still felt weird though.

I thoroughly recommend this book:

www.goodreads.com/book/show/26200068-the-life-changing-magic-of-not-giving-a-f-ck

I don't think the CFery ones do very well, unless it's for something that falls under a certain 'issue' eg animal rights or trans rights or something. People are free to start them though I do wonder at the mentality of discounting any negative repercussions from getting cash this way, especially when eg a prospective employer googles you and discovers you were begging for a holiday on the internet.

@OhToBeASeahorse

Yep. I saw someone asking for money towards their surgery for their pet rat. Wtf?

I imagine it’s actually very difficult (if not impossible) to get pet insurance for a rat. I have a soft spot for fancy rats and I would actually contribute to that if I knew the owner genuinely couldn’t afford it.

I really don’t mind the GoFundMe appeals I get sent. Some I donate to, others I don’t. None annoy me.

However, I’d be pretty annoyed to be asked to donate to some of the CF appeals mentioned on this thread!

@chinateapot just wanted to clarify that when I'm talking about "begging for a holiday" I do not of course mean families who need time and space to recuperate emotionally and physically after such an experience as you have gone through. I mean, there are charities that provide similar and it's obviously a legitimate cause. Sending good wishes to you and your daughter and your family.

To be fair , if people want to donate then it will continue.
Yes these ppl are CF's but those donating arent helping.