Dh waking me up several times last for snoring

[Lardlizard]

Having a go at me in the middle of the night, saying you’ve been snoring for over an hour and
deliberately tossing and turnin really loudly ina. Very over exaggerated way
to try n wake me up and going to the toilet noisily

I’ve already said he need to get some ear plugs and I’ll wake him when the alarm goes off

What have you done about the snoring?

Is this a reverse?

Your husband isn't BU.

Sleeping (or trying to) next to a snorer is torture.

You need to get something to help the snoring.

This must be a reverse.

There’s no spare room to move to either

I live with a snoring DP who has so far failed to do anything. We don’t have a spare room. It’s genuinely horrendous and has got worse recently as he’s gained lockdown weight; the noise reduces me to tears some nights and he’s finally agreed to sort it. Fix the snoring instead of fobbing him off with ear plugs.

What can I actaully do about it though. I’m asleep

How do I stop it then

Yeah, sorry OP, this is on you to look for solutions to your snoring. There are pillows, sprays, various remedies and visiting the doctor to discover the possible cause (although obviously you might not really want to do this right now as it's a 'minor' thing in the scheme of the pandemic).

Sleeping next to a snorer is a special kind of hell. I refuse to sleep with DP. I sleep in the spare room. He hates it. I'm never returning until he sorts it.

Is this a new thing?

I would start by looking for a reason for the snoring (eg being overweight) and then build a plan from there.

(And sleep on the sofa in the meantime.)

https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/snoring/

For my DH, he needed to lose weight and stop drinking alcohol. It worked.

Wow so you've not even googled? Very selfish.

Nose clips
Spray for your pillow
Weight loss
Stopping drinking
Sleep in a different position

Plus lots more options.

My god I snore and I've tried everything and still snore, I'm not overweight, don't drink a lot or smoke so nothing can be done sometimes. Some cruel people on here, it's shit knowing you keep someone awake with it!!

If you don't know why you snore (as in you're not pregnant or overweight or aware of a physical cause for snoring) you should probably see a doctor (when that's an option with lockdown etc) and get it investigated.

Snoring is often connected to other heath issues from sleep apnia to heart issues.

I've stopped snoring since losing 3 stone - being overweight is a common cause.

It's very difficult to sleep next to a snorer for most people - whether he should suck it up and wearcear plugs or you should address it rather depends on the cause and whether you've always snored (so part of the deal in your relationship from day 1) or its a new/ish thing.

You'd be straight out my front door with your bags packed with an attitude like that.
Nothing worse than laying next to a snoring walrus all night long who refuses to do anything about it, it's up to you to find solutions and fix your problem

Mumsnet is this poster's personal Google.

Drinking and being overweight are the biggest factors.

Lying next to a snorer is awful, especially if they have no spare room to escape to

At least he didn't roll you over or nudge you.Thats what I do to dh

Agree with all the pp. Do you not see the irony in starting a thread about being rudely and loudly awoken by your DP multiple times in the night?

There are loads of ways to reduce/stop snoring. If you love and want to remain with your DP, I suggest you look into a remedy (hint - it’s not ear plugs for your DP)

Snoring is the worst thing. If you're not aware of it, you can't be blamed. You are, however, aware of it. Nose clips, spray and sleep on your front/side. YA (now) BU.

You go to a doctor and ask for referral to a sleep clinic. That's what you do. You could have sleep apnoea, where you actually stop breathing for a few seconds on a regular basis.

Trying to sleep with a snorer in the same house, let alone the same room, is hell. My MIL was a dreadful snorer (smoking related for her, and literally reverberated around her entire house) and wouldn't accept it. It almost cost her one good friendship when friend had agreed (unaware of the snoring at the time) to share a hotel room with her. They were not such great friends by the next day as friend had had no sleep and gave MIL both barrels. MIL was finally forced to realise that she could no longer share rooms with anyone, though did nothing else about it.

I'm with your partner on this. He's right. Do something about it. Going to your GP would be a start. Until then sleep on the sofa, or separately somehow.

@dewisant2020

You'd be straight out my front door with your bags packed with an attitude like that. Nothing worse than laying next to a snoring walrus all night long who refuses to do anything about it, it's up to you to find solutions and fix your problem

Agreed. I would find this absolutely intolerable. Your poor husband.

Agree with pp. If your snoring is that bad you need to investigate why.

DH used to snore, then he developed sleep apnea, which is what we think caused his stroke. He now has a CPAP machine, and we both get a decent night's sleep.

Sleeping next to a snorer is torture, and it is extremely selfish not to do anything about it.

For years my dh refused to do anything about his snoring, because he couldn't help it. He also did n't want me to move in the night.

I taped him a few times, and spent 6 months moving into my daughter's room in the night and in the end he flew off the handle saying I was trying to humiliate him. I pointed out I wasn't trying to humiliate him; I hadn't posted them on social media or shown them to anybody but him. I was trying to get him to take it seriously.

We then experimented with various devices, pillow combinations etc and found that if he sleeps semi propped up he doesn't snore. So now he does so, even though it isn't always enormously comfortable, and I can sleep. It probably saved our marriage.

I don’t think it’s cruel to be critical of someone snoring who isn’t doing anything to try to improve it. There have been plenty of suggestions, both things you can do yourself and medical intervention.

Try the things you can do ourself first and if they don’t improve things, get to a doctor and go from there. Your partner might feel better knowing you’re making an effort to improve things.

Shrug. He needs to get earplugs.

What a selfish attitude. You need to try to address why you are snoring. Google it. Its torture lying next to someone who snores and totally unfair

Apprently it’s been the last couple of weeks
I’m not over weight pregnant or congested
I’ve got a neck injury though