Parent v child age

[Littleposh]

How old was your mom when you were born OR how old were you when you had your first child. AND what is your relationship like?? Do you think a big or small age gap influenced that relationship??

My mum was 32 when she had me. I was 29 and 31 when I had my children. I don’t particularly feel that age he impacted our relationship either way. What I would say I’ve noticed is that some of the people I know who had babies in their teens (just so happen to be all girls) are very close to the children now (they’re 15-20ish now).

My mum was 30 when she had me, I was 32 when I had dd.

I'm very close to both my mum and my daughter. DD tells me that we're much closer than most of her friends are to their parents, but I don't know if that's true - many of them have a similar-ish age gap though, so not sure that it makes that much difference really.

My mum was 26 when she had me and i was 26 when I had my first. My relationship with my dd is quite different to how my mums was with me but dd is much less rebellious than I was! It was great my mum being relatively young when dd was born (and ds born 2.5 years later) as she had lots of energy and looked after them a fair amount while I worked. My brother had kids later (they are 2 months, 2 and 5) and my mum really struggles with them now she is 67.

My Mom was 22 when she had me, and 27 when she left. I was 33 when I had DS. I find it so odd to think that by the age I had my first she'd for kids, a broken marriage behind her and a new partner and new child

My mum was 36 when she had me,back in 1963. A lot of people look shocked/surprised when I tell them her age when I was born,but I was her third child (my oldest brother was born when she was 28 and my middle brother 2 years after that). Plus,36 was not considered unusual to be having your third child back then. I don't think it is nowadays either,to be honest,as I think first time mums do seem to be getting older. My mum and dad married in 1949,the day before my mum's 22nd birthday,and,unusually for then,she continued working almost full-time (4 days a week). Back in those days,most women gave up work when they got married. My eldest brother was born just over 6 years after they married,as they couldn't afford to start a family until then.
I had a close relationship with my mum,closer than either of my brothers did.
I was only 19 when I had my daughter. We are also close,even more so than I was to my mum. I think this is because of the smaller age gap. Although I was close to my mum,we did have quite big differences of opinion on things like sex before marriage. She came from a generation where it was very much frowned upon and refused point-blank to let me have boyfriends staying overnight,even when I was engaged to my future husband. I was far more relaxed about this sort of thing with my own daughter.

My mum was 32 when she had me, we are very close, spend a lot of time together but we do the same job and its easy to spend time together.
I had my first at 18, second at 23 and due the third at 30. I'm close to my kids. Hope it stays that way.

My mum was 38. Yes it affected our relationship because she was always a mum not a friend. By the time I wanted to go out drinking she was approaching 60. Friends had mums who were only in their early 40s and they would go out together. My mum was far too old for that. The worst effect by far though has been on her relationship with her grandchildren. She was in her mid 70s when they were born, far too old to babysit or take them overnight. So a negative impact on me because my DC effectively don’t have a gran to babysit them, a negative impact on my finances and career because I need paid childcare in order to return to work, and a negative effect on her because she doesn’t have that relationship with them.

My mum was 20 when she had me. I was 42 when I had DD

Mum had me when she was 22, and married, I am the first of four.(married for 27 yrs until death)
I had my daughter, my first, at 19, we didn't marry until I was 20.(still married, 23 yrs)
Mum and I are close, as I am with my dd, and my mum is very close with dd as well.

Death of my father*

My DM was 28 when she had me, her first child. I was 29 when I had my first child.

Our relationship can be difficult and is certainly not close, but that is nothing to do with the age at which we had our first child.

My own eldest child is 27. We are very close and have a great relationship. My child hasn't had children yet.

My mum had me when she was 28. I was the youngest child and I remember my mum telling me with disdain that she was classed as an 'old mum' by the hospital, but that was 45 years ago.

I had my 1st DC when I was 18.

I don't think your age influences what type of relationship you have with your child.

I had my last child at 36, I've a very good/close relationship with all my DCs.

20/30. I have a better relationship with my teen son than my mom had with teen me. That might be due to age/maturity or simply luck. Or I've just jinxed it as my son is only 15 so couple of teen years still ahead :)

@PucePanther how is mid 70s too old to babysit? My mum is 74 and she does everything for her DGC who range in age from 10 to 21!!!

My mum was 27, had been trying for 7 years. I was 21, DS was a happy accident as I can't have more. I have liked being a younger mum as DS is an adult now and I'm early 40s with a good career.

Also - my relationship with DS is good, we are able to talk about anything, whereas I wouldn't have felt able to with my mum so much. I don't think that's age though, just personalities.

My mum was 29 when she had me. 27 when she had my brother

I was 32 with my first, 35 with my second.

All of us are close.

My mom was 19 when she had me, I was 18 when I had DD and 20 with DS. My DC are only little so I can’t say whether we’re ‘close’ yet but I’m very close to my mom

My mum was 21 when she had me, I was 19 when I had DS. We are very close and she's a very involved Grandma.

My Mum had me, her only child, at 38. It was considered ancient in the 1970’s, but she delayed settling down because she had a v. successful career, travelled, lived in various countries, and had lots of boyfriends! Maternity leave wasn’t introduced in the UK until 1975 and even then it was limited to people who’d worked somewhere for quite a while ( not sure how long exactly). If she’d had children in the 1960’s like most of her contemporaries, that would’ve been the end of her career and travel opportunities.

She was a great Mum and my only regret is that she developed health problems and died far too soon, when I was my 20’s. She was ahead of her time and I wish my children could’ve met her. ❤️

I was 31 when I had my first. Mum’s early death did encourage me to start a family younger - I hope I can can around for my children at least into their 30’s.

As a first time mum aged 36 some of the older mum stories are quite sad so far. Really hoping there are some positives experiences too...

Mum was 22 when she had me, I was 30 when I had my daughter.

My dm was 42 when I was born. Our relationship was basically good with some teenage sparring.

I was 45 when I had ds. Our relationship is better but we haven't got to teenage stuff yet.

@Namechange2020lalala. I’m sure you bring a lot of great life experience to parenting, just as my Mum did. She was unlucky health-wise, you probably won’t be. My Mum admitted that she’d have been bored and may have struggled with a work/life balance if she hadn’t focused on her career and travel opportunities first. I’m glad too as she was happy to work at a slower pace in her 40’s and always had time for me.

My mum was 23 when she had me, I was her second dd. I'm very close to her, as is my sister. I was 38 when I had my dd who is now 15, were very close too. IME age doesn't define whether you'll be close, personality and effort do.