When you message or email DH/DP

[workshyfop]

Do you open with Hi DH/DP name? Say your DH was called Christopher, would you start a text Hi Chris? Or just Hi? Or Hi Darling/Pet Name?

I find it quite cold but trying to gauge if it’s just me being weird.

I never used ex DH's name in messages.

Never his name. Maybe a pet name but more often just straight into the point of the message and a 'xxx' at the end to demonstrate the love

I don't address them, I just send the message

Sometimes with hi, normally with just what I want!

I don't do any frills or niceties.

Just the bare information;

Get bread
Cat out
We need wipes

Don't usually use a name at all for DH - just straight to the point. But then, I rarely email or message him, it's mainly just functional.

“Hey baby”... been together 16 years in our 30’s and still call each other baby over text and face to face we literally never use each others names it would feel so weird now.

I normally just text things like "get milk, xxx"
Or email "here it is xx" with whatever attachment I need to send him.

He's the same with me.

Text/WhatsApp, no greeting. Email, maybe a 'hey' but wouldn't use his name. If I was emailing his work email I wouldn't be overly cutesy though.

I never use his name but I usually start with Hello ___ darling/sexy/wonderful unless he is sitting next to me and has asked me to send him a shopping list.

No name and no 'hi' either. Just the message itself.

My last few messages:
"Do you know the password for X"
"I'll be there at 1pm"
"I love you"
No hi or xx

I can't remember the last time I said hello to DH! We've been together years and years, in 2020 we've been at home together all day every day. Same goes for DC, thinking about it (although I do say "good morning [pet name]" when I wake them up for school).

Interesting!

I rarely email unless it's just a forward but if I do I generally put Hi. If I'm emailing from work sometimes I end up putting

Thanks
Blustery

At the end without thinking!

Don't use a name at all, just launch into the message. I do put kisses at the end :)

I thought it was odd! I wonder why someone would do that with someone they’ve been married to for years?

Oh and I would never open a text or WhatsApp with a greeting really. Sometimes I'll just send "morning" if we've not seen eachother.

Sometimes start with a specific term of endearment I use for DH, which I use in person too, or nothing at all

My messages are normally short and sweet. Straight to the point.
"I'm finished, are you ready?"
"Where are you?"
"We need milk"

Nope. I think especially now texts are more of a constant conversation I would never think to start with a hi, definitely name. I might say hi in an email

@AfterSchoolWorry

I don't do any frills or niceties.

Just the bare information;

Get bread
Cat out
We need wipes

This but with an x usually, the ommission of an X = serious displeasure, words will be had later

Usually “hey babe” because he hates it.

The context of this is a friend showed me some emails from her DH. Each one started with Hi Claire (not her real name). It seemed so detached, like he was emailing a colleague.

I just say what I want to, as if I was speaking. I don’t use kisses on texts to DH either; I do on other people’s, so I want to differentiate because he’s special... if that makes sense?

If we havent seen each other yet that day because one of us is gone before the other is awake then the first message of the day starts with morning darling, hows you..then gets into the message if there is a point to it other than just to say morning. We text morning every day even if we dont need to ask or say anything. After that generally just get straight into the message, sometimes with kisses at the end, depends on if its a one off message or in the middle of a text conversation etc