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Handhold/distraction thread for AWOL OH?

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CloudyVanilla · 24/08/2020 23:18

Sorry I'm sure this will be completely unnecessary... But my dp popped to the shops a couple of hours ago and still isn't home. I've just got this sick feeling in the out of my stomach and it's too late to call or worry anyone IRL.

I'm sure there are plenty of perfectly reasonable reasons for him being so late. But the shop he was supposed to go to is only 15 mins away. I could cry, I keep flipping between being sure everything's fine and he's just run into someone and imagining the worst :(

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MrsOldma · 24/08/2020 23:20

Have you called him? Can you go along the route he would take?

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CloudyVanilla · 24/08/2020 23:21

He doesn't have his phone, my ds was playing up and mine is broken so I was playing him lullabies on it so he left it here.

I can't leave the house as I have 3 dc under 5 including a baby who will be up for a bottle soon :( I feel very trapped

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BringBiscuits · 24/08/2020 23:22

In the car? Could he have called in on someone on the way home?

MrsOldma · 24/08/2020 23:24

Do you know anyone who’d be willing to go look for you? Do you not have a “anytime/anything” friend?

UncleBunclesHouse · 24/08/2020 23:24

Oh no, I’d be worried too - is there anyone who could go looking for you?

Haggisfish · 24/08/2020 23:24

Do you think he’s gone out drinking or similar?

MrsOldma · 24/08/2020 23:25

Also I’d look on local police force Twitter and local radio pages for traffic updates. Maybe there’s a load of cows in the road or something

IncludeWomenInTheSequel · 24/08/2020 23:25

Does he have any sort of form for this?

If not, to be honest I'd be close to ringing the police.

Ihaventgottimeforthis · 24/08/2020 23:25

Can you call the shop?

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CloudyVanilla · 24/08/2020 23:25

No on foot we don't have a car, that's why I'm so worried. I just can't imagine why at this time of night he would be taking so long. Sometimes he does faff and wonder but he left at the absolute latest at 9pm. It was likely early as the kids were all pretty much asleep and even though they were playing up they would still have been asleep before 9. I just feel sick it's 11:30 nearly now. I would say at very most it would take an hour.

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Ihaventgottimeforthis · 24/08/2020 23:27

Its definitely not too late for a call to a friend, when you're in need.
Try whatsapping someone first if you want to test the waters.

BringBiscuits · 24/08/2020 23:28

I’m sure there’s no need to worry. Is shop still open do you think?

MrsOldma · 24/08/2020 23:28

What was he going to the shop for? If it was something important like nappies would he maybe have gone somewhere else if the first shop didn’t have them?

RandomMess · 24/08/2020 23:28

Does he any pubs/bars, gone in for a not so swift one?

PointlessUsername · 24/08/2020 23:29

Stopped at the pub?

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CloudyVanilla · 24/08/2020 23:29

He's on foot and I live in a town infamous for its grid system so I can't see him being physically stuck anywhere. It is possible he has run into someone but he doesn't drink anymore so it's incredibly unlikely that he has gone for so many drinks that he'd be too drunk to get in touch with me.

I bloody wish I had thought to call the shop even though I don't really know what to say, but it's a 7-11 so would be closed by now. This is a nightmare

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Coppercreek · 24/08/2020 23:29

Is this unusual for him?

Has he ever done this before?

If he hasn't I would be calling friends/family then police and hospital to see if he was there

m1ssB · 24/08/2020 23:30

Really hope he's alright OP! Thinking of you Thanks

nc600 · 24/08/2020 23:30

Why doesn't he drink anymore? Is there a huge back story here?

What was he going to the shop for?

BringBiscuits · 24/08/2020 23:30

I’d give a friend a call now. Perhaps they can help?

itsgettingweird · 24/08/2020 23:31

I would definitely call police.

If this is out of character and he should be home from shops because they are shut they can help.

Pubs round here are all also closing at 11pm latest.

HollowTalk · 24/08/2020 23:32

Is this something he's ever done before? What was he going to get? Was it just an excuse to go out? How much money did he have on him? If he was going to use a card can you check the online banking?

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CloudyVanilla · 24/08/2020 23:33

@MrsOldma this is what I'm hoping as it is for essentials but I keep well stocked so although essential we are not 100% out if that makes sense.

There is a local pub but he doesn't like it much so would be unlikely to go in for a drink by himself. Unfortunately my only friend I'd be close enough to contact randomly in the night about something like this lives far enough away to make it pointless in a practical sense.

I'm just staring out the window down the street.

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fleapriest · 24/08/2020 23:35

Could you not phone the pub just to check if he's there or if anyone has seen him?

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CloudyVanilla · 24/08/2020 23:37

@nc600 he did drink pre kids but tbh we never have the time to go out drinking so he hair doesn't do it for leisure anymore. It's really unlikely that he has gone drinking by himself. He does have a lot of friends but none of them live in our local area so it's unlikely he would have run into them just going to the local shop.

In terms of back story, he has had MH issues due to his childhood but he has sought help and has come along way. Despite his issues we are very close, have a super loving, no drama relationship. No reason at all for him to run away from anything right now.

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