Our forever home is a flat. Will my DC be judged?

[dayknight19]

I wasn’t raised in the UK but have been living here for a very long time so would like to get some perspective.
We live in a posh part of North London in a 3 bed flat (with a garden) and have one child. Won’t be having more kids. We love our flat. It’s super central, it’s big and we don’t need more space.
All our friends and nearly the entire NCT group sold up their flats in our hood and moved out to buy a house.
Our DC will be attending a local primary (0.3 miles catchment area) and it turns out the school is entirely surrounded by houses worth £2m up and maybe a handful of flats.
Maybe I am being ridiculous but I am thinking that our child might be considered less off amongst her peers? Perhaps would my child be treated differently?
It just feels like that everyone here has to have a house when they have a child. This is not the case in Europe at least not in the big cities where I am originally from.
For the record neither we can nor we would spend £2m to buy a house in our area nor would we move out of our area.

[parrotonthesofa]

You must have very little to worry about if you are even thinking about this.

[OldBean2]

Just to say, my best friend at Secondary lived in a flat, I lived with n a council house. Her flat had 17 rooms and she was the richest girl in our class... I was probably one of the poorest. She loved our house and would often talk about the stuff she loved, like our coal fires!

Cities are full of flats or apartments, as long as it is happy inside, that and that alone is all that other children will remember.

[gurglebelly]

No-one cares, and really houses are only desired more because they are bigger and most flats don't have outside space - you have 3 beds and a garden, relax OP your children are very lucky

[doadeer]

I wonder if you're near me! We will be in same boat. A lovely flat (no garden but huge balcony) though my son is still young we will likely stay here to enter catchment for excellent primary. I hope kids don't judge a flat... Though id be surprised if you are the only ones.

[SimonJT]

The Queen lives in a flat.

If people care if you live in a house, flat, mobile home etc then they probably aren’t people to welcome into your lives. Children thinking there is something wrong with living in a flat etc probably have snobby parents.

We live in a flat in Hackney, the only way I’ll leave it is in a body bag. I only know one person in the area who lives in a house, everyone else is in a flat or maisonette.

[coaleo]

@PotteringAlong

Reverse snobbery. Never even thought about that before but makes complete sense 😮

[Clackyheels]

I don't mean to be harsh, but in a week when a woman died next to her malnourished baby, because she couldn't afford to live. Get a grip. 'Will my children be judged for living in a big flat in London'. Sometimes I think mumsnet is another world.

[JoJoSM2]

To be honest, it may be that lots of children in the very big houses go to private school.

That’s what I’d expect.

[user1471462428]

If you want to be popular with your kids friends, get snacks....., lots of snacks. Children don’t give a shit about houses just food

[MondeoFan]

I've lived in a beautiful flat and an ugly house. If it's not more space you're after it wouldn't bother me. If it bothers others that's on them not on you.

[BananaMamas]

Came across this as I'm in a similar situation and often wonder the same. I know it's an old post but if you are reading this OP, what are your thoughts after DC has been in school for a while? Did you realise you were just worrying for nothing?

[SerenityNowwwww]

We are in central London - so the majority of ds friends who lived locally lived in flats (some were flipping amazing flats mind you) with a few in houses (mostly expats/embassy families in work paid for rentals).

When he visits friends way across London who live in houses he always tells me that he’d rather live centrally in a flat than further out in a house. Of course I’d rather live centrally in a big house…😆

[BananaMamas]

@SerenityNowwwww ahahah me too! We’d be in a flat in suburban London, not the best of either world I guess but the area is lovely and would struggle to leave just to get a house further out

[dementedma]

Lived in flats all our lives and raised 3 children to adulthood in one. I would have liked a house but it wasnt to be. They did feel a bit awkward as teens when their friends had big houses with their own bedrooms,but their friends werent bothered and actually thought it was cool!
DCs went on to university etc and seem fairly normal.