ADs skipping to school - and that's only the parents

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School drop off seems to be becoming more relaxed - the earliest crowd were going in already when I got there with DD2 this morning and then DD1's class were allowed in as soon as the previously staggered class had gone in - we seem to have realised that letting them drip in over the course of 10 minutes or so naturally spaces the parents out more than these strict timeslot windows were doing on a narrow pavement. The newsletter said they were reviewing the staggered start times with a view to condensing the time windows down to 5 minute gaps next week so we shall see - at least the school are trying to be as flexible as they can be.

I suspect ours will go that way. They're trying to clamp down on people being too early for child 1, and open the doors earlier with less queuing time and let the stragglers drift in rather than waiting until time. DS1 was let in at 9:06 rather than 9;10 so that's less socialising time for me

Schools seem to be a bit random at the moment. DDs school veers between AD and D depending on which staff member I speak to.

Had a lovely weekend- sea swimming, thank you to those who gave advice.

Everyone in mostly successfully. A few tears but done. So why do I feel like crying now? And equally I feel restless and antsy. What is going on?

Mine are way past school age but my 40+ year old son has been 'working from home' in my spare bedroom since lockdown began as he didn't have decent internet at home.
They finally got round to getting fibre broadband last week and he has now moved home, home so this is my first Monday alone too.
Nothing like little ones going to school but I still feel a bit bereft, even though I only ever saw him for an hour or so at lunch time (and not even that in the early days).

Ds2's escort asked me if he would wear a mask. I spared her the reminder that he won't even wear a raincoat in the rain or a hat in the snow, even though Pablo does and he has been known to tell me at length about it!

Unexpected but good to see.

Definitely. So much more common sense around and there has been a noticeable change in the responses. But also, the number of posters still writing so much utter shite on this website is really depressing. Mostly about mental health - I mean, it's 2020. Surely, surely we understand these issues better as a society. Except, no, apparently we don't and some people are writing the most awful offensive ignorant stuff. I have given myself a massive talking to today. STAY AWAY FROM OTHER THREADS. I keep slipping up with that but I'm going to try harder. It's no good arguing with people in all honesty.

Anyway, just checking in. Grateful for this thread and all of you and I suspect that feeling will only strengthen over the next few months. I hope you all have a good day. There were lovely cobwebs in the garden this morning.

DS has a settling in session at school on weds. Hour and a half. Parents are to stay.

Not allowed on school grounds at all though when he starts. Guess i wont be an infection risk until the 14th. Bloody stupid.

My first day working from home without kids since March. DP still here though.
Feels very quiet.

I'm just feeling really worn down and hopeless at the moment - having the news on isn't helping to be fair even if it IS just background noise.

Oh goody, another load of bad news today. Also some people are absolutely clueless about risk levels, I saw someone commenting on a news article that the fatality rate is 4%! No wonder they are all shit-scared and shrieking, but where are they getting these ideas from?

@MaxNormal

Oh goody, another load of bad news today. Also some people are absolutely clueless about risk levels, I saw someone commenting on a news article that the fatality rate is 4%! No wonder they are all shit-scared and shrieking, but where are they getting these ideas from?

If you take into account the fact that only people who were hospitalised were tested in the early days, there appeared to be a very high death rate because you had to be half dead in many cases before you were hospitalised and then tested.

At the start on the pandemic we had a, brief, 35% fatality rate in France
It was 14% in the UK at the start
It now sits at 5% in the UK – over the whole pandemic
In August, in the UK, it was down to 0.9%
It is currently 0.47% in Germany
It is currently 0.4% in France
It is currently 0.33% in Sweden

drmalcolmkendrick.org/author/drmalcolmkendrick/

So that's were it came from and is technically correct (or even higher) BUT it isn't the current risk.

@DominaShantotto
Oh please. Kill the news.
It does you no good at all.
We put the tv on for selected programmes. Afternoon quizzes if in.
Loving the new all creatures great and small, it’s a real joy to watch
Tuesday 9 pm Channel 5 If you haven’t seen it yet.

We are based in the area so do have a vested interest.

Ignoring the other threads. Feeling a bit strange today.

DS on way out today said, oh no there will be hundreds in the canteen for lunch. Dh was like 'So what, it doesn't matter" (in a bit of a rush) and made me think, he is quite sensitive and had mentioned before about wearing a mask 'just a minor inconvenience to me, I don't mind'

Maybe he is more concerned about things than I had realised. Might try and speak to him later. I have been pretty careful at not talking about it much or worrying them, but he's 15 and will know his dad is higher risk.

I really don't like this guilting of the young people going around. 'don't kill your granny' today from Matt Hanjob, I see.

A mostly lurker, occasional poster here. Just feeling really down today and need to offload.

DS started in Y7 on Friday and it went well, but we've hit a glitch on day 2... the plan was that he'd walk to the bus stop with his friend (that's what happened on Friday, they were nervous but it was fine), but then yesterday his friend's extremely dementory mum announced that they've decided to walk instead because she's not happy about crowding on the (school) bus. FFS it's an hour's walk up a steep hill, and the bus isn't even full!

I get that she's anxious, and of course it's her decision, but she's so blinkered right now that she hasn't even acknowledged that this impacts on us. Mostly DS, but also me as I'm now back to doing the frigging school (bus stop) run because he's not confident doing the 15 min walk on his own yet. Thankfully there were a few other Y7s there this morning that he knows from his learning group, and it turns out they live really near us, so I'm hoping he can walk with them.

Sorry, I know this is not a big deal, in the scheme of things, and it will be fine. But my DS's confidence has taken a bit of a bashing at a really crucial time, all because of this mum who is absolutely obsessed with imagining the worst case scenario. We are friends and I've tried to be patient with her views when we've seen each other over the last few months, but this is kind of the last straw for me.

I've a year 7 too and understand, hopefully he can go with the others after a day or two. Mine is walking home through town and partly himself, he rang me on the mobile part way home last week. It's a change for them, and they don't need the other stuff as well to worry them. It's quite strange them being so grown up; I gave mine keys to get it. Hope things settle as they get used to it

All of DS friends he is 19 are not out and about spreading covid like a plague. They have been so careful and are still very careful DS has had two meals out with friends outdoors in pub gardens. Has been to two events with friends again they all stayed outdoors in a group of 6.

He goes back to uni on Saturday in Leeds an area teetering on lockdown I trust him and his girlfriend to be careful.

To blame a particular age group is just annoying.

Oh, @HereComesYourMam that’s rubbish. As a low quality mother I’d go for bribery and bribe your ds to walk himself.. 😳 It’s a horrible time for them.

Neighbours 70`s have a relative coming to stay, well I say stay she is visiting all her old mates in Wales in a campervan. She insists that she will sleep, pee and poop in her van. So everyone is parking their cars in the road so she can use their drives.

@Dowser I was scared to watch as I loved the original series and books as a child. Should I risk the new one?!

@HereComesYourMam You can only hope that either mam gets fed up or her DS knocks some sense into her by refusing to accede to her idiotic rules.

My children are in school! Our headmaster has sent round an email to tell everyone how happy he is that the children are back. I’ve bought some new bras! And had lunch with my husband! Oh happy day!

Thanks everyone! Bribery is a good call and will certainly be employed if it doesn't work out with walking to the stop with these other kids (it's my go-to parenting tactic). His original walking buddy may well get fed up with walking the whole way, but has turned out to be surprisingly biddable. Apparently he's about the only kid in their group who is wearing a mask in lessons. His mum has got him good and scared alright

Just to add (in case we seem really lame) that we would have practised the walk more in the hols if we'd known it would be done alone! The plan all along - for years really - was always that they would go together. Also it's in a direction we don't go so often.

@HereComesYourMam it doesn’t sound lame at all. My ds is twelve and tries not to be seen with me 😂 But he’s been nervous about the new things. I’m also glad I’m not the only shameless briber on the block!