Is this inappropriate?

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I have two DD’s aged 6 and 4. They know I go for a back massage every couple of months and their favourite game in the world is setting up a spa for DH and I.

This consists of them taking all of my creams and lotions out and applying them liberally all over our faces 😆

The only thing is, they asked if they could give me a back massage. I know this sounds silly because many mums bathe with their kids but that’s not something I’ve ever done.

I haven’t wanted them to massage my back in case that’s deemed inappropriate. Am I being too uptight? For reference, I have been a victim of abuse and so I don’t know if I’m being completely over the top.

Thanks.

Not inappropriate at all.

Okay, thank you. Sorry, I know it’s probably a silly question.

It's totally fine OP.

I think it is fine.

It is totally fine in that nobody else would question it, but OP like in every other way, you only do anything with your body that you are totally comfortable with.... if it feels weird to you, then there is also no need to do it. Totally up to you. 🙂

I used to love massaging my mum!

Why would it be inappropriate? You pay someone at a spa to do it, like painting your nails. That's not weird either.

Ahh that's so cute! My 10 year old just gave me a back massage as I was so stressed with work. It was a lovely gesture but I think I need an appointment with a chiropractor now!

Me and my Mum always gave each other back massages when I was a kid. Still do if I can persuade her and we're 36 and 65 now 😂

I wouldn't consider it inappropriate but if you're not comfortable with a skin to skin massage, would you let them massage you with a t-shirt on?

It's not inappropriate but it completely depends on what you're comfortable with.

My kids' school invited us mums in to the nursery class for a back massage from our kids for mothers day. The kids basically rolled a tennis ball on our clothed backs. So you could do that if you wanted? And also more endorsement that it's not inappropriate in itself :-)

It’s not inappropriate but if you feel word how about a foot rub?

*weird

I think its fine in itself but they may then want to do that with friends (still as a game) which I do feel is crossing a boundary.

No different to training a 2 year old to give a foot massage. I may have done that

When ds2 was a toddler, I used to get him to walk up and down my back to get it to click. There may have been bouncing involved to try and get a good click 😆

Sounds amazing op - I keep asking my two toddler boys if they want to do mummy’s hair (I find it so relaxing) but they’re not interested yet. I’m giving them a couple more years then if they still say no I’m trying for a girl!

I wish my kids would give me a massage or play with my hair ... only 1 & 2 though so a few years to go to see if this is viable hahah

My 12 year old has been giving me shoulder massages since he was about 3 😂. I may have to bribe him now he's a bit older but still,....

My DS (8) charges 20p for a massage, it's more of a good thump really but it keeps him in 20p mix ups. As you can see it can be a benefit from having kids, if they are good at it