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If you were single at 27 and ended up married with kids, will you tell me about it?

91 replies

TropicalIslandBeach · 14/10/2020 20:47

I'm so lonely. I can't remember the last time I touched anyone, even platonically.

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Fairtatas · 14/10/2020 21:25

I was single from 23 to 28 without any hint of meeting someone! Met my now husband at a friends Christmas party at 28, married at thirty, kids at 31 and 33 and all good 15 years later.
I really remember feeling so lonely and couldn’t possibly imagine I would meet someone and have a family. But I did. And so could you

vickyq1983 · 14/10/2020 21:27

I was single at 30 and now married with 2 children at 36. 27 is really young still! Get an evening job in a pub, it worked for me!!

Kaitness · 14/10/2020 21:27

Fell into bed with a colleague three months after turning 27. We had been married 3 months when our dd arrived on my 29th birthday

Honeyandapple · 14/10/2020 21:29

Much, much better to be single and feeling ready to meet someone than in the wrong relationship putting off leaving and feeling miserable and hopeless.
At 27 or any age!!

I am now 30, I have noticed that friends who were single until fairly recently are suddenly settling down, relationships moving much quicker than they would have done 3-5 years ago. But standards have shifted slightly, or priorities have changed, I guess.

TropicalIslandBeach · 14/10/2020 21:32

I don’t feel young! This year has obviously been a write off and there will be no parties or even offices to meet anyone spontaneously any more.

I keep seeing people getting engaged/married/pregnant and wondering wtf is so wrong with me that no one even wants to spend an afternoon with me. Ugh. Pity party for 1 tonight, obviously.

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BlueJava · 14/10/2020 21:33

I was single and lonely (divorced 2 years previously) at 27. I had just resigned from my job (parent's very disapproving) to go to Uni as a mature student. I year later I had met the guy that I'm still with 25+ years later and have 2 teenage DS both at Uni (plus the degree that I went to Uni for!). He was also at another Uni and we met on a messaging service (before websites) as we were both studying computer science. I hope that cheers you up - sometimes the most unexpected thing happens.

JoJoSM2 · 14/10/2020 21:34

I met DH at 31 in a nightclub.

It can get a bit lonely sometimes so it helps to focus on other things.

CharlottesComplicatedWeb · 14/10/2020 21:44

Your still very young, love. Spent most of my early 30’s single. Met my husband at 36. Married at 37 and had our son aged 38. It can happen.

In the meantime, be kind to yourself. This is a lonely time for many many people.

CharlottesComplicatedWeb · 14/10/2020 21:45

You’re 😡

superram · 14/10/2020 21:46

Single at 27. 27.8 met now husband old, two kids married 12 years. Don’t worry.

Etinox · 14/10/2020 21:46

More, many more, of my peers had babies in their 40s than 20s. And I was a rare 20s bride Flowers

Lessofallthisunpleasantness · 14/10/2020 21:49

Yep, single at 27. Retrained in new more sensible career. Met my husband at 29, well had met him before at 19 but we hadn't gone out then, just friends. Now 3 kids and married 15 years. He was worth waiting for.

I had 3 long term relationships before him and looking back I can't see them having worked out in the long run.

Another benefit of marrying later as by 'midlife crisis' time, you are not quite sick of each other yet as those who married in early twenties.

OptimisticSix · 14/10/2020 21:49

I was single at 26 and then a single mother before 28 Confused... Met now DH at 33 and been happily married for quite some time. Things can change so fast and often do!

Minniem2020 · 14/10/2020 21:53

I had dd at 22, her dad then ended it out of the blue when I was 26 so was single from 26 to 29. Met dp at 29 & still together 7 years later & have ds who is 2.
I was the exception out of my group of friends as every one of them hasn't met someone & had children until their mid thirties. I don't ever regret having dd when I did but I think in my twenties I wasn't quite mature enough to know what it took to make a relationship work.
I remember, like you, feeling horrendously lonely but hang in there, your time will come

Suzi888 · 14/10/2020 21:59

Single at 35, no children. Loved it!Wine
Married with one child at 38.
Don’t lose hope, it’s all a bit depressing now due to covid and not much to do where you can meet new people without a mask! It won’t last forever though.

PaddyF0dder · 14/10/2020 22:00

Single at 27.

Met my other half when I was 28. Married at 32. Bunch of kids over the following few years.

27 is fine. Still young. Relax and enjoy the lack of responsibility. You have no idea how free you are.

AlohaMolly · 14/10/2020 22:06

Ended a relationship with a nasty man in the January when I was 27. Found out I was pregnant end of August same year with DP Blush moved in with him 2 weeks before due date and we’re still together with DS4.

AlohaMolly · 14/10/2020 22:07

I did think at 27 that my life would never go how I wanted it and felt like I’d run out of time. Now, at 32, I feel both ancient and so, so young at the same time!

KatyN · 14/10/2020 22:15

I was single from 21 to 28. Started on line dating. Cast my net WIDE. Met my husband at 29. Wasn’t a whirlwind, stuff happened slowly. we married at 33. Now have 2 children.

I felt like I left it late. Turns out most out our mates are the same age, same time married.

You have loads of time, but also I understand the loneliness kxx

WaxOnFeckOff · 14/10/2020 22:23

Started a new temp job in a group of about 8 folk. Bloke walked in and sat on the other side of the table and stretched out his long legs which collided with my stretched out legs - I looked at him and that was that basically. We worked together for a few months and got on but nothing romantic as he was already had a partner he lived with and they'd been together 11 years. He split with his partner as they'd not been happy for quite a while and he realised that he wanted something different (and so did she). I was single. Then he was leaving and we decided that we didn't want to not see each other every day at work so started going out. Got engaged four months later, married within the year and then 2 kids. That was 27 years ago. still together and DC are all grown up.

SexyGiraffe · 14/10/2020 22:27

Me! I was. At 29 I quit my job and booked a plane ticket to South America. Spent six months there and met the most amazing man. We got married when I was 34. We are married 8 years this month with a wonderful daughter. He's my best friend and I can't imagine life without him. I would never have married unless I was really in love. Always said I'd rather be single than married to the wrong person and I still believe that.

Plenty of my friends have fallen in love and got married later than that. And some haven't, and that's ok too.

mrscatmad31 · 14/10/2020 22:33

I came out of a 6 year relationship around that age, moved back to my hometown and 6 months later started seeing an old schoolfriend, now been together 9 years, married with two children

Onedropbeat · 14/10/2020 22:38

I was single at 29 and engaged and pregnant by 31

35 now and married with 2 babies

bluebluezoo · 14/10/2020 22:38

27 is still young!

I was single, couple of years out of Uni, with no intention of settling down any time soon. Enjoying city life, pubs, clubs and bars, and having a bit of money. I’d never had a long term relationship, too boring all that couple stuff.

Decided to get fit a few months before my 30th. Met now dh at the gym. Now nearly 50 with 2 kids.

Purplewithred · 14/10/2020 22:44

Single and lonely at 27; living alone in my flat, friends all happily engaged/married/starting babies. So I married someone who really really wanted to marry me and who said he wanted the same in life as me. It was a big mistake (although I dearly love my children from that marriage).

I should have got a grip, changed my life and raised my horizons.

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