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Handhold/distraction thread for AWOL OH?

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CloudyVanilla · 24/08/2020 23:18

Sorry I'm sure this will be completely unnecessary... But my dp popped to the shops a couple of hours ago and still isn't home. I've just got this sick feeling in the out of my stomach and it's too late to call or worry anyone IRL.

I'm sure there are plenty of perfectly reasonable reasons for him being so late. But the shop he was supposed to go to is only 15 mins away. I could cry, I keep flipping between being sure everything's fine and he's just run into someone and imagining the worst :(

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MrsOldma · 24/08/2020 23:37

I think in situations like this you don’t want to involve others incase everything turns out fine and you look/feel like a huge drama queen!!

That said you could just get it over with and call the hospitals. You could also call the local taxi company and ask them to keep an eye out if you live somewhere small enough. Then there’s the police.......

FromEden · 24/08/2020 23:37

Well going by what usually happens when people post these threads, he's out drinking somewhere.

Has he been not drinking for a while? Why did he stop?

nc600 · 24/08/2020 23:38

Had you fallen out? You mention that it's your DC, are they his DCs or is he a new partner?

Seems very odd. I thought you must mean Milton Keynes but then you say he's gone to the 7/11 - are you in the US?

EmilyDickinson · 24/08/2020 23:38

How horrible for you.

Has he done anything like this before?

If not then I would ring the shop (there could still be people there tidying up, shelf stacking etc.) Try ringing repeatedly three or four times.

Would he have used his bank card to pay? Can you check transactions on-line?

You need someone to watch the children or walk the route. Message local friends saying you’re worried. They will probably ask what they can do or offer.

Do you have nice neighbours who would pop in and just be downstairs for the children while you check the route.

If none of the above is possible then I’d really ring 111 and explain. If it’s a slow night it’s easy enough to get a patrol car to slowly drive the route.

IAmFleshIAmBone · 24/08/2020 23:39

Could he have come across someone who's had an accident and taken them to the hospital? This happened once with my partner and I was worried sick.

Not much help to you I know, just trying to offer some comfort. I know how worried you must be.

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CloudyVanilla · 24/08/2020 23:39

I really hope he's out drinking. He stopped due to medication and has never really got into it again since. He could drink heavily in the past but it just honestly seems so unlikely right now, however he would have accompanied a friend to a pub, as in it is plausible at least. But even those would be closed now surely? And nowhere would take 40 minutes to get home

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notapizzaeater · 24/08/2020 23:41

Has he / you got any family that could drive the route to make sure everything is ok? Presume he's have to pay using a card at the min, Is it showing on the bank ?

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CloudyVanilla · 24/08/2020 23:42

@IAmFleshIAmBone that has actually also happened to him, a lady fell over in the road carrying big shopping bags and was really distressed/unwell. I think she had MH issues and he spent a long time getting her into an ambulance etc. I'm wondering if something similar has happened as he is absolutely that guy who would help someone in a situation like that. I'm not thinking clearly, I really don't want to involve anyone IRL but this is all just so strange

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CloudyVanilla · 24/08/2020 23:43

I can't see any transactions is it possible they would not show immediately?

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Scbchl · 24/08/2020 23:43

Does he not have any colleagues he is friends with? I'd defo be putting a post on the local buy and sell pages, the shop he was ins fb page if there is one and on the next door app if you are on it asking if anyone has seen him with a photo. If he absolutely doesnt have form for this and has some mh issues I personally wouldn't sit around waiting also you dont need to wait 24 hours to contact the police if its someone with mh issues. They consider them vulnerable and start looking straight away if they feel its needed. Which going from your story of no phone, no local friends, doesn't drink or go to pub etc, I'd think it is.

I hope he turns up soon.

UncleBunclesHouse · 24/08/2020 23:44

I would call the police if no family or friends that can help look

IAmFleshIAmBone · 24/08/2020 23:44

I'm sure everything will be okay, but I would be feeling the same. I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you that there's a simple explanation and he is home soon Flowers

Mumblechum0 · 24/08/2020 23:44

Have you clicked on “Pending Transactions “ ?

EmilyDickinson · 24/08/2020 23:44

If you’re going to ask for help from friends or neighbours best to try before midnight I think. You won’t want to be calling/knocking on doors at 2 in the morning

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CloudyVanilla · 24/08/2020 23:45

@nc600 I do mean MK. Sorry I do call them 7-11s, those local co-ops etc that are usually open til 11. No we haven't fallen out at all and yes all 3 are his DC

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BowowMttt · 24/08/2020 23:45

Yes sometimes they take a couple of hours to show on your online statement. Hope he turns up soon OP! 💐

BringBiscuits · 24/08/2020 23:46

Agree it’s better to contact someone/anyone sooner rather than later. Don’t feel silly about it. He’s been gone hours when you expected him home ages ago.

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CloudyVanilla · 24/08/2020 23:46

Thank you for all the responses, it's been really grounding Flowers I have anxiety and always imagine the worst. I can't believe it's nearly midnight. I'm just stuck in that awful place of it feeling too early to do something but imagining if he has for some horrible reason been hurt then the longer I leave it the worse it is :(

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Scbchl · 24/08/2020 23:49

Also if you contact the police they will drive the route he walked to make sure he isnt injured anywhere. You could call the local hospital incase he injured himself.

Bex1519 · 24/08/2020 23:49

Sending lots of love. I think if it would put your mind at rest, could you ring around local hospitals etc? X

EmilyDickinson · 24/08/2020 23:50

The thing is I think that most of us have been there at some point, where someone is later than expected and we have feared the worst. No one will think you’re being silly.

bettebattenburg · 24/08/2020 23:50

@Bex1519

Sending lots of love. I think if it would put your mind at rest, could you ring around local hospitals etc? X
I think I'd phone them too, they will confirm if he's there or. It.
Ihaventgottimeforthis · 24/08/2020 23:51

Try 101 and see if they have any patrol cars out & about

is that even still a thing?

GisAFag · 24/08/2020 23:53

It's never too late to call

Are there any messages on his phone that he might have popped to the pub, gone too see someone... Friends fbk pages. I'd be searching his phone for fbk, WhatsApp etc. I'd WhatsApp people too.

foofooyeah · 24/08/2020 23:54

It’s nearly 3 hours, you cannot get out to check yourself, I think you would be right to maybe try 101.

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