Being in the presence of your spouse. All. Buggering. Day.

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I've realised that now that we both WFH, sharing the home office, I am in the same room as my DH for approximately 22 hours in every 24. I do love him and I'm amazed/impressed we've not killed each other yet, but some days I just crave an empty house, just for a day. Anyone else?

Tell me about it.

I'm currently hiding outside but he's fucking followed me

Tempted to start painting my nails so he'll leave

Yep. DH has to go into work one day next week for the first time since March. And the kids will be at school. I am so bloody excited! I'm going to be working all day, but it will be so nice to just be in the house all by myself for a whole day since what seems like forever.

Definitely not just you. DP has gone out four times since mid-March, three of them with me. I don’t say anything, but I just want him to bugger off on his own for a few hours. He wouldn’t care if we spent every waking second in the same room, so although he appreciates that I like my own space, he really doesn’t get it.

We do alright, but only because we don't work in the same room. I'm in the kitchen and DH in the bedroom. We can go all day without talking! You need space, but I know it's not always that easy.

Oh thank god I'm not just a miserable old cow to feel like this

Mine wouldn't understand either warmsausagetea and gets a bit 'kicked puppy' if I slope off to work in another room or sit in a different room of an evening. He does go out for a run most days but it normally coincides with me getting up/showered etc so i don't really get the benefit.

I've started getting very twitchy in the presence of my loved ones. Who knew listening and observing my DH eating an apple would make me want to punch myself in the head.

DP is retired so he was used to being at home. I really miss the half hour walk to work and back, and wandering around town in my lunch break, just having that head space.

I’m not working but he must be sick of the 4 of us at home all day, even though he’s taken over my study. This week he’s gone to the office twice to ‘print’ things. He’s the only one there.

Sometimes I just get in the car and do a small food shop to get away. We don’t need the food, but I can’t buy anything else so it’s that or maybe a craft for the toddler

Maybe you need to work in a different room and when he comes in greet him with 'Oh I am glad you popped in because I was hoping you might empty the bin/ put the washing out/ clean out the fridge.' That should buy you some space!

Seriously thinking of spending al the money I’ve saved not commuting On a night in a five star hotel. On my own.

Blimey I think I’d have to take another room ;

I snatched 30 minutes sitting alone in the car today, on the way back from visiting my dad. Just sat there, parked, like I used to when waiting for a child to emerge from some social activity or other. So peaceful.

It's not as if the rest of the family actually make much noise. But I hadn't realised how much I miss those short bursts of being alone and drawing breath.

I’m in hospital with the littlest it’s lovely to see some new people! (She’s on the mend now).

Oh if only my DH would go and print things herroyalnotness

Mine seems to actively enjoy being in the same room all day and I can't get him to go out.

I’m the same.
I love DH very much, but for the love of god man, I need some personal space!

We're hoping to buy soon and DP always wanted a garden big enough for an outbuilding for his hobbies. I vetoes it because I thought he'd spend all his time in it.

I've now changed all of my property searches to include a big enough garden with enough space for self contained home for him.😂

Dh is ok here but I pretty much always have a child about my person. Those odd moments where it’s quiet are rare and nice.

Yep. Could cheerfully kill him today. He's not feeling well but won't accept medicine, offers of food and is just saying he wants to be alone. But in the lounge. Won't go to bed. We have no other rooms so off upstairs I went - it was actually nice once I'd calmed down

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Blimey I think I’d have to take another room ;

Yep. The trouble is that if I just slope off elsewhere with my laptop i end up with a sore back, and my job means I really need at least one big monitor otherwise I can't really do the important stuff. If I were to shift my whole work kit (two monitors, files, whiteboard etc) permanently to another room then he would take it very personally and I'd end up feeling like shit.

Oh God, yes. DH has actually been WFH for a couple of years, but before Covid we both had various activities that took us out a few times a week (I'm retired), but now we're together practically 24/7. Yes to random shopping trips. And my DH also gets a bit offended if I go into another part of the house for no specific reason. Aaaaaaagh.

Yes whatdowehavehere I used to think he spent too much time in the bathroom, but now i wonder if I should install a TV ...

Hell yes. What with him and the dc I'm beginning to think I'm in danger of losing my mind. Of course if I try to suggest to him that I would quite like an week hour or two to myself he gets all huffy and offended.

When DH and I first got together we took 6 months off life/work and lived in a camper van. Working from home together 24/7 has brought back lots of happy memories of spending all our time together and although we have DC now it's made us realise how much we still like to spend all our time together :) But I can totally see how grating spending 24/7 together would be if it's not something you'd ever really done before. And I'm not saying he doesn't irritate the hell out of me sometimes, but all in all wfh together has been largely positive for us.

I so want the house to myself! I go into the office 2 days per week and I'm trying to persuade dh that he should at least one of the others but he's having none of it! 😤😤😤