Can you get pregnant using a condom no ejaculation at all.

[Bubblemum94]

Hi all,

Bit of a random backstory and please no judging. Basically I have a regular sexual partner of whom I do not use protection with. Last month my dates are as followed

Lmp 7th July to 11th july

Sex unprotected, 13th, 23rd, 25th. All of which were unprotected with ejaculation.

I then had a shameful experience where I had another sexual partner on the 28th. We used a condom and basically I wasn't feeling right about the incident so I asked him to stop after a minute or two (HE DID NOT EJACULATE AT ALL)

On the 6th August I got a positive pregnancy test.

Yesterday I had a scan which dated me as 6+0 weeks gestational age

Is this possible to be this guys or my regular sexual partner. Please no judgement I'm just very confused.

Possible but highly unikely. Men do tend to dribble sperm before they come.

It’s not impossible, condoms aren’t absolutely 100% even when used correctly, but it’s far less likely to be the case then where you had the unprotected sex. But nobody can give you a definite answer.

Get your contraception sorted out. If you don’t want to be pregnant you shouldn’t be having unprotected sex with anyone - the calendar method is not a reliable form of contraception.

Oh, @Bubblemum94 that’s a bit of a nightmare, but it’s really unlikely you got pregnant from the incident you describe.

Perhaps you could contact a family planning/sexual health service for advice, anonymously if you’d prefer?

It’s going to be your regular partner. Sperm can take up to 3 days to impregnate you.

It's going to be the guy you had regular unprotected sex with. Not judging here but are you ok? You're trying to get pregnant by someone but also having sex with someone else. Unless this is a consensual non monogamy situation, in which case you should also still abstain from sex with others while TTC, this doesn't sound like a healthy situation for you.

Think it depends if you used the condom from the beginning (ie first penetration) or had a quick go and then pulled out to put the condom on part way through. If the second option he could potentially have had a bit of pre-cum - unlikely to make you pregnant but not impossible. If the first option it sounds very unlikely to be from the ONS chap and very likely to be from your regular partner. You should probably just set your mind at rest. It sounds as if you were already pregnant.

Congratulations on your pregnancy!

In regards to this,

Condom was used from the offset with the second guy no penetration happened at all before he put the condom on. The condom was on then 2 mins later I requested to stop because I essentially changed my mind. And he withdrew and I left. There was no ejaculation or sex prior to the penetration or condom being put on.

I wasn't trying to get in this situation and I've felt ridiculously sh*t about it all since finding out which is why I've turned to complete strangers for some advice lol. In my head I know it's a very very very slim chance that it's the second guy but there was something in my anxiety that I couldn't convince.

I have almost certainty that it was my regular partner it was just the scan dates that were making me think otherwise as 6+0 would make me conceive on the 29th which would be 4 days after last unprotected sex and a day after the condom guy lol

Also I should add that my cycles are normally 28-29 days which would make the 28th of July day 22 in my cycle so again possibly unlikely to have happened on that exact date with all the other extra precautions in place.

I know how terrible this makes me look but this is genuinely out of character and not something I would usually have done

Honestly, I think you don’t need to worry, it was a mistake, everyone’s made them at some point, and scan dating is not super accurate anyway. Your description of events and the dates should reassure you.

Thank you ladies a friend of mine said the exact same thing that its highly highly unlikely to be the 2nd guy due to no ejaculation etc and dates in cycle I know sperm can stay for up to 7 days and fertilisation can occur after a few days.

Lesson learnt and believe me I won't be getting in this situation again ever!! It was a moment of stupidity and madness. Hopefully my next scan can date things a little more accurately. 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

Scan date can be off by a few days and there were only 2 days in between partners. So don't worry about it x

At my 20 week scan they bought the due date forward a week, so I had conceived a week earlier than they originally thought.

@MrDarcysMa do you think that I am clear to think it's my first partner and not the 2nd incident then??

@Itsagrandoldteam

On the scan report it says gestation by dates 7 weeks 1 day (which would coincide with my lmp) but then says gestational age 6 weeks 0 days. So I don't know if that means 6 weeks exactly or 6 weeks (actually 4 weeks due to the extra two weeks that you aren't considered pregnant)

The scan date can be wrong up to 2 weeks either way. Its very very unlikely that the 2nd guy is responsible. Were you trying to conceive?

I honestly think you can fairly safely assume it was the 1st guy.

@MusicWithRocksIn1t we wernt actively tracking ovulation but would be happy if I did fall pregnant which believe me I am just a little anxious but otherwise happy lol...

I had a momentary lapse of judgement wihr the 2nd guy which led to instant regret which is why I stopped things after a few minutes before things went further (hence condom and no ejaculation at all)
I think regret is probably what is making me question this whole thing more than anything

Update so the early pregnancy unit have basically said if I'm 6 weeks gestational age then I would have conceived around 28th 29th or 30th July... Help...

Now freaking out.

There really isn't anything else we can add. Sorry.

I agree its highly unlikely to be the 2nd guy BUT there's still a chance. You need to be honest with the first guy tbh

It seems very unlikely...but one more thing to think about.

What happened after you stopped with the condom partner. Did he/you finish using hands? Could fingers have been used afterwards? Again, something to think about!

@Inthe60s no he literally pulled out when I asked to stop and I left and went home. There was literally no contact with any cum at all

How long have you been trying to get pregnant with your regular guy? ( Sorry I haven't yet rtft.

No one can really answer this conclusively for you, you'd need a dna test to be 100% certain but it seems unlikely given what you've said that it is the 2nd guys baby - given your cycle you are more likely to have conceived on the earlier dates you've mentioned.

@spied we wernt actively trying it wasn't something that we desperately wanted to happen just kind of if it did happen then okay.

I think I have probably made myself more paranoid and anxious the more I overyhink the situation and read freak accidents on the Internet.

So you cheated and you feel guilty.I think you need to be honest with the first guy and just take it from there.

He deserves to know there was somebody else.

Did not cheat as there was no actual "relationship as such"

I never once said that either party wernt aware of the situation. They have both been told and obviously its not a situation that I would have liked to of been in at all.