I'm fat

[StripeyandConfused]

I'm fat and short and white. I look like shit and I can't change.

[BIWI]

Of course you can change. But only if you want to.

[PurpleDaisies]

Why are you posting?
What are you hoping people will say?

[BIWI]

Well, you can't change being white, of course - and nor can you change being short. But you can change the being fat bit

[StripeyandConfused]

I don't want people to say anything. I'll get it taken down

[PurpleDaisies]

That wasn’t what I meant.

Are you looking for advice on how to change? Or just a bit of sympathy?

[StripeyandConfused]

No it's fine I've asked mumsnet to take it down

[june2007]

If you think you are overweight try to do something positive to workon that. Take up some excercise, try to eat healthy. Join a slimming group if that works for you. Do home fitness video if you think thats more what you can do.

[optimisticpessimist01]

Download My Fitness Pal and add everything you eat, and weigh the food too for accuracy. Do this on your current diet to see how many calories your eating a day. Remember to log oils too.

Then go on a TDEE calculator. This figures out how many calories you burn a day without moving a muscle, take 500 calories off this and this is your calorie target per day. Adjust diet accordingly and continue to track on MFP

[MuckyPlucky]

Oh for heavens sake...

So you’re fat? Do couch 2 5k, join Slimming World (I did both and went from fat to triathlons).

So you’re short.... so what? Petite is lovely.

So you’re white.... enjoy your privilege and maybe don’t feel the need to signal your ethnic origin in a post for no reasons

[BIWI]

@StripeyandConfused

How can we help you though? What were you looking for/hoping for when you posted this?

[Ilovesandwiches]

I hope you are okay though, OP, you are beautiful in your own way xx

[PurpleDaisies]

So you’re white.... enjoy your privilege and maybe don’t feel the need to signal your ethnic origin in a post for no reasons

Er, presumably she means white as in without a tan?

[LaurieFairyCake]

You have fat. YOU are not fat

[picklemewalnuts]

I am too, OP!
It's not the end of the world. I've been happily stable at my weight for years, but lockdown and hormone issues tipped me back into a climb. So I've joined slimming world.

Try not to be hard on yourself- some things you can change, some things you can learn to appreciate, and some things you can ignore!

[Ghostlyglow]

Are you OK?

[nzeire]

You sound sad and frustrated too :(
Take it easy on yourself. If you want to lose weight, you can, if you don’t, celebrate what you have.
We’re all on edge at the moment, do something nice xxxx

[Fionasmammy]

Whats white got to do with it? If anything its a perk.

[FiveNightsAtMummys]

Its ok to have fat, its ok to be short and white. I'm sorry you feel shit about yourself. Is there anything you can do that might help? Self care like nice baths, face masks, or new hair done at the hairdressers/ nails done? New clothes often make me feel good.

[FlatScreenTV01]

You need the right support. Life coach, therapist?

[Frosty26827]

Fionasmammy perhaps the poster means “white” as in no suntan not “white” as in ethnicity