ADs skipping to school - and that's only the parents

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@LivinLaVidaLoki

Well today can just fucking do one.

I will finally be taking the plunge tomorrow and raising a grievance with hr about my line manager. I know these things hardly ever work out well for the people raising the grievance but I cannot go on like this for much longer.

Dear ADs, give me the strength to see it through.

for you @RobinHobb

MALAKAS!

That witchfinder general reminds me of Sorry I’ve got no head, the cbbc children’s comedy show. It was so funny. The scary bit when they just picked on someone and shouted witch witch, now they could shout Covid Covid. Our house is now depressed.
I am going to carry on, I am obeying the rules( not the made up ones).
Re baby injections have all the other diseases disappeared? Polio is a horrible disease.

@TheYellowOfTheEgg

This new rule is a bummer, but I'd rather that restriction than having the children not being at school.

I do agree with this. Ds2 has been so happy to be back.

DS1 has been quite content at nit having Ds2 here all day! I'm less pleased that he has bombed out of education and we have had to buy him a prescription prepayment sticky foot but hey ho!

@justasking111

I think we need to just carry on quietly as we have been after all we are not attending parties, nor raves, we do the masks, social distancing, hand washing, sanitiser, remind our loved ones to do the same. What else is there to say really.

Oh and stay off the dementor threads they are having a field day tonight with the news.

My social life since 20th March: April: "treated" DS2 to "cinema night" in our bed with the panic bought TV to celebrate his 7th birthday May: socially distanced walk with one friend. Went to a funeral (standing by the drive with the other Scouting leaders) VE day gathering on the green June: ended up sobbing on friend's sofa because I felt desperately lonely. Pissing too hard with rain to sit out. Saw Grandma-mum, practically invited myself round because I was going to DF's grave. July: saw friend for walk, his 2m was more like 10m Met in friend's garden for sensibly spaced social End of term meet up for DS2's class End of term drink in beer garden after fitness class Aug: DS1's friend came round. Went to outdoor venue with BiL and family Met up with mother twice while on holiday DS1 went to friend's house Al fresco planning meeting for Guiding Sept: school runs start.

That's it. That is the complete list of my social interractions in 25 weeks excluding only occasions where I encountered aquaintences when out which largely petered out after May.
25 weeks
15 human interactions beyond my household. I'm supposed to be in the prime of life FFS.

I've jumped through the hoops, even to the point of panic attacks/ hyperventilating doing the week's shop (Now have a visor which is better)
They had better not rob me of the organised activities all over again.

Getting the irony of the "organised team sports" since one our biggest cloysters in the NE is a football match crowd.

Bog roll, you gadabout!

Saw my psrents and sis in July. That was it. We had an illegally large number of people in one house but fuck it.

Ugh, I bet they've done this now, before the students go back.

It might stop massive pub crawls but what's to stop 2 groups of 6 "accidentally" bumping into each other in the pub & shouting across to each other?

The police have the resources to drive round the neighbourhood looking for lots of cars parked outside a house, do they?

I'm not advocating people spread the virus, but those who are determined to carry on with socialising in big groups, will.

Those of us who get our kicks from things like knit & knatter classes, choirs & coffee mornings don't matter.

@MxEWeatherwax
Loved Sorry I've Got No Head & we still shout, "Witch!" in our house if anyone does something the others can't do!

@TheOrchidKiller

Ugh, I bet they've done this now, before the students go back.

It might stop massive pub crawls but what's to stop 2 groups of 6 "accidentally" bumping into each other in the pub & shouting across to each other?

The police have the resources to drive round the neighbourhood looking for lots of cars parked outside a house, do they?

I'm not advocating people spread the virus, but those who are determined to carry on with socialising in big groups, will.

Those of us who get our kicks from things like knit & knatter classes, choirs & coffee mornings don't matter.

Exactly. The virus survived from March to June with the majority doing a pretty decent job of abiding by the law.

If you were the type risking being busted holding a BBQ for 25 in April, you wouldn't suddenly conform now. And now the rest of us are exhausted with it.

And what's the deal with 6? Are you supposed to leave kids home alone? Pick a favourite? What a stupid number. Why not just two households.

The masks have clearly been a unaminous sucess too Plus they seem to have been the cue to drop standards in the shops.

I should switch off as I need to be up in the morning. I may have taken devongestant too late this morning (10 am) it normally makes me buzz at night even without a massive dose of righteous indignation!

@PickAChew
Malakas indeed!

I'm absolutely dreading today. I've barely slept. I've an office day today but then, so has he (for half a day).

The crap I have had to deal with him has been bad enough but I always just let it go, but after yesterday I just can't. Not to mention once he realises what he did yesterday (and he will), it'll be a nightmare.

Good luck today, LivinLaVidaLoki.

I just had a realisation about all this rot. If an MNer posted about her DH doing something nice and then something punishing in a frequent pattern, we'd tell her he was abusive and to LTB, wouldn't we?

This feels the same except on a larger scale.

@RobinHobb, have your birthday party. It can be a small rebellion against those who keep fucking mothers and children over.

Just seen the new rule of 6 rule but that it doesn't apply to weddings or formal events so what is different apart from they are apparently cracking down on informal gatherings?

In theory it doesn't affect me, I don't gather with more than 6 people on a regular basis but it just feels like a slippery slope. First they ban the small gatherings, then they shut the pubs, the gyms, ban people from mixing at all. This is what scares me, how long are we expected to keep putting our lives on hold?

@ISaySteadyOn I've been feeling like it's an abusive relationship for months. (With the government, to be clear, DH is lovely!)

I just want my life back, where I could do normal stuff like go to church, have friends over. Oh, and being able to see a dentist would be nice.

Did you know that the first version of the smallpox vaccine had a mortality rate of 2%? And was still a life-saving medical breakthrough? We have got to come to terms with mortality at some point, surely. Historically, we're still basically less likely to die of an infectious disease than we've ever been.

Woken up and just think screw it all, whatd the point of all of this! Waiting to hear about whether my husband will be made redundant which was supposed to be yesterday but not now until next week so it's about week 13eince they announced redudancies of being in limbo. We bought a house last year and already had to take a mortgage holiday, now he's talking about uprooting from the south west to move to his parents in yorkshire if he loses his job so that they can help us and provide childcare whilst we both work. I hate that this has put us in this position, there would have been no redundancies in airlines if not for covid.
I planned so much whilst I was pregnant, that once dd1 was back to nursery I could take dd2 to all the baby groups and catch up with some mums who were sleep deprived and just wanted some socialisation.
I'm getting close to just driving away one day forever because I can't see any future now. All the people who run baby groups round here are too scared to start them up again and now with the new rules I'm not sure they'd be allowed.
I just feel like this is some perpetual Orwellian hell that we can never escape from because they will never admit they were wrong to continue overreacting.

I feel cheated, dh and dd1s lives have gone back to normal, working and nursery but I'm still stuck at home unless I want to mask up which fills me with terror and seeing all the masked faces just gives me panic attacks in shops!
I'm so sorry but I feel so alone at the moment, none of my friends will meet up and I'm just so overwhelmed trying to plan our weeks so long in advance meanwhile pretending I'm fine and staying happy in front of the kids when I just want to scream!

I suspect that is why we (as in society) find it so hard. We have been lucky enough not to have to deal with death as a fact of life as much as others have historically. As a result, we think of death as a sort of failure. Because of this, we have rejected many of the social rituals around death which may have helped us to come to terms with it in earlier times.

@Vintagelovingmum, . You're not in London, are you?

Just when you think life is almost on the route back to normality along comes another sideswipe to knock us off course ...

I’d been listening to Front Row on Radio 4 last night about the plans for theatres and live performances to be back by Christmas and was feeling almost optimistic. I love going to the theatre (it’s the main thing that keeps me in London) and various family members are musicians.

My BIL is in his late 50s - he’s had no work now since March and he doesn’t think his career will ever get going again. He’s effectively been retired years before he planned to and his mental health has plummeted (not helped by being ill for months with something that doctors kept telling him was long Covid - turns out that it’s an autoimmune disease which is easily treated with steroids and if anyone had actually bothered to run some proper tests would have been picked up months ago but ho hum...)

I had one of the best days ever yesterday and then that announcement. I've gone back into hypervigilent state.

I'm scrolling around the internet in disbelief looking for the ordinary people who surely by now should be going enough is enough.

Told DP that parkrun is coming back. Two mins later he said - no it's not - gatherings of more than 6 are being banned. I really hope he's wrong and it will go ahead.?

So sorry to read that so many of us are struggling with this latest round of Roolz - I was so lucky during the initial lockdown. I was able to go into the office every day, was able to cycle after work so didn't miss the gym too much (and recorded some spectacularly fast times as I was so stressed!), didn't see my OH for 5 weeks but had my kids all home so that kind of made up for it.. Wasn't much of a pub/restaurant/club type person anyway so didn't really miss that but what I am HATING is the lack of spontaneity in life now.

At the weekend OH and I went to the Malverns - on Sunday we went for a walk and found a lovely village with some beautiful little shops and cafes. In normal times (I mean proper normal not this current crap ) I would have bought a few things from different shops, and we would have had coffee and cake at a cafe. But we had forgotten our muzzles so couldn't go inside anywhere. Little village shops done out of some profit and it put a real damper on our walk. Same with going out for a meal - now it has to be planned and regimented and booked and recorded. And the waste is horrendous - when they bring the sachets of salt/vinegar/ketchup/mayo to the table (no little pots filled from a big tub as they are Covid germ points) they have to THROW AWAY unused ones as they may have been touched by people! Its utterly ridiculous and very very sad.

@ISaySteadyOn thank you, I'm in somerset unfortunately.
Sort of regret having children because that's the only reason at the moment I can see for not just calling it a day on life

I've just thought - I think my dd's rainbows unit will have to close again. They've had one meeting back. Unless there's a more detailed list of exemptions than the one on the news, it's not going to be allowed. But if it was a rugby club it would be? What the fuck. I'm going to cry if I have to take that away from her again.

@Taswama Aargh - that would be a real shame. Also, what about exercise and other classes? Just got back into our pilates studio yesterday, where classes are limited to 8 - does that mean they have to limit it to 6 and will it then be economic?? It also presumably means our book group will have to go back onto zoom, after an enjoyable interlude in gardens and parks, as there are 9 in total and we can never be sure how many are going to turn up. Arse.

I'm feeling really down this morning. Will this affect all the extracurricular activities that have only just restarted? Will dance schools be able to carry on? My dds only started back this week. I don't want this taken away from them again.

Mine were supposed to start their drama again this week.

I am both and . I don't know what to do and I feel sick with fear as to how we will be hurt next. I use that word deliberately. This is not about health at all now. Only control and cruelty.