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So much fat bashing

64 replies

Atalune · 01/10/2020 20:09

I am so sick of seeing fat bashing threads. Either by those who are fat or by those who hate the fat.

Yes I can hide them!

It is constant and it’s really terrible and annoying and makes me rage.

It’s either people posting about an obesity tax/fine. Or people saying they are fat and how awful they feel.

It’s just so shit.

We come in all shapes and sizes. The end.

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formerbabe · 01/10/2020 20:10

I agree with you

paintmywholehousepink · 01/10/2020 20:11

Yep

GoldenHoops · 01/10/2020 20:13

Totally agree. A lot of people who bully others and then disguise the bullying by saying they are only trying to help.

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PineappleUpsideDownCake · 01/10/2020 20:14

Yanbu.

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Atalune · 01/10/2020 20:14

Actually I want to update my post.

If you want to discuss weight loss then by all means crack on. However, please do not bash yourself.

No more fat bash.

If I had a gavel I would smack it right now.

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Kanaloa · 01/10/2020 20:14

I don’t think anyone should be saying they hate fat people or anything, but I don’t see a problem with someone posting that they are overweight and feel rubbish or asking for tips to lose a bit of weight. They’re only saying how they feel.

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Atalune · 01/10/2020 20:21

@Kanaloab you are absolutely right. But I have had an epiphany.

No one is perfect. Big or small losing or gaining. It actually really doesn’t matter.

And all the talking and all the horrible language around it is so unhelpful.

As a woman I am bitterly disappointed in myself and how bought in I have been to the whole body image thing. It’s bullshit. It’s meaningless. It’s not real.

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lacylass · 01/10/2020 20:35

That is really good for you Atalune that you are comfortable in your own skin. I suppose the difference is some people are not and want advice or want to make changes.
I'm miserable when I'm carrying more weight than I want to...it doesn't however mean I judge others.

Battlestaricedcoffee · 01/10/2020 20:45

I agree but there's going to be loads of replies saying you're killing yourself, your family and society.

Chicchicchicchiclana · 01/10/2020 20:55

You can't want to stop people who are fat talking about how they feel can you OP?

boredboredboredboredbored · 01/10/2020 20:58

People are allowed to feel different to you.

AnneLovesGilbert · 01/10/2020 21:13

Free speech is mostly still a thing. You don’t have to read things which upset you.

jdoejnr1 · 01/10/2020 21:18

So you don't like peop wanting to improve their health?

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Atalune · 01/10/2020 22:10

Hilarious that’s this is how it’s been taken.

Does no one read anymore?

If you want to discuss weight loss then by all means crack on. However, please do not bash yourself

But sure read it how you please.

It’s not censorship I’m suggesting. It’s the affectation that ones shape and size has anything to do with anyone else. It’s nonsense.

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TulipsTwoLips · 01/10/2020 22:25

@Atalune

Hilarious that’s this is how it’s been taken.

Does no one read anymore?

If you want to discuss weight loss then by all means crack on. However, please do not bash yourself

But sure read it how you please.

It’s not censorship I’m suggesting. It’s the affectation that ones shape and size has anything to do with anyone else. It’s nonsense.

😂
AntiHop · 01/10/2020 22:27

Agreed op. There was a particularly horrible thread recently.

underneaththeash · 01/10/2020 22:30

But it's not good being fat - at all....the costs of obesity are billions and that's just in the UK is completely avoidable.

Like smoking and alcoholism, but for some reason is more acceptable.

It's not easy, I have a slightly over weight child, who can't eat what he would like and I was overweight as a child too (and also cannot eat what I would like - I've been a healthy size 10 for most of my adult life - but I cannot eat crap).

lazylinguist · 01/10/2020 22:33

I understand that you're not suggesting censorship, but then what are you suggesting? Lots of people feel bad about themselves because they are overweight. Yes it's sad. Yes it would be lovely if everyone who wanted to lose weight posted about it in a positive, non-self-bashing way. But that's not really going to happen, because it's usually a feeling of "Oh god, I look terrible" that spurs people to try and lose weight in the first place.

BackforGood · 01/10/2020 22:43

Big or small losing or gaining. It actually really doesn’t matter.

that's not really true though, is it ?
Obesity is a major issue in most "developed" countries.

I'm glad that you are now happy in your own skin, but pretending it is okay for small children, teens, young adults to be obese is not going to help stop the ticking time bomb.

CalmYoBadSelf · 01/10/2020 22:55

I feel qualified to speak on this as I am obese and that is despite having lost 4 stone!

I think to post I feel awful, as in I don't feel healthy or my knees hurt or I can't breathe easily, is one thing but to post I feel awful, as in I am disgusting or I hate myself, is another.

We all know the health negatives of being obese but, sadly, many people have been brainwashed into thinking being fat makes them disgusting and inferior beings too.

Of course there are also the judgemental knobs who love to put others down too Grin

Itwasaquarterpast11 · 01/10/2020 23:00

But.. I'm fat and unhealthy and look crap. Am I not allowed to say any of those things? Should I accept my fat, unhealthy, piggy eyed self so you feel better about you?

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Atalune · 02/10/2020 07:28

I wish people wouldn’t speak about themselves in such horrible ways. It doesn’t help. Does it make you feel better to say you have “piggy eyes” @Itwasaquarterpast11 ?

But of course one can say whatever they like about themselves. It is my personal opinion that it doesn’t help to say I hate myself. I’m disgusting.

When our children speak of themselves in such ways we are aghast. We think oh no they have low self esteem they are damaging their mental well being.

When does it become ok to speak about adults be it ourselves or others in such a way?

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KatherineJaneway · 02/10/2020 07:33

Big or small losing or gaining. It actually really doesn’t matter.

Actually it does. Obesity is a real issue. If an OP says they have gained a few stone, feel and look like crap you have no right to tell them not to feel that way or share how they feel on a public forum if they so choose.

NameAChange · 02/10/2020 07:40

There are also people out there who feel totally comfortable in their weight, such that its a non-issue, so they tend not to comment. Its one of those insidious things. The more attention you give it the more it becomes an issue.

Some people like to objectively evaluate their appearance, positively or negatively. Its all the same thing at the extreme ends-vanity. I rarely discuss my appearance but when I do I like to focus on the things I like. I agree society attitudes need changing, but they are slowly. Look at all the diverse size models nowadays. In terms of the individual level, its down to the individual if they want to campaign against it. What is powerful is simply stopping comparing oneself. That goes for all areas not just weight, and focusing on what's unique about you, what you like.

notheragain4 · 02/10/2020 07:41

"We come in all shapes and sizes"

Height, yes we have little impact on that, but weight? For most people it's not something we "come" with but what we curate ourselves so it will generate more discussion, opinion and feelings, because there is an element of control.