If your 13 yr old wanted chocolate

[Joynot]

Is it normal in your household that they would just get up and go and buy some at the local shop?
Or are they dependent on you for sweet treats?

If there was none in the house, and it was a reasonable time of day and they could safely get to a shop, then it's on them to go and get it and pay out of their allowance. Or they can wait for the next time I went to Tesco.

I buy chocolate/snacks for the family and the only restriction is that not one person eats all of it. If it's gone then tough luck until the next one goes shopping. I may buy something specific for DD if she asks as there are some things nobody likes.

We don't have a shop that close locally but DD can pass one on her way back from school (depending how she walks) which she does occassionally and it is her money so she can buy if she wants. She often buys sweets/icecream when we are out unless we buy for the whole family. If she is out alone/with friends I may give her some money (if I am in a good mood).

I mean things nobody likes apart from her.

At 13, mine would have gone to a shop and bought a Kit Kat or whatever he wanted. If you are ever out and about (in 'normal' times), when children are let out of school, you'd be amazed at the number buying sweets in the newsagent. Having said that, it was the same when I was at school.

When I was little, my dad bought very small Cadbury's chocolate bars for me on a Friday and I had one a day. They were really tiny, you can't get them now. Once I was able to go out alone, I would buy chocolate if I wanted it.

There’s always plenty of chocolate in the house. They can help themselves whenever they like but they know that it’s not something to overeat. They probably have a bar (smallish, from a multipack) once or twice a week.

We don’t live near shops so he doesn’t get the opportunity.

We used to have it in cupboards but he ate it all sneakily. Now he has to ask me if he wants some,

We always have stuff in the cupboard so I don’t think it would occur to him to go to the shop.

He would ask first though but the answer is usually yeah see what you can find.

I was also raised with very tight restrictions on what we were allowed to have so I also try and let them have free reign where possible.

DS pretty much self regulates DD doesn’t so much but she is younger so we have just encouraged her to think about portion sizes a bit more.

We don't have a chocolate/treat stash in the house because I would eat it. So he would buy it himself on his way from school (with his own money) or my Mum would give it to him (biggest supply generally) or I would buy it if he asked. He's 12

Paranoidmarvin: "My son doesn’t like chocolate. But if he did. He wouldn’t go to the shop as that would require some amount of effort and and he would have to leave the room."

That made me laugh out loud! So typical of a teenage boy. Mine was just the same at that age.

At 13 my children had current accounts with debit cards and could easily buy chocolate. It's unlikely they would have needed to though, we usually have chocolate in the kitchen.

They buy vast quantities at Lidl & work thru it at their leisure.

In our house she would get it from the cupboard or adds it to my shopping list and I generally get it on the next shop. She can’t reach a shop without me driving her and she isn’t allowed to have anything delivered without permission.

I have a 16yo and a 14yo. We don't tend to have chocolate in the house, but biscuits/savoury snacks of a lunchbox type are kept in the house and they will help themselves (although they both tend to ask before opening a new packet). They both go to the shops after school if they want something else - and have done since moving up to secondary and walking home alone/with mates. DD buys a lot of her own stuff: mostly chocolate and ice-cream: but will often give the rest of us some too when she gets home. DS and his mates tend to buy bread and yumyums and inhale them before walking more than 2 paces.

I buy chocolate/sweets occasionally as a treat for home cinema evenings, but tbh they have never actually asked for chocolate outside of this

My 14 year old will ask for something specific with the weekly shop if he wants it, otherwise I just get him a tub of icecream or equivalent. He will go to the supermarket himself as well, though the school have requested they don't go before and after school as it's not 'essential'. I think that's ridiculous as there as adults going for non essential things all the time .

I feel sorry for children today. Surely a kid can just go to the sweet shop without it being a subject for discussion and adult control.

At 13 they should have enough common sense and pocket money not to have to ask permission to buy a chocolate bar.

They'd probably ask me for the cash so they didn't have to spend their own. Then they'd forget to give me the change.

We tend to keep chocolate in, so the kids just help themselves when they want some. At 13 they’d be perfectly capable of going to the shop if they wanted something different to what we had in though. We tend to buy bars in multipacks on a the weekly shop as it works out much cheaper than buying individual cars from the smaller local shop.

*bars.

Depends on what time of day it was and if it was dark.

DD is the same age and very rarely goes to the shop.

@kowari

school have requested they don't go before and after school as it's not 'essential'. I think that's ridiculous as there as adults going for non essential things all the time

No: it's not ridiculous. It's sensible. It's the adults who are being ridiculous.

[quote premiumhob]@kowari

school have requested they don't go before and after school as it's not 'essential'. I think that's ridiculous as there as adults going for non essential things all the time

No: it's not ridiculous. It's sensible. It's the adults who are being ridiculous.[/quote]
It's not a rule that you can only go to the supermarket for essential items.

My 13 yo is fairly self sufficient snack wise! She'll get stuff on the way home from school or pop out at the weekend and if she does that, she uses her own money. We'll buy stuff for Saturday night in front of the TV and include her in that.

It's not a rule that you can only go to the supermarket for essential items.

Sorry, assumed you were in England, in lockdown.