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I'm fat

20 replies

StripeyandConfused · 10/10/2020 20:22

I'm fat and short and white. I look like shit and I can't change.

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BIWI · 10/10/2020 20:23

Of course you can change. But only if you want to.

PurpleDaisies · 10/10/2020 20:23

Why are you posting?
What are you hoping people will say?

BIWI · 10/10/2020 20:23

Well, you can't change being white, of course - and nor can you change being short. But you can change the being fat bit Smile

StripeyandConfused · 10/10/2020 20:28

I don't want people to say anything. I'll get it taken down

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PurpleDaisies · 10/10/2020 20:31

That wasn’t what I meant. Confused

Are you looking for advice on how to change? Or just a bit of sympathy?

StripeyandConfused · 10/10/2020 20:31

No it's fine I've asked mumsnet to take it down

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june2007 · 10/10/2020 20:34

If you think you are overweight try to do something positive to workon that. Take up some excercise, try to eat healthy. Join a slimming group if that works for you. Do home fitness video if you think thats more what you can do.

optimisticpessimist01 · 10/10/2020 20:40

Download My Fitness Pal and add everything you eat, and weigh the food too for accuracy. Do this on your current diet to see how many calories your eating a day. Remember to log oils too.

Then go on a TDEE calculator. This figures out how many calories you burn a day without moving a muscle, take 500 calories off this and this is your calorie target per day. Adjust diet accordingly and continue to track on MFP

MuckyPlucky · 10/10/2020 20:44

Oh for heavens sake...

So you’re fat? Do couch 2 5k, join Slimming World (I did both and went from fat to triathlons).

So you’re short.... so what? Petite is lovely.

So you’re white.... enjoy your privilege and maybe don’t feel the need to signal your ethnic origin in a post for no reasons

BIWI · 10/10/2020 20:55


How can we help you though? What were you looking for/hoping for when you posted this?

Ilovesandwiches · 10/10/2020 20:55

I hope you are okay though, OP, you are beautiful in your own way xx

PurpleDaisies · 10/10/2020 20:58

So you’re white.... enjoy your privilege and maybe don’t feel the need to signal your ethnic origin in a post for no reasons

Er, presumably she means white as in without a tan?

LaurieFairyCake · 10/10/2020 21:00

You have fat. YOU are not fat Thanks

picklemewalnuts · 10/10/2020 21:02

I am too, OP!
It's not the end of the world. I've been happily stable at my weight for years, but lockdown and hormone issues tipped me back into a climb. So I've joined slimming world.

Try not to be hard on yourself- some things you can change, some things you can learn to appreciate, and some things you can ignore!


Ghostlyglow · 10/10/2020 21:04

Are you OK?

nzeire · 10/10/2020 21:05

You sound sad and frustrated too :(
Take it easy on yourself. If you want to lose weight, you can, if you don’t, celebrate what you have.
We’re all on edge at the moment, do something nice xxxx

Fionasmammy · 10/10/2020 21:07

Whats white got to do with it? If anything its a perk.

FiveNightsAtMummys · 10/10/2020 21:08

Its ok to have fat, its ok to be short and white. I'm sorry you feel shit about yourself. Is there anything you can do that might help? Self care like nice baths, face masks, or new hair done at the hairdressers/ nails done? New clothes often make me feel good.

FlatScreenTV01 · 10/10/2020 21:11

You need the right support. Life coach, therapist?

Frosty26827 · 10/10/2020 23:36

Fionasmammy perhaps the poster means “white” as in no suntan not “white” as in ethnicity

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