I keep seeing threads where the OP is ripped a new one. I thought that maybe I was being unfair but I spent some time in 'classics' the other day and there appears to have been a tonal change. There was humour and compassion in spades, and people were able to make comment without being deliberately hurtful and judgemental.
After nearly ten years here I'm considering leaving because it pains me to see women (in the majority) being so unkind to each other.