Parent v child age

[Littleposh]

How old was your mom when you were born OR how old were you when you had your first child. AND what is your relationship like?? Do you think a big or small age gap influenced that relationship??

I was 19 when I had DS1. He’s 20 now (the age his father was). I can’t imagine him being responsible for a baby.

DM was 28 when she had me - I was her third child; she'd had her first when she was 22 and had already been married a year, We're very close, but I don't think the age gap has anything to do with it. I was 30 when I had DD and 33 when I had DS.

My mum was 15 when she had me, i was 18 with my first and 32 with my second.
Me and my mum and dad have a close relationship, as do I with my now 16 year old and he has a really close relationship with my parents. Littlest is only 2 but I imagine we will be as close. I dont think age affects it at all. More what sort of family you are.

My mum was 24 when she had me in 1991 and we always had a difficult relationship growing up which has resulted in us having not spoken in 5 years. I had my DD at 17 and (so far) we get on incredibly well and I do hope it remains so.

My mum was 37 when she had me. Once I was a young teen/tween I felt like she was absolutely ancient, she was always the oldest mum in the class and I remember lying about her age to friends because I was so embarrassed. Looking back I think that was partly a reflection of what she said about herself, I think she found hitting 50 quite hard.
I can imagine for this generation a late 30s mum will be more the norm than the exception, as it was for me in the 90s.
Our relationship has always been great and I feel the memories my parents made before they had me (married in their 20s) gave them quite a solid foundation as parents, if that makes sense.
I also think that having me a bit later in life has helped keep my parents relatively young compared to their peers.

My mum was 25 and most of my friends had mums who were around the same age. I don't think any of us grew up to be "friends" with our mums like going out drinking type friends - we have friends, you only have one mum.

I've got a couple of friends who had much older mothers. One has exactly the same relationship with her mum now than I do, albeit she has more health problems/frailer as she is older. The other hasn't got a great relationship and blames it all on her being an older mum - I'm not sure though and wonder if it's mainly a personality clash that would have been there at any age. All the things she resents her mum for would also apply to my mum and seem ok to me!

I was 33 when my first was born, and 40 for the second. It is what it is - I won't necessarily be able to provide as much care for grandchildren for the 2nd, but that's presuming there are grandchildren, and that he wants me to provide care.

My mum was 26 when she had me. I'm 40 now and we haven't spoken for the best part of a decade.

I've got three children, had the first at 35 and the last at 39. We are all close but they are just little now so they don't have much choice!

I really don't think age gap has much to do with it, my best friends mum had her at 44 and they were really close until the mum died recently.

My mum was 21 when she had me, second of 5. We were never close, over the years i have often felt that she resented my sister and I having a life when we reached the age she was when she married (17) and started having children (19). We are NC now.

I was 33 when i had my son, my only child. My son and i are exceptionally close and i felt very ready for parenthood.

I dont think its just age that affects the disparity between my mums and mine experience of motherhood. But i do yhink it is a big contributing factor

My mum had her first at 29 and her second at 31. My brother was born 11 months after my parents married, they were advised not to wait too long. My father was 37 when I was born, which was apparently considered old in the 80s. I found it hard to relate to my parents when young, as they seemed older than a lot of my friends parents. I don't think they were age wise, but attitude wise they were.

I had my first at 25, second at 26. They are only 9&7, so hard to tell on closeness yet.

@Fifthtimelucky. I definitely agree that the generational differences were more noticeable between my older Mum( born 1930’s) and I (1970’s) than people with younger parents.
Even though she was definitely living life to the full in the 1960’s.🤣

My mother was born in the 1920s and had 4 children in the 1960s, the first of whom was born in 1960, so she was a bit too early to take advantage of the new freedoms in the 1960s!

Bet she was a great Mum like mine!

She certainly was, and an excellent grandmother.

She is unfortunately no longer with us and ten years on she is still much missed.

My mum was 30 and definitely looked on as 'old'. I was 32 when I had mine and I was 'young'.

My mam was 23 when she had me and I was also 23 when I had my first child earlier this year.

We obviously fought when I was a teenager etc, but I think overall we're quite close and I can definitely talk to her about a lot of taboo things which I may not have been able to if she were older.
I remember when I was young in primary school, we would all brag about how young our parents were and I was always so proud when my mam was in her late 20s/early 30s rather than 50 like some other kids parents... honestly not sure why it was such a big thing 😂😂