Previously banned posters

[whitetilesmurf]

So there has been another PBP on the boards this evening discussing what I thought was quite a serious subject. Lots of advice given and now the post has been removed by HQ.

What on earth goes through someone’s mind in order to come up with such a post, spend the time writing it, responding and going through all the motions. Not to mention actually setting up a new account on mumsnet in the first place. I have no idea how people have the time or the thought process, particularly when a post can be difficult reading such as previous abuse.

I am at a loss, unless it’s kids with nothing better to do or some poster with some sort of grievance against HQ?

I think it's either somebody who is lonely, somebody attention seeking(who may or may not be PBPs) or someone who finds different things fun compared to the great majority, often bridge dwellers who post for the hell of it (who are more likely PBPs)

plenty of pbp's are still amongst us

What was the post about?

I'm curious to know how mumsnet determines that a post is by a previously banned poster

The used knickers thread? If so it was very well thought out and elicited lots of answers.

@nimbuscloud

I saw the used knickers thread, but when I clicked on it, mumsnet had already deleted it. I thought it was something dirty and that's why it got deleted 😂

Presumably the subject matter and posting style and other clever technological jiggery pokery which I won't mention.

@nimbuscloud

The used knickers thread? If so it was very well thought out and elicited lots of answers.

Yes it was the knickers thread.

I read something very sad about this once, which suggests that people who make up traumatic incidents do actually have some other trauma in their life which they can't speak about, and therefore make what they think are more palatable traumas. Was it a case of this?

I know sometimes people who lose loved ones to addiction/suicide make up car crashes/cancer to explain the loss because it's somehow shameful in their mind.

IP address mainly for PBB - not sure how they discover trolls

I reported a troll last night, was told it was legit so paired in good faith - this morning the thread was gone and troll declared.

@theotherfossilsister

I read something very sad about this once, which suggests that people who make up traumatic incidents do actually have some other trauma in their life which they can't speak about, and therefore make what they think are more palatable traumas. Was it a case of this?

I know sometimes people who lose loved ones to addiction/suicide make up car crashes/cancer to explain the loss because it's somehow shameful in their mind.

I have come across that in an academic journal a few years ago, it's extremely sad.

@theotherfossilsister

I read something very sad about this once, which suggests that people who make up traumatic incidents do actually have some other trauma in their life which they can't speak about, and therefore make what they think are more palatable traumas. Was it a case of this?

I know sometimes people who lose loved ones to addiction/suicide make up car crashes/cancer to explain the loss because it's somehow shameful in their mind.

That's a really interesting way of looking at it, acting out other traumas. It makes absolute sense really.

And the acting out can be done in anonymity, so seems preferable to acting out the trauma in real life with actual physical consequences?

I'd not given it much thought before, apart from wondering why.

Yeah, I think it is really sad but it does make sense, and it makes me feel more sorry for those people. There was something in a Susan O'Sullivan book about a girl who claimed she had brain damage, I can't remember all the details, but I think it turned out that she had grown up with a brain damaged sibling or something and was acting out that trauma in a way which made sense to her.

I think you're right about the anonymity too.

The article I read was about a woman with a sibling with a serious medical condition, they insisted IRL that they didn't have any siblings but online they would post about having that medical condition themselves presumably because it was their only outlet.

maybe it was the same person, I think the book was called All In Your Head, and it was about how the brain and mind work together, it was really good actually, and definitely helped me understand the topic more (not from a science background at all though.)

Not quite related to this thread but the amount of deleted threads is getting very frustrating.

MNHQ reply with 'OP is concerned that this might be identifying in real life' etc but it's happening with increasing regularity, quite often when OP doesn't like the responses.

It's a bit frustrating when people have engaged genuinely.

Yes, I know this is an Internet forum & people's lives matter more but it just gets irritating when it's so regular as it is currently.

To be honest I do think some threads should be left up but locked, because sometimes it's a situation that might be going on for someone else and there is is usually lots of good advice. Obviously the dirty pervert ones should be zapped and troll type ones but I do think some should just be locked.

@EdwardCullensBiteOnTheSide

To be honest I do think some threads should be left up but locked, because sometimes it's a situation that might be going on for someone else and there is is usually lots of good advice. Obviously the dirty pervert ones should be zapped and troll type ones but I do think some should just be locked.

I've thought this often - leave the thread but lock it; often some really useful info exchanged on the thread.

There was one recently that got zapped because there were too many deletions. There were a lot, but from only a few posters. The other replies were being very supportive of the OP & it was an interesting thread.