How would you feel if you’d made a friend so uncomfortable they left your house?

[PartyRingRingParty]

Just that really.

The comment you made was harmless and just implying you will miss her. She over reacted, as did you with the other post on here calling everyone freaks.

This reminds me of a situation a while ago at work. A lovely lady had joined the office, very polite and friendly. Another lady in accounts who was slightly sensitive about her weight (although not really that big) took offence to a very harmless comment that resulted in the new lady losing her job. We had one of those charity sweetie boxes and the guy came in and gave the 2 of them a packet of nearly out of date sweets to share, she ate them all so replaced them with another packet in the friends draw with a note, saying, for being a pig (meaning she had scoffed the first bag of sweets and calling herself a pig) but the other lady decided she had been called a pig and refused to accept the new ladys apology, it was a real shame as this lady was such a kind person and it really wasnt in character for her to be mean.

Honestly, OP, do you often read the room wrong?

And the whole bowl subplot is like that episode of Derry Girls where the loan of a Big Bowl is an obsessive point of contention between the older women...

Oh. I was just about to say that YANBU and your friend was being weird ... then I saw your last post and ... um ... right ... I'm not ... um ...

Haha, actually I think the Op has a good point, why are there always a dozen people ready to jump in with some massive projection that doesn’t bear any resemblance to the situation.

Blimey, OP. Chill, fam.

...so I’m guessing the mystery of your colleague’s overreaction has been solved? A fairly harmless comment, but from someone who attacks and swears at people, might be taken in a less than friendly way?

The OP is obviously really upset. OP you said nothing wrong to your friend, her reaction was very strange.

I don't get this thread but I'm joining cos it's humouring me 🤪

@Fruitsaladjelly

Haha, actually I think the Op has a good point, why are there always a dozen people ready to jump in with some massive projection that doesn’t bear any resemblance to the situation.

Because this is Mumsnet 🙄. The first two posts always dictate the ones that follow.

I still don't know who fecking left.

@YoBeaches

I don't get this thread but I'm joining cos it's humouring me 🤪

Do you know what humouring means?

@JamieLeeCurtains

I still don't know who fecking left.

@Yogatomorrow

I get the op. I have seen it loads on here. Someone is clearly upset and posts. The first few replies are nearly always a dig at the op. Usually taking a minor part, or even a word, and making insinuations about the op bringing on themselves. People aren't perfect and upset people don't always phrase themselves well. But there is "get a grip" and a "you are the problem" mentality on here. Often displayed with glee by the first posters.

I often think of a reverse being written and the posts that they would attract. In this case: I had a small gathering. A work colleague made an offhand comment. I was so upset I left her in the kitchen (?) and ignored her, froze her out while talking to another friend, then snapped at her when she gave me a present. She then left early. AIBU to treat her like that?

I agree entirely. As someone else has said - I'm staggered more people don't snap in the face of the two or three bloody stupid comments that seem to come in the first half dozen after the OP.

Come on people..,, what did she say????!?

I can only see one post from OP so no idea about any other related issues. Based on the one post I can see, friend sounds as though she over reacted.

@tryingharder92 sorry I'm
At home on morphine awaiting an op, no idea what I'm doing or what day it is but finding everything funny. Is that humour? I am humoured. I am humouring myself. Wait no that's a different thread entirely 🤣🤣

Agree with @FOKKYFC and @Yogatomorrow. I said similar to a friend when she got a new job. We still work in the same office but it's true, we don't see each other hardly at all now!

Her reaction is bizarre, as is the first few comments.

Your friend was being awful. What you said is exactly the sort of jokey “I’m going to really miss you” comment that people often make. The first lot of posters are off their trolleys, as is, unfortunately, often the case on here at the moment. It’s......peculiar.

@Vodkacranberryplease

Come on people..,, what did she say????!?

Typically the interesting post always get sodding reported.

Well, it's difficult to comment given that half the posts are deleted, but on the face of it, YANBU. However, I suspect you have form for BU

When I left a former workplace for a new job many years ago, one of my colleagues wrote in my leaving card "Hope you continue to be as useful as a chocolate teapot."

@Vodkacranberryplease

Come on people..,, what did she say????!?

We can't very well quote the deleted post. That would be naughty. Maybe we could act it out with puppets. Very very rude and insulting puppets.

Just waiting for the deletion message....

She obviously didn't like your comment even thought you say it was done lightheartedly but as she took it differently to the way you meant it I think you should try to apologise and explain you meant no harm then you'll have to leave it to her to accept it or reject it.

I did see the original post in another person’s quote and she was just calling everyone names as she was upset.