So much fat bashing

[Atalune]

I am so sick of seeing fat bashing threads. Either by those who are fat or by those who hate the fat.

Yes I can hide them!

It is constant and it’s really terrible and annoying and makes me rage.

It’s either people posting about an obesity tax/fine. Or people saying they are fat and how awful they feel.

It’s just so shit.

We come in all shapes and sizes. The end.

Not everyone @gilead, but it’s fair to say that the majority of people are overweight through poor diet and lack of exercise. The reasons for having a poor diet and not exercising are often complex though.

Atalune, this site is full of fat-bashing. It's a site where some women live for venting their spleen about other women in a derogatory way. They can't stop, won't stop. They'll sometimes cloak it by talking about a scenario where their 'friend said x, y, z nasty thing' and do the faux wide-eyed thing - or they'll say something about themselves which acts as some sort of talisman to prevent others from being able to say anything about their spiteful comments.

You'll just have to live with it. When you post on social media or a forum, there are seemingly no brakes or depths to which others won't plummet if they choose. Nothing's off limits.

Steala has articulated what I wanted to say, much more clearly too.

Take everything with a handful of salt. I doubt the veracity of most of what's posted on this board when it's purpose seems to be to bash and judge other women.

The thread about the obesity tax/fine was clearly a troll thread, and it was taken down quite quickly. Surprised so many people fell for it though.
OP I think there's a difference between 'fat bashing' and 'fat people bashing'. Unfortunately some people seem to take any mention of obesity in a personal way, as if it's criticising them, often projecting things that haven't been said at all.

True story:

When me and my partner met and later got married I was the slightly chubbier one (but still in good shape), whereas they were in literally perfect shape & slim; entireley due to both a fast metabolism, genetics and youth, without ever doing any exercise.

However, I continued to keep exercising for twice a week (45 mins x2 ) for the last 7 years, whereas they have not.

Guess who is in great shape for their age now, and who has the pot belly....

@SodaPerson

True story:

When me and my partner met and later got married I was the slightly chubbier one (but still in good shape), whereas they were in literally perfect shape & slim; entireley due to both a fast metabolism, genetics and youth, without ever doing any exercise.

However, I continued to keep exercising for twice a week (45 mins x2 ) for the last 7 years, whereas they have not.

Guess who is in great shape for their age now, and who has the pot belly....

So...yea...I do judge people who make no effort.

With the exception of course, for people who have medical conditions or disabilities. I think everyone understands that people in this categorary are far less able to influence their weight (or maybe cannot at all). This is completely understandable.

What do you get out of judging exactly, SodaPerson? I mean, what's the point?

You sound as if you're keeping score and now 'having the last laugh'. Not very nice.

@LyingWitchInTheWardrobe

What do you get out of judging exactly, SodaPerson? I mean, what's the point?

You sound as if you're keeping score and now 'having the last laugh'. Not very nice.

Not having the last laugh..as i'm not exactly happy about my partner not making any effort....even 10 minutes a day can make a huge difference...but despite my prodding and offering to help, theres always an excuse; tired, its cold, just ate, etc....

I guess I feel slight resentment if im being honest....cant help it :(

I've always found Mumsnet to be very fat friendly and intolerant of any perceived "fat shaming" at all

There is definitely a very vocal minority who seem to think eating anything but ‘a big salad’ for lunch is some kind of disgusting crime.

I'm overweight OP. I am nice to everyone, but the fact is that being overweight/obese isn't healthy and is one of the many things that costs the NHS a fortune.

I dont mind knowing that I should be doing something about my weight, same as quitting smoking.

@SodaPerson well done you!
I feel the spirit of the op however is about not judging people on having a pot belly though.
As in THAT'S NOT THE MOST IMPORTANT THING ABOUT A PERSON! 🙄🤷🏽‍♀️

SodaPerson well you're honest and that's rare.

For me it would depend on whether when you were chubbier whether your partner jeered at you or accepted you, 'warts and all'?

I do understand where you're coming from, my husband has put on weight during lockdown; I've lost weight and got fitter. He has never been anything other than hugely supportive of me, whatever I do, so I do find myself biting my tongue when I see him eating multiple muffins for a snack (he buys them). I want him to be fit and well - and happy. I don't think it's as much acceptance of fat as acceptance of the people that we love. It's difficult.

I ignore the lecture-lovers spouting off on here about the obesity crisis. It's just repetitive parrot-speaking and it seems to imply some sort of permission for them to talk down and judge people's (mostly women's) appearance. Not engaging with that nonsense. It achieves nothing but then again, it was never meant to. Weight/fatness is just a vehicle for the thigh-rubbers to get their jollies.

If it were as simple as 'eat less, move more', there would be no obesity or weight issues. Any fool can spout that.. and there seem to be lots of them resident on this board. At least they can be spotted a mile off and nobody's taken in with their faux concern.

When I could pick him up, he was very slim. But now he is older and due to health issues he isn,t very mobile and doesn,t have the best diet. (partly due to illness.) meaning he is now fat. I do worry as it will be hard for him to loose the weight. And yes he was more attractive when he was slimer. (doen,t mean I don,t still love him..)