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Been blocked on fb by colleague and have no idea why? WWYD?

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waitingforthehammertofall · 14/08/2020 13:42

I discovered last night that I have been blocked by a work colleague who I work with regularly. I can hand on heart say I have never said a bad word about this person to anyone and can not think of any reason why they would do this. I highly rate this person for the work they do. I know I've been blocked as asked dh to search for them and he can see the person. I cannot search for them at all.

Should I just act like nothing has happened when I go to work next or ask the person outright?

The only thing I'm worried about is that someone has made up that I've said something about this person, I havent even mentioned this person in conversation to anyone. There seems to he a lot of people stirring things but I'm very careful not to get involved or comment on things, I have just observed.

I feel really upset and it makes it awkward working so closely with this person

You cant accidentally block someone can you?

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OddBoots · 14/08/2020 13:44

Maybe they have blocked everyone from work, it might not be personal.

DariaMorgendorffer · 14/08/2020 13:48

A lot of people like to keep social media hidden from colleagues, even the colleagues they like. Maybe they just want to separate the two.

Fizzingsherbert · 14/08/2020 13:48

Try logging off and on again. Sometimes my phone doesn't find people when u search for them even though I know we are friends, then later when I try it works. I feel for you OP, it's a horrible feeling when something like this happens. Could you casually drop into conversation 'are you not on Facebook anymore? I searched the other day and couldn't find you.'

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waitingforthehammertofall · 14/08/2020 13:48

I have also asked one other trusted work colleague and she hasn't been.

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Alexandernevermind · 14/08/2020 13:50

She is probably just trying to separate her work life from her social life.

FinnyStory · 14/08/2020 13:50

I unfollow people who share too much nonsense, maybe it's that rather than something you specifically done against her?

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waitingforthehammertofall · 14/08/2020 13:53

It's a 'he's but who I confided it has told me that he still friends with all the other staff, even ones he doenst work closely with. I dont put much on fb and if I did you could unfollow or de friend. But to block seems extreme to me....I do feel quite hurt.

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Julmust · 14/08/2020 13:54

Could it be something you've liked or shared? Either political or too much of one thing?

ExCoffeeAddict · 14/08/2020 13:54

I recently deleted my Facebook so may look like i blocked people

Could be they have deleted their Facebook?

Julmust · 14/08/2020 13:55

Op says others can still see him

FinnyStory · 14/08/2020 13:56

Oh, is it that he doesn't want to see updates of your happy homelife...?

katy1213 · 14/08/2020 13:59

I'd do bugger all because I wouldn't care. Your workplace sounds like a playground.

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waitingforthehammertofall · 14/08/2020 13:59

No, i dont share much at all. The occasional picture of my children, sharing missing pers you know...Nothing political or anything

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sixlemons · 14/08/2020 14:02

If it's a 'he' then maybe he has a slight crush on you and has been suffering from mentionitis at home, and he's blocked you either because his dp is suspicious or because she told him to block you.

Or as another pp says, you have posted something on FB with which he disagrees on a fundamental level.

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waitingforthehammertofall · 14/08/2020 14:07

I guess it will look a bit needy if I say something so I guess I just need to leave it.

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ChicCroissant · 14/08/2020 14:08

OP, it is fine for your colleague not to have you on FB. For someone who 'doesn't share much at all' you seem to be putting a lot of effort into tracking him down, getting a colleague and your DH to check if they can see him. It won't make it awkward to work with him.

SoddingWeddings · 14/08/2020 14:16

I blocked most of my colleagues because I have no desire to have people I work with see any aspect of my personal life. The few I'm friends with on Fb are friends in real life too. It's not personal to them, it's personal to me.

nevernotstruggling · 14/08/2020 14:19

I block anyone with the vaguest connection to my ex husband.

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waitingforthehammertofall · 14/08/2020 14:20

That's fine then. Maybe I have viewed fb differently then as I always thought of blocking as quite an extreme action. If I didnt want to see someones stuff and I see them on a regular basis then perhaps I would just unfollow.

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JoeCalFuckingZaghe · 14/08/2020 14:20

Honestly, don't put so much emphasis on 1) social media and 2) being friends with colleagues.

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waitingforthehammertofall · 14/08/2020 14:21

@JoeCalFuckingZaghe

Honestly, don't put so much emphasis on 1) social media and 2) being friends with colleagues.
No, you're right!
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Itstime1 · 14/08/2020 14:23

I block around 90% of people I work with on all social media. I just don’t want to see their stuff or them to see my personal family pics I get tagged in?

There’s a few I haven’t but that’s my choice to have them if that makes sense? I wouldn’t be offended or bothered if I was you Smile

lifesalongsong · 14/08/2020 14:24

@SoddingWeddings

I blocked most of my colleagues because I have no desire to have people I work with see any aspect of my personal life. The few I'm friends with on Fb are friends in real life too. It's not personal to them, it's personal to me.
As you're clearly not the OP's work mate and he hasn't blocked the other work mates I can't see how this is helpful to the situation

Realistically the only wayto find out if to ask him, of course it's hurtful being singled out like that but I don't really know what the grown up neutral way to ask him would be.

BigBadVoodooHat · 14/08/2020 14:36

Maybe I have viewed fb differently then as I always thought of blocking as quite an extreme action

It's facebook. How 'extreme' an action can anything on facebook be?!

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waitingforthehammertofall · 14/08/2020 14:38

@BigBadVoodooHat

Maybe I have viewed fb differently then as I always thought of blocking as quite an extreme action

It's facebook. How 'extreme' an action can anything on facebook be?!

Ha has, yes! I think I may just come off it actually!
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