ADs skipping to school - and that's only the parents

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@justasking111

Off to England today Cheshire Oaks. I have a cold so will probably make a few folk nervous. But it's my birthday so I'll sneeze if I want to hee hee

I hope you have a great day despite sneezes.

Happy Bitrthday @justasking111

Happy to @justasking111

I’m feeling sorry for myself (and a bit indignant) as I have a cold - I’ve been working from home, not been on public transport, mostly only been out of the house for dog walks and to the stables so lots of time in fresh air and yet I’m still sniffling.. it’s not a bad cold as my still-functioning immune system is obviously doing a sterling job but still .. harrumph

I’m getting increasingly worried about DD’s exams - she’s supposed to be doing A-levels in the summer but if schools keep sending year groups home I can’t see how the exams can be run fairly. DD’s anxiety is already through the roof and she’s only been back one day ...

Happy birthday justasking111

Haven't posted for a bit as feeling really fed up at the moment. It's as if life is just dull. No spontaneity at all. Can't plan a holiday abroad as DH cannot quarantine. Blah!

Can't even comfort eat as I still need to lose a few lockdown pounds.

DD1 is Y11 - one subject I was really worried about no work for 6 months apparently Exam body had already decide to remove an entire section - and that's the section happily they'd have been doing during lockd down - so that's worked well.

Here in Wales they were looking at each GCSE and I think A-levels to see how each subject could be adjusted to take account of already lost time.

But it is a worry that more time at individual schools could easily be lost - I'm really hoping Y11 isn't affected by Track and Trace and needing whole year off as on-line learnig wasn't a great experience at this school.

Happy birthday @justasking111!! Very excited today as its the first non-zoom pilates class since March. They're hedging their bets by zooming classes at the same time, meaning that those who don't want to come out can still take part, and also meaning that if any of us get coughs, sniffles etc we can stay safely at home. Lots more faff around bringing one's own equipment and so on, but it'll be lovely to be back. Otherwise, what I'd describe as social/community activities in my town (in an area of low cases) seems to consist of people trying to do outdoor events/meetings before the weather closes in - so a meeting in a park later today, a book group in a garden in a couple of days time. I'm vaguely looking for an evening class or similar which will actually commit to taking place indoors throughout the winter, just so I can actually get out of the house over the winter, as I suspect a lot of activity is going to be back on bastard zoom again in a few weeks..

I've got the house to myself until 3pm!!!!!

Do I a) sit and do fuck all with no disteactions or
b) sort my life outl

I know what I should do

DS1 has had his first awkward morning. He got in a tizz because he wanted the letter about a particular extra curricular activity and was given the wrong one.
He didn't like my solution of asking the teacher to swap the letters.
The wrong letter is now screwed up in the playground bin. 🙄

Had a good chat with his mate about Minecraft while waiting to go in. I know the class well after helping them with swimming for a year, and there's some great characters in there. Just as well as DS1 is just another quirky personality and slots in with the class dynamic.

@LadyOfTheImprovisedBath

From that BBC link:

Much has been made of the fact these are the groups going out socialising, although it is also noticeable that the highest rates are spread across much of the working age population - many of whom will have to leave their home to make a living.

Though I agree with Blobby10 point as well - I met, like quite a few friends DH at university, but we weren't living togther till late 20s mainly as we were in different cities due to jobs./carrers. So they are an age group less likely to be settled.

My IL retired are actually doing more soliaising than us - they were also slower to stop and quicker to start back up but then I've noticed quiet a few people saying older family members- like my own parents- who stopped everything have aged very badly physically and mentally.

This is why I can’t and won’t do any more lockdown. It’s the first time ever I’ve felt really old and depressed. I’m slowly getting back to normal and am scared at the ongoing prospect of stringent measures.

I'm tired of the constant threat of lockdown, it's putting me on edge all the time. I've just started to get my life back and start planning fun things to do, I can't have it all taken away from me again.

Everyone I speak to is convinced we will be locked down again soon and nobody else seems to care. They're all like oh well what can we do, I'm screaming no I can't and won't do it. They can not force me to sit in my house for another however many weeks, it's completely not healthy and will probably end up with me having some form of breakdown because I've lost the plot.

I'm 33, my kids are young, we need to be out there making the best of life, not hiding away because some people will die.

@mightbealittlebitmad

I'm tired of the constant threat of lockdown, it's putting me on edge all the time. I've just started to get my life back and start planning fun things to do, I can't have it all taken away from me again.

Everyone I speak to is convinced we will be locked down again soon and nobody else seems to care. They're all like oh well what can we do, I'm screaming no I can't and won't do it. They can not force me to sit in my house for another however many weeks, it's completely not healthy and will probably end up with me having some form of breakdown because I've lost the plot.

I'm 33, my kids are young, we need to be out there making the best of life, not hiding away because some people will die.

Exactly.

I am trying to think how I would cope if that happened. For example it might be people not in your house. But I don't often have people round anyway as it is quite messy! So that doesn't bother me as much.

I'm Ok to meet them in a cafe or the park, maybe swimming would continue. Just trying to keep some hope really

My main thing is the schools as have one in the GCSE year so really willing that to stay open. I agree, it is stressful.

I’ve moved to an area where I know very few people and was just starting to make friends round here. I also don’t live with DP and don’t get paid when I don’t work and it’s all been very traumatic. I’ve just started socialising with friends in our houses, and going for meals and generally picking myself up. Couldn’t face it again.

@mightbealittlebitmad

I'm tired of the constant threat of lockdown, it's putting me on edge all the time. I've just started to get my life back and start planning fun things to do, I can't have it all taken away from me again.

Everyone I speak to is convinced we will be locked down again soon and nobody else seems to care. They're all like oh well what can we do, I'm screaming no I can't and won't do it. They can not force me to sit in my house for another however many weeks, it's completely not healthy and will probably end up with me having some form of breakdown because I've lost the plot.

I'm 33, my kids are young, we need to be out there making the best of life, not hiding away because some people will die.

Agree with every word. Well said!

@mightbealittlebitmad

I'm tired of the constant threat of lockdown, it's putting me on edge all the time. I've just started to get my life back and start planning fun things to do, I can't have it all taken away from me again.

Everyone I speak to is convinced we will be locked down again soon and nobody else seems to care. They're all like oh well what can we do, I'm screaming no I can't and won't do it. They can not force me to sit in my house for another however many weeks, it's completely not healthy and will probably end up with me having some form of breakdown because I've lost the plot.

I'm 33, my kids are young, we need to be out there making the best of life, not hiding away because some people will die.

I'm with you.

justasking111
Happy Birthday 🎂🥂 (you disease vector you😉)
Have a great day out.

Been out in town and have had 2 completely opposite experiences re SD!

Went into cafe for coffee and pastry and my usual read. Sat at back at 2 person table. Long bench with 3 x 2 person tables. A bloke at the other end on his laptop.

Man behind me in queue mentioned he was waiting to meet someone, he sat at a 4 person table with loads of room around it. Wee woman turns up, tells him to come sit at table next to me. Grrr. She started talking loudly to him and then man at end. Next thing her gd arrived and pulls up a chair. Cue loud conversations with her.Then 2 others arrive and all squash in around a fecking tiny table. New woman practically sitting on my bag squashing me into corner! I would be pissed off at the best of times but her smiling as she wriggled and squeezed herself in to me nearly sitting on me gave me the pip so i left and sat outside to finish my coffee in the last bench on the street not taken. (We are all dooned from the infected benches i suppose) Seriously wtf is wrong with people? 5 people basically boxing in 2 other people when there were plenty big tables free.
Then I went into a charity shop. Big long shop, loads of room and back door wide open so nice and airy. One 6' muscley bloke started ranting that "no one is distancing I am leaving" and off he stomped! About 8 people spread out in the whole shop all wearing masks!! Wtf did he want? The place to himself?

This reminds me yet again how utterly oblivious to anyone but themselves some people are.

Off to risk life and limb and face the "hoards" at Aldi 😄😄

My granny, through the fog of dementia, has probably only one real pleasure in life left, which is to see her family. Thankfully the home she's in have been as pro-active as possible and we can now see her.

Would I rather not see her again so she can live maybe a couple more miserable years, or would I rather see her, know she has something in life she enjoys, and take the risk that she might - only might, mark you - die a year or so early from covid? Yeah, the second one. Hancock can call me a granny-killer if he wants. As long as he doesn't mind me calling him a granny-torturer. Old people have a right to a family life too.

If I get old I am going to do one of those Advance decisions for health and wave that at them and ignore the rules.

Yes, @Pixel77 me too

@Pixel77

If I get old I am going to do one of those Advance decisions for health and wave that at them and ignore the rules.

You can do it online There are two parts to it, medical and social, and they ask that you update it every 2 years. You can say in it that you want all possible treatment, no treatment or specify which conditions you want treatment and which not. EG DNAR in event of severe stroke but do if I have a cardiac arrest as a result of xxx. It's pretty detailed and you can put as much detail in as you like.

I think it is worth doing whilst you are fit and healthy and then updating, there is less chance then of it being overridden if your wishes have remained pretty consistent. I have stated that I don't want any life preserving treatment should I have dementia to the extent that I am not capable of making that decision at the time. I am hoping that the fact I stated that and updated it regularly it will override the 'she might make a different choice now'

compassionindying.org.uk/making-decisions-and-planning-your-care/planning-ahead/advance-decision-living-will/

I’ve also made a welfare power of attorney just in case and discussed my wishes with my partner. Rather sadly dead than sadly being kept alive.

The 'don't kill granny' message makes be so cross .

First isn't it sexist and wrong when it's males more at risk?

And sending that message out is awful. Yeah don't kill granny but let her fester on her own and if she dies of something uncovid related in that time I am sure no one will feel guilty about never seeing her again.

And we shouldn't be setting people up to feel blame either about passing on viruses. It's an awful message to be pushing.

@WouldBeGood

I’ve also made a welfare power of attorney just in case and discussed my wishes with my partner. Rather sadly dead than sadly being kept alive.

Absolutely. I updated my compassion in dying one last year but have just updated it to include my wishes in the event of being critical with Covid.

"Don't kill granny".

Another stupid slogan. Why can't Saint Boris and his merry men communicate in a decent, normal and honest way? Why does it have to be this rubbish like "new normal", "hands face space", "squeeeeeeeeeze the brakes", "eat out to help out", etc?

They've now realised that their figures aren't letting them push "people are dying" any more, so they have to come up with this.

All this fucking fearmongering.

And @mightbealittlebitmad people say "oh well what can we do":
This is precisely what Saint Boris's spin machine has BRAINWASHED the public into thinking. He has squeeeeeeeeeeeezed resistance out of us. As far as I am concerned, back in March we should have been rioting about the government destroying our futures for a questionable danger; but the fearmongering worked well enough to prevent that.

Future governments are going to take note of how easily the public was manipulated by the spin machine. Oliver Cromwell is screaming from his grave for resurrection.

It really does not bode well for the future. I am much more terrified of this than of some fabled virus.

I've had a surprisingly productive day and did some useful housework rather than killing the battery on my phone all day

I took advantage of DH's absence to move some of the crap that he moved out of the defunct en-suite (original feature) and dumped it back in there. He was hoping to do some snagging DIY jobs, but clearly after 6m at home, it's not happening and DS2 needs access to his bookshelves back.

I've also charged up the parkrun gear now it looks like it needs using in the forseeable future

I have actually managed to keep on top of beds and laundry. Plus DH and I had lunch and gamed together. I feel like I can start making things nicer again which will be better for everyone.