Would you apply for a job where your DH/P would be your manager

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Directly reporting to them...

Weighing up pros and cons

Pros: I know him to be a good manager, reputation is very good. These positions don’t come up often.

Cons: will absolutely be gossip of nepotism, conflict at work spilling over into home life, difficult to integrate with team as boss is my partner

Am sure there are lots I’m missing. If you’ve been in this situation how did it work out?

Eurk. I worked with a married couple who admittedly were in different departments, but she was my direct line manager and her husband was head of a department that worked very very closely with mine. I ended up not feeling comfortable with either of them.

Couldn't talk sincerely to her and raise any issues about anything going on in her husband's department, even something very minor, as it felt like I was directly slagging him off for not managing his department very well (I wasn't doing that but it didn't help that they were both fairly quick to take offence), and I knew she would tell him what I'd said and nothing would be treated in proper confidence. Total mess.

No.
It would be a breach of conduct in the company I’m working for and besides we have different ways if doing things.

Heck no! I see enough of him at home and it would be like work was always there 24 hours a day.

No chance, or any other family member.

My friend works in the same team as her husband. I don’t think there is a direct reporting line, but he is senior to her. They make it work but are very discrete at work, deliberately don’t arrive and leave together, only interact at work for work related matters and when they married, she kept her maiden name so there was no obvious connections to outside clients (they both have unusual surnames that would probably raise queries if they both had the same name).

They are very good at keeping home matters at home, but it still causes some issues. Their careers are very niche, and there is limited options for either to move companies, so they make it work.

DH works on the same department as me and earlier in the year we were woefully short of staff and DH has the experience to help so he was in my team for about 3 months, I preferred it when we wasn't on the same team especially as we had been asked not to interact or distract each other as we worked in the same room even when not on same team

I’m going totally against the grain here but if you respect your DH as a good boss (which you say you do) then I would!
Apart from
Anything else...I think it would be hot 🙂🙂🙂

I've never worked anywhere that would allow this so I find it odd.

2 things -
It's a job that you might not even get so apply for it.
Its up to the company to sort out any line management issues.

This has already caused a bit of tension between us today when I told him I wasn’t going to apply.

Came on to say 1000 times no would I work for DH, we don't even so DiY together in case of divorce.

But take his irritation as a sign you were right. Not objective at all is it, he's taken your decision personally not professionally.

There might be a few people who can work together as husband and wife, with one in the senior role, but imo they wouldn't even see a problem from the start they would think it will be great to work together.

Wouldn't be allowed at my company for all the obvious and right reasons!

At DS's old school, the Head Teacher and the Deputy Head teacher lived together but weren't married.

I was really surprised that was allowed - they were in a relationship - and how do you manage someone effectively, and if you are another teacher, who needs to raise a concern about line management, there could be issues.

I personally wouldn’t but in my company it happens a lot and I’m surprised they allow it as personally I would think it was a conflict of interest.