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Just got called a cunt by a 10 year old. How's your Friday?

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EllisRoses · 28/08/2020 14:38

Group of 10-12 year olds in the play park singing along to Cardi B "bring a mop and a bucket for my wet ass pussy" on repeat, throwing rubbish everywhere and kicking balls towards my toddlers head. I told them this isn't the place and to go play elsewhere if they're going to kick balls around. They all laughed and turned the music up and continued kicking ball around and singing about pussies, before asking me what I was looking at and to fuck off. I said I'm looking at a bunch of children who despite trying to act cool and grown up, still hang out in a play park, which says it all really. The youngest of the group called me an 'old cunt'. I'm 25

How's your Friday going?

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serialreturner · 29/08/2020 02:56

@crazycatgal

“I am taking it down. I was keeping it safe so don’t lose it before I take it to the police”

DancingCatGif · 29/08/2020 03:04

Just unbelievable. We live in Asia, husband is from here. We're planning to move back to the UK next year, but one incident like this from my son and we'll be on the next flight back to Asia.

The kids here aren't angels but like fuck would they be allowed to act like this. The parents would knock their heads off.

To think that I get irritated when a group of high school boys egg each other on to yell "hello" at me because I'm the only white person around.

CloudyVanilla · 29/08/2020 03:09

This thread is making me feel sick :(

My oldest is only 5. I literally can't imagine what I'd do if she acted this way. How can they be so awful?

I grew up for a while on a council estate and the kids definitely did not speak to adults that way. What on earth is going on

HirplesWithHaggis · 29/08/2020 03:14

It must be 25 years or so since a three yo (wearing some sort of shoes, a disposable nappy and a tee shirt) threatened to kick my cunt in "you old hoor". He's probably a father now.

DancingCatGif · 29/08/2020 03:18

I wonder if the size of the town matters, I grew up in a village, just a few hundred people and if you had acted like this, your parents would have heard about it in less than an hour.

Then again, these parents don't seem to care, do they?

netsybetsy · 29/08/2020 04:53

@DPotter

I used to teach in a PRU and the young people were very forth right in their use of language. Sadly they were never challenged on it by the other teaching staff. Cunt was frequently used, so I started asking 'Do you know what cunt means?' I never once had a right answer, mostly it was 'dunno'. They seemed more embarrassed about saying 'vagina' than they did cunt. Anyway I got round it by saying they could only use a swear word once, as using the same one was very boring and lost its impact. They rarely managed more than 4 different swear words before they gave up.

itsgettingweird · 29/08/2020 07:39

@frumpety

Also if you got told off by an adult you didn't go home and tell your parents as one telling off was enough.

This!

My dd and friends dcs went to park down road (100m or so) from her house alone for first time.

Clearly tested boundaries. Were pulled up parents in the area.

Come back. Her DCs were wailing about how other told them off. Friend looks at me "shall we go up there and say something?"

"What were you doing for them to pull you up"

Dcs (all innocent)
"Nothing just blah blah blah"

Me turns to my ds who is autistic and doesn't know to lie m
"Well, we were ...... and dc said and then other dc ........"

Looks at friend. "Well that's why then"

Friend "I notice your ds didn't say he'd done anything"

Me "ds did they tell you off?"

Ds "no I was on the swing just swinging"

Friend "of course he was "

Friends DCs confirmed this but not in a good way but more to yell at him that he should have backed them up and just because he's some goody 2 shoes blah blah blah!

Safe to say 6 years on both hers have been excluded and manage moved from a number of secondary schools, arrested blah blah.

And I no longer mix with the family beyond how are you if seen out and about.

WhatamessIgotinto · 29/08/2020 08:35

Why is this happening? How can parents stop it?

In a lot of cases, not all obviously, children are learning this language and behaviour from their parents. In the last 15 years or so I've seen far more incidents in shops etc with people being rude to and shouting and swearing at staff, often with children with them. Parents who have this unbelievable sense of entitlement (which is a term I hate bit it's appropriate here) and absolutely no manners. Children are learning it because it's what they see.

I also think that (and I know people will disagree) younger children either watch or are present when parents are watching soap operas - they're usually on quite early anyway. I think that the content, subject matter, the constant yelling and increasingly dodgy language is just not suitable for children. Kids of 12 seem to think that life should be like an episode of Hollyoaks.

When 10 year olds are telling school staff ' you can't do anything anyway, my mum says you have no power' when you have asked them to sit down instead of walking around throwing other people's belongings on the floor, you know that MANY cases, parents are the problem in the first place.

FeelinFagin · 29/08/2020 08:53

There's a 9 year old round here who had alcohol in her school water bottle and took a vape to school. She also picked up a cigarette end the other day that someone walking in front of her discarded and smoked it.
She's regularly turns the air blue on the park shouting about "kicking a cunt in" etc. Her sister (11) has been caught shoplifting in the local shops, also smokes and was in lunch time detention at 10yo and when the supervising teacher went to the door to speak to someone, the girl gobbed in the teacher's soup.

Lovely children.

itsgettingweird · 29/08/2020 08:58

What a mess from my experience the issue isn't necessarily the kids behaviour. Lots of perfectly good kids will test boundaries and try out being little shits!

It's the fact that no one can tell off another's kids. That friend, auntie, birthed, teacher or shopkeeper etc.

So it validates to kids they are untouchable.

You then get kids who have been well behaved stooping to make the effort.

DancingCatGif · 29/08/2020 09:01

"It's the fact that no one can tell off another's kids. That friend, auntie, birthed, teacher or shopkeeper etc."

I think this is a big part of it. When I was young, if the teacher or neighbour or whoever yelled at us, our mums said "well what did you do to deserve it?" Nowadays, it's "how dare they?"

Tara336 · 29/08/2020 09:07

My DC has a 18 month old daughter she put a video on FB the other day of the baby in the car shouting out bitch and referring to her nan (in the car) as a bitch. DC thought it was hilarious! There were loads of comments on the post from her friends about how their young children swear and how funny and cute it is! Honestly if this is the standard of parenting f4om some people no wonder society has issues

itsgettingweird · 29/08/2020 09:11

@DancingCatGif

"It's the fact that no one can tell off another's kids. That friend, auntie, birthed, teacher or shopkeeper etc."

I think this is a big part of it. When I was young, if the teacher or neighbour or whoever yelled at us, our mums said "well what did you do to deserve it?" Nowadays, it's "how dare they?"

Yep! Read my story above. First thing I ask when ds moans so wine told him off is

" why what did you do?"

StressedOutTFF · 29/08/2020 09:14

My friends 2 year old daughter called her a fat cunt yesterday - hears her dad call her it all the time among plenty of other vile things. She seemed to think it was almost amusing, I think its incredibly sad and dread to think how her girls will grow up

SmellsLikeFeet · 29/08/2020 09:25

I don't think it's helpful to say 'why?, what did you do?' I remember my mum saying that and I knew I hadn't done anything wrong. I always ask what happened

DancingCatGif · 29/08/2020 09:38

@SmellsLikeFeet

I didn't say it was helpful, I was pointing out the difference in approach in just one generation.

SmellsLikeFeet · 29/08/2020 09:45

[quote DancingCatGif]@SmellsLikeFeet

I didn't say it was helpful, I was pointing out the difference in approach in just one generation.[/quote]
I wasn't referring to you, it was a general observation

WhatamessIgotinto · 29/08/2020 09:54

@itsgettingweird oh I know many perfectly nice children will test the boundaries. In my school it's often because of what they are they other, not so well behaved, children doing.

I agree that many parents will just not tolerate their child being told off by anyone. It's a massive shift since I was a kid.

Nsws2015 · 29/08/2020 10:12

I work in a supermarket (thankfully on maternity atm!) And I was the one who used to chase out all the mouthy little gits who would come in to cause trouble and aggravate folk. I used to do the video thing too, told them I would be contacting the local school headmaster to identify them, this was in the town next to where I live. One of them decided to be smart and say good luck with that, I go to xyz which was the school in my town that I went to and my kids are currently at 😂 the look on his face when I said oh brilliant, I'll pop in tomorrow and see mr x the headmaster and show him this video....he couldnt get away quick enough then and funnily enough they didnt bother coming back before I went off!

woodhill · 29/08/2020 11:47

@Tara336

That is 😞

EducatingArti · 29/08/2020 12:08

To balance this out. I was in a local playground yesterday with my friends' toddler. Young teen girls ( 12, 13 ish) were on all the remaining swings ( some are tied up for social distancing) including baby swings and arguing with each other ( not very politely). The moment we approached, one said " oh does she want to go on the swing " and got off. I was pleased she did that without being asked.

itsgettingweird · 29/08/2020 12:15

@SmellsLikeFeet

I don't think it's helpful to say 'why?, what did you do?' I remember my mum saying that and I knew I hadn't done anything wrong. I always ask what happened

Bully for you.

My autistic ds would just repeat the story as that's what happened.

If I want to know what he did specifically then I have to ask that specifically.

SmellsLikeFeet · 29/08/2020 13:02

@itsgettingweird why so rude ?

itsgettingweird · 29/08/2020 13:46

I could say the same! People said what they said to kids and you criticised based on your own opinion. ( and not just me!)

So I explained that's fine for you to think that way - but doesn't work for me.

SmellsLikeFeet · 29/08/2020 13:56

Eh ? I haven’t criticised anyone , I said I don’t think it’s helpful , based on my own experience

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