When you message or email DH/DP

[workshyfop]

Do you open with Hi DH/DP name? Say your DH was called Christopher, would you start a text Hi Chris? Or just Hi? Or Hi Darling/Pet Name?

I find it quite cold but trying to gauge if it’s just me being weird.

We work in the same field so usually I address him like anyone else.

Hi DH name.

No kisses.

Texts

I don't use his name but always add two kisses.

Just the message I know who he is and he knows who I am, hearts and kisses to sign off though

I don't always open like that at all, but sometimes "hey you", or "Hiya (silly pet name)". He doesn't ever start with a hello/hi

I don’t use ‘hi’ at all usually straight into the message.... ‘please can you get some bread on the way home x’ that sort of message, I wouldn’t say hi.

We don’t use Hi/pet names/actual names/kisses etc.

Just checked boyfriend's messages out of curiosity and see that he often says "morning my love"

I sent DH one that said 'bread' earlier 😂. We've been together 15 years.

Just checked and we do say "hi babe, can you get milk on the way home. Xx'

I didn't think we did but we do!

Nah. That's weird.

@CatToddlerUprising

We don’t use Hi/pet names/actual names/kisses etc.

We don't either. I wonder if it's an age thing, as in we started texting before it was The Law to use a million kisses per message unless you didn't like or were annoyed at the recipient.

No I wouldn't use his name. We what's app so he knows it's me why would I say hi...
But the we live together. We do live on 3 storey house so message as I work on ground floor an he works on top floor!

I tend to get straight to the point but he would call me babe.
He hates when I actually say his name as he says it sounds like he’s in trouble

This would be over text though, I can’t think of a scenario where I’d email him instead

The only time a text from my DH starts with "Hi Chasingmytail" is when he's dictating a text to me using Siri. I can always tell a dictated text because he can't help being more formal.

Most of the time no greeting at all, just the message.

If we're both in good moods, I might preface it with 'Oy Fuckface', he might say 'Oy Bitchface'. These are genuinely playful loving terms of endearment. Does it show we've been together over 20 years? 😂

@workshyfop

Do you open with Hi DH/DP name? Say your DH was called Christopher, would you start a text Hi Chris? Or just Hi? Or Hi Darling/Pet Name?

I find it quite cold but trying to gauge if it’s just me being weird.

I don't even say hi. I just say what I gotta say

I don't address him, just go straight into the point of the msg, and no xx at the end either unless he's working anyway then I say goodnight blah blah xx.

In an email I'd use their name and a greeting. Not in a text/whatsapp/facebook message. Dunno why, maybe it's because I see email as being a bit more formal. This is the same for everyone that I communicate with on more than one platform.

I don't address him by name, it seems so strange to do that! Still call each other babe/baby. We still say I love you at the end of every message, it's just habit I think that. We obviously do love each other but we were long distance for a long time and hardly saw each other so was just a thing we did and it's stuck!

"Hey [nickname], then lots of x's. And if it's an email I'll always attach a photo of a random slobbery hound. I've no idea how this started and he's no closer to agreeing the purchase of a Rottie.

Nothing but the bare minimum,

Toilet roll.
Have you fed the dog?
Milk.

If I put kisses on he would be very suspicious it usually means can you pick up a bottle of wine, chocolate or random item on the way home!

I use his name If I'm pissed off that's about It. He calls me babe or bab.

@workshyfop

I thought it was odd! I wonder why someone would do that with someone they’ve been married to for years?

Are they in The Archers? People in The Archers are forever addressing each other by name for no apparent reason. Most odd.

Not usually no. Maybe 'hey' or 'morning' sometimes. If I use his name he'd think he was in trouble. Always kisses. No kisses - he's in trouble

I find it weird to write dh's name on emails - we only email to forward stuff the other one needs to see, sk no need to say anything.

I rarely put a salutation on emails to friends either

@iklboo

Not usually no. Maybe 'hey' or 'morning' sometimes. If I use his name he'd think he was in trouble. Always kisses. No kisses - he's in trouble

We're the same! No kisses means "I'm mad at you"