If your 13 yr old wanted chocolate

[Joynot]

Is it normal in your household that they would just get up and go and buy some at the local shop?
Or are they dependent on you for sweet treats?

If they wanted it & we didn't have any, they would go & buy it themselves at the shop. They'd probably pay for it too.

My dc know better than to lay claim to my stash. My teens go to the shop!!

On the very rare occasions that I ask my teen to nip to the corner shop for something then they will ask if they can buy something and I'll agree. Other than that they don't ask for or get chocolate on a whim.

My teen just adds stuff to the Tesco order, and hopes I haven't noticed before final checkout. If they go into town they'll make a visit to the shops.

I had to ask for everything thing in our house, I never asked for chocolate it was given to me as a treat.

She can use her own money to buy it from the shop at the station as she goes past it going to and from school, or she can add it to the supermarket list and I’ll get it next time I do an order.

She’s never popped out to the shop specifically to get chocolate, but she could if she wanted.

Mine would have eaten what was in the cupboard then gone to the shop to buy more.

They can buy it with their own money but we sometimes buy some for all of us at the weekend. The nearest local shop is a brisk 10 mins walk away so they don't normally go unless they are in town for another reason.

If we were sitting in the house he'd help himself to whatever is in the house, or during the day he'd just hop on his bike and go himself, probably with his mates.

If I was going to the shop for something else he might ask me to get him something while I'm there but he wouldn't ask me to specifically go to the shop for chocolate or treats for him.

Dependent on me, as neither have their own card at the moment! An overdue thing to organise tbh.

Though in reality both would still see what was in the house and make do, neither are that bothered by chocolate and there is plenty of other stuff around.

in our house they would simply go and get it from the sweet jar. It is open for anyone to take but once its gone its gone. If we are out and they want some then they go to the shop, rule however is you don't go to the shop without checking if others want some..

DS is 11 and he’d either eat what we have in or go to the shop at the bed of our street. He does make requests for things that he wants when I go shopping though.

We live out in the sticks and it's a 40 minute walk to the nearest shop, so they rely on me getting snacks in.

We dont have a shop walkable nor is there one on way to school. Most recently she has a tuck box and I buy things to take to school so snack bars, milk ways or Buenos one large pack of crisps and maybe a sains pkt of cola straws and they go in the box and that sit for the week. Very occasionally DH and I maybe going to a shop that sells chocolate bars and we would ask if anyone wanted anything. I try and let her self regulate as I was very controlled as a child (slices of 1 Mars bar between 5 of 6 of us anyone) with sweet things and I think it def contributes to my insatiable sweet tooth even now. I would say on the whole she is pretty good and when I see it becoming too much of a goodie fest and dinners not being eaten well enough I will pull her on it.

My 12 yo always has cash on her so occasionally goes to the shop on the way home from school. In the summer, she stayed at the park and went frequently to get a drink and / or some sweets. She makes requests to add to the food shop but doesn’t binge eat unlike me.

If there's no treats in the house, and it's between deliveries they can go shop and use their own money.
If they don't like the system they can decide to not scoff all the treats between deliveries.

Mine eat whatever is in the house and buy their own if they have money.

My 10 year old walks to the shop to get his own treats if he wants them. There's more often than not something chocolatey in which he'd help himself to but if he fancies something else he'll go buy it, mostly with his own money or I'll ask him to get something I need or a treat for his siblings, in which case I'll bung him a quid or two over the value of the extras and he can spend or keep the change.

This is the 13 year old with SN, yes?

It's not normal here for her or her older brother to do so, but it could happen if either of them wanted to do so.

My 13-year-old has her own account with a debit card and she's free to buy chocolates or other things within her means as and when she wants. Currently, she chooses to do that about weekly on her way home from school on Fridays. She spends the weekend nibbling through it. She gets her pocket money weekly and if her sister buys pocket money with her, I'll send the amount for her younger sister too.

As long as when I give her money for household stuff it's bought, the rest is hers. Her older brother has a budgeting app that we go through every week or so as he's learning to budget more. He also tends to only buy sweets at most once a week, but apps are another story.

I think, within reason, teens should have access to money that is in their control.

We have a chocolate drawer in the fridge and they have some if they want it.

If it runs out then tough. We live miles from a shop so they would buy it on the way to/from school if they really wanted it.

Mine would buy his own, but it's cheaper from the supermarket so he asks me to get it from thre.

If we have some in the house they're as welcome as anyone. If they ask when I'm going shopping or put it on the list, I'll probably buy it but they wouldn't ask me to get it if I wasn't going anyway. TBH if it needed a special trip out they probably wouldn't bother.

DS1 has taken to ordering bulk packs on Amazon, he's very generous when they arrive, which is not necessarily a good thing

Why?

@Joynot

Is it normal in your household that they would just get up and go and buy some at the local shop? Or are they dependent on you for sweet treats?

Surely it depends how local and accessible the shop is? Also if they shop permits children under the age of 13 in it.

A short distance, without any major roads to cross, and in daylight I would expect most 13 to manage without any issues.

My son doesn’t like chocolate. But if he did. He wouldn’t go to the shop as that would require some amount of effort and and he would have to leave the room.

He is 16. But if he asks for something and we don’t have it I add it to the list for the next lot of shopping.