No I'm not giving towards your GoFundMe page

[Dubiousness]

I'm feeling annoyed after seeing someone's page. I can't give any more details here as it's outing, but let's just say I'm not going to be funding your self-indulgent lifestyle that you can't be bothered to fund yourself. It's insulting that you expect other people to contribute towards this non-essential, egotistical lifestyle indulgence.

My favourite CF funding request

@FearlessGreatExpanse

My favourite CF funding request

To be fair I'd happily donate for some people to go on a retreat for 6 months - but maybe only enough for a one way ticket

I'm on a rat FB forum (mostly States based by the look of it) and there are often pleas from fellow rat-owners to cover vets' bills. I have to say, I'm very hard hearted about it - my daughter adores her rats and we're all very fond of them (including the greyhound, although I feel that is a different kind of fondness) but I do think when it comes to excessive vets' bills - they only generally live two years anyway and they are vermin.

@HalfTermHalfTerm - I know where to come though should it come to it

@BrieAndChilli

The ones that annoy me are the ones where someone didn’t get travel insurance/home insurance etc as don’t want to waste their money but then something happens while on holiday or the house burns down and then they expect a load of strangers to fork out to pay for medical care/replacing their stuff!! Should have bloody paid for the insurance like the rest of us!

Yes. I still feel slightly pissed off with a senior manager in my organisation sending round a link to everyone on behalf of some friends. Their public-school educated son had come off a motorbike in India on his gap year, had broken his leg and ‘we must get Orlando home’.

A good percentage of our office is made up of part time workers on low wages and no-one else earns much. Needless to say, I didn’t contribute.

@halftermhalfterm and @Seriouslymole look up The Rat Review on YouTube. It's a delight!

There are some total CFs out there, YANBU! The only ones I ever give towards are fundraising for charity after the death of someone, or costs towards families whose children are seriously ill. Absolutely no problems giving to causes like that!

[quote ScouseQueen]**@halftermhalfterm* and @Seriouslymole* look up The Rat Review on YouTube. It's a delight![/quote]
That is indeed something to waste vast swathes of time while away the working day :)

Some I give to, the insurance ones no, too cheeky

Its always my most well off acquaintances who do this I notice. That irks me.

Oh dear,

We currently have a GoFundMe running that dd(15) made. She is shaving her head next week (her hair is down to her bum) to raise money for the chemo unit that is treating dh who has stage 4 terminal bowel cancer. She has felt very helpless throughout his treatment and wants to feel like she is doing something. So far she has raised over £3000 and we are very proud of her.
The chemo unit will be thrilled and her hair is going to be donated.

Loubieloo, I think that falls into the completely justified category!
I'm sorry about your DH you should be proud of your daughter too! Takes guts for some girls to shave their hair.

They do it because people are happy to donate, and I wouldn’t be surprised if people giving them money is what’s getting you back up.

You’re not happy to donate, so don’t. Just ignore it and move on with your life.

@loubieloo4 - that's not the same thing at all! So sorry to hear about DH and well done for your DD - it's good to feel like you are able to do something.

I've only ever donated twice to these things. Once when my dd's ballet company's tour lorry was stolen with all their costumes inside it and they needed to replace them all within a couple of days. The other time was for a local wildlife charity whose bird hide had been burned down by vandals.

Everyone else can go whistle.

The theatre school fees ones bother me so much. They are soooo self-absorbed! Pre-pandemic I wanted to shout at them to become a waiter like every other actor paying their dues.

@loubieloo4 yours is very justified. What a wonderful thing your daughter is doing!

One local to me is raising money for an op for his dog who got hit by a car after he left his garden gate open.

No pet insurance obviously. Poor dog but I pay pet insurance for this very reason. People have given thousands. His dog, his responsibility in my view.

On a small group chat, a friend basically just gave us all the option to buy something from her. In such a way that it would look extremely bad to say no. I'm fuming. It's not a lot of money, but I feel so manipulated and it's really really pissed me off.

Raising money for a charity or sick relative is obviously fine. I took this thread as more about cheeky requests. People expecting others to fund their holidays or 'wants' etc

@loubieloo4

Oh dear,

We currently have a GoFundMe running that dd(15) made. She is shaving her head next week (her hair is down to her bum) to raise money for the chemo unit that is treating dh who has stage 4 terminal bowel cancer. She has felt very helpless throughout his treatment and wants to feel like she is doing something. So far she has raised over £3000 and we are very proud of her.
The chemo unit will be thrilled and her hair is going to be donated.

@loubieloo4 That one really doesn't fit into what we're talking about here. Your DD is doing charity fundraising for a particular charity, which could then help other people in the same situation, although I would say I think GoFundMe isn't the website I would've chosen for that.

This thread is about people begging to take part in non-essential things, like the six month yoga retreat someone mentioned earlier. It's about people who want others to fund their holiday, or their personal lifestyle choices when they would be capable of doing it themselves by saving up. It isn't charity, it isn't life saving.

Thinking about it, the site name sums the cf up. Ie. “ Go fund me”. Ie. Fund me because I’m too lazy/tight-arse to buy travel/pet/etc insurance, get a job, fancy a holiday in the Caribbean etc

(Obviously legitimate fund raising activities where the site is used as a portal for donations, rather than a begging site are excepted).

I think go-find mes are great for the right cause eg holidays for kids with cancer, or like the little boy in my DDs class who needed £50k to have an operation in America as it wasn’t available in the U.K. (it was amazing to see the difference and to see him walking without a frame) or something similar where the people in question are in a desperate situation through NO fault of thier own.
It’s the ones where they expect that people to find things that most people either work hard for or do without if they can’t afford it eg fancy holidays, college, motorbikes etc as previously stated or to get them out of a situation of their own stupid making eg no insurance .

It's about people who want others to fund their holiday, or their personal lifestyle choices when they would be capable of doing it themselves by saving up. It isn't charity, it isn't life saving.

So what if it isn’t? It doesn’t have to be; you’re not obliged to donate. You just don’t like that people are donating to GoFundMe’s you don’t agree with.

@BrieAndChilli

The ones that annoy me are the ones where someone didn’t get travel insurance/home insurance etc as don’t want to waste their money but then something happens while on holiday or the house burns down and then they expect a load of strangers to fork out to pay for medical care/replacing their stuff!! Should have bloody paid for the insurance like the rest of us!

Call me mean but I won't donate to them either. A local family lost everything in a house fire because they never changed batteries in their smoke alarms, didn't have insurance I believe it was started by a smoker.
All that went through my head was Chandler Bing saying, "Could it BE anymore their fault?"

I paid a fiver a month for my house insurance. Years later it's only just a tenner a month. If you can afford to smoke then you can afford contents insurance.

@chinateapot

A friend set up a gofundme for us when my daughter was diagnosed with cancer. We didn’t need the money for treatment (though the whole thing cost us a huge amount in lost earnings etc) but the friend set it up as something to raise money for her to have a treat post treatment. I couldn’t have set it up myself and didn’t share the link with anyone personally m. But I was overwhelmed and so touched by people’s generosity and kindness - and it didn’t seem right to say no either when it was for my child not for me. My daughter is thrilled to have something to look forward to now - we will have a holiday once covid has finally gone away. And it was lovely hearing her say that something good had happened for her as well all the awfulness she went through.

Still felt weird though.

That is the type of thing that GoFundMe is for, I'm more than happy to chip in a few quid to help a family going through something like that. I had a very sick child at one point and even staying in Ronald Mcdonald house and buying hospital food all the time cost a fortune, not to mention dad travelling the 50 miles to the specialist hospital to visit.

I have a friend who will be setting up a gofundme for a specific piece of disability equipment and I'm also going to give to that.

I know someone who started up a gofundme for a holiday abroad for their disabled daughter (my dp worked with the dad)

The thing is-she’s not got a disability

She was a few months late walking,but that was about it

They sent the link to everyone-begged on fb-private messaged-the lot-and not one person donated

They’d just spent a fortune on getting married and they wanted everyone to pay for a five star hotel as their honeymoon but tried to claim it was for their kid-I spoke to dad about 3 years later and he told me that they where planning to leave the child with her mother anyway!(I don’t know what would have happened if they’d gone without her)

He really couldn’t understand why nobody donated

I don’t have any issues with genuine cases (and would donate to those) but some people really take the piss