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Is it OK to not be busy?

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blinkboo · 13/10/2020 17:16

I'm just pondering as recently I've felt a bit weird and guilty about it.
I have two kids at primary school, 2 dogs and a DH with an important ish full time and very inflexible job. We prefer a slow pace of life and not using childcare. We live comfortably but can't afford any extravagances.
I don't work and am usually very happy pottering around reading, growing veg, seeing friends and doing various hobbies. I admit my pace of life is very calm and slow compared to people I know.
Does anyone else live like this? Is it just lazy? We are happy. I often day dream about a career but with DH's job and our desires around home life the only option to me would be a part time job I didn't really love. I've tried this before and found it a bit soul destroying.
Do you think there's something wrong with the way I live I guess is what I'm asking?
Anyone else out there live like this?

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mrsmuddlepies · 14/10/2020 08:32

It may be that the OP's husband earns so much that pensions will never be a cause for concern. The state pension will move further and further away, in light of the approaching financial turndown. For most women they need to work to contribute to the family pot, to ensure that if their husband lost his job, they would provide and to plan for a financially comfortable retirement.
I worked until my mid sixties and I still work one day a week ( and do a lot of childcare). I like being in a financial position to help our children with houses and housing projects. I like feeling that I do my bit for the family pot.

WINDOLENE · 14/10/2020 09:09

How about you live your life your way?

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