How would you feel if you’d made a friend so uncomfortable they left your house?

[PartyRingRingParty]

Just that really.

I think I have worked out the back story for myself now.

There has to be a back story.

No her behaviour was odd and rude.

@PartyRingRingParty

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I'm honestly surprised more posters don't say similar.

Are you generally quite demanding of her time/attention?

This is a pretty weird thing to say. Do you generally leap to conclusions?

This is weird. That said, I don’t understand the first few replies at all. I can totally imagine saying jokingly that I’d never see someone again if they moved jobs. It’s just a lighthearted thing to say while you’re absorbing the news. Why anyone would say you were being weird or that you should apologise is beyond me.

Hm, that explains it then!

Well I think we've figured out who the problem is

She's a dick OP @PartyRingRingParty better off without that I can tell you now

Op what your friend did was wrong. I sent my good friend and ex colleague a card that said "good luck Sarah you're dead to me now" when she changed jobs. It's just a bit of a joke about them leaving you isn't it? She behaved really rudely considering you were in her home, all over a silly throwaway comment.

I came here to agree with you and say that the first few replies here were typically pathetic.

But you've hardly covered yourself in glory either...

Intriguing

Oooops! That will teach me to read the thread

I didn’t think there was anything wrong with what you said, clearly a lighthearted joke, and your friend over reacted and was really awkward/rude/weird about it...
but your next comment was uncalled for, rude and over the top.

Or tell her to fuck the fuck off 🤷

No wonder I left this forum.

And yet here you are. I was prepared to say friend overreacted but going on your second comment, YABU.

I said something similar to a colleague a few weeks ago, she has stayed in touch.

I certainly didn’t mean anything mean spirited, we used to go out to lunch weekly, but due to location we’d no longer be able to.

You kinda went from hero to zero for me with that reply to a pp though.

There’s a description round here for a person who reacts like that.

Nippy sweetie.

😬

You didn't say anything that bad OP.

Guessing the OP is just on a short fuse and a bit emotional. I doubt she is like that with her friends, just snapped a snarky post to her.

Shrug.

@wildcherries

No wonder I left this forum.

And yet here you are. I was prepared to say friend overreacted but going on your second comment, YABU.

Must have caught her knicker elastic on the door handle, on the way out. Got bounced back into Mumsnet and accidentally left a comment.

I think your language on here will just make people think she has a point.

I don't think your comment was bad OP.
It was clearly meant as a joke.
She was rude and childish to hide away in the kitchen with the door closed and you were obviously hurt by that and came here for support.
Sorry that you didn't get it but blimey I wouldn't like to cross you.

Sorry, who left the house? You? The other friend? WHO???

I get the op. I have seen it loads on here. Someone is clearly upset and posts. The first few replies are nearly always a dig at the op. Usually taking a minor part, or even a word, and making insinuations about the op bringing on themselves. People aren't perfect and upset people don't always phrase themselves well. But there is "get a grip" and a "you are the problem" mentality on here. Often displayed with glee by the first posters.

I often think of a reverse being written and the posts that they would attract. In this case: I had a small gathering. A work colleague made an offhand comment. I was so upset I left her in the kitchen (?) and ignored her, froze her out while talking to another friend, then snapped at her when she gave me a present. She then left early. AIBU to treat her like that?

I think you're better off without your Dick of a mate, she's a snowflake with absolutely no sense of humour. Thank goodness she's got another job.. BONUS

@TorkTorkBam

I think I have worked out the back story for myself now.

Oh yes. Absolutely.

Blimey.