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Been blocked on fb by colleague and have no idea why? WWYD?

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waitingforthehammertofall · 14/08/2020 13:42

I discovered last night that I have been blocked by a work colleague who I work with regularly. I can hand on heart say I have never said a bad word about this person to anyone and can not think of any reason why they would do this. I highly rate this person for the work they do. I know I've been blocked as asked dh to search for them and he can see the person. I cannot search for them at all.

Should I just act like nothing has happened when I go to work next or ask the person outright?

The only thing I'm worried about is that someone has made up that I've said something about this person, I havent even mentioned this person in conversation to anyone. There seems to he a lot of people stirring things but I'm very careful not to get involved or comment on things, I have just observed.

I feel really upset and it makes it awkward working so closely with this person

You cant accidentally block someone can you?

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CaptainMyCaptain · 14/08/2020 17:54

@FedUpofLockdown123

Why were you 'friends' with a random guy who you don't even know anyway?

I didn't say I was friends with a random guy I don't even know. I said a random guy I don't even know has blocked me. I can't see his comments on any posts and a friend showed me who it was writing the comments. I don't know him, he once sent me a message request a few years ago asking how I was. As I don't know him I ignored the message and can only assume this is why I'm blocked.

OK. I didn't know you could be blocked by people you weren't Facebook Friends with (how would you know?) although I always block the random men who want to follow me on Instagram.

FedUpofLockdown123 · 14/08/2020 18:08

Yes I've blocked people I'm not friends with, my ex etc. I don't use Instagram so unsure if it's different on there! I only know he blocked me because there was a conversation happening on a post and I could only see one side of the conversation so I asked a friend who was the other person (because I'm nosey) and it turned out to be him. Also can tell if you've been blocked if someone tags them in a comment and there name isn't highlighted.

GrowThroughWhatYouGoThrough · 14/08/2020 18:11

Why don't you just ask him if your that bothered? I went to Facebook message a colleague and she had blocked me we were sat next to each other so I asked her. Turns out she had deleted everyone from work

CaptainMyCaptain · 14/08/2020 18:13

Thanks @FedUpofLockdown123 that's two things I've learnt today.) The other one was Beige Buffet.)

FedUpofLockdown123 · 14/08/2020 18:26

@CaptainMyCaptain

I'm assuming a beige buffet consists of chicken nuggets, sausage rolls etc?

lifesalongsong · 14/08/2020 18:45

@converseandjeans

I am puzzled why you are so stressed about FB and who you are 'friends' with.

He is a work colleague, nothing more. Just cause you are pleasant doesn't mean he has to be ore than that.

I agree with this - you're colleagues & don't need to be friends.

Of course you don't need to be friends with your work colleagues but actively making the effort to block only one of them is a bit weird especially when the person has no idea why it might be.

Normal behaviour would be simply not be friends with them in the first place or unfriend if you change your mind, unless it's accidental imo choosing to block someone usually has a reason behind it.

CaptainMyCaptain · 14/08/2020 18:47

[quote FedUpofLockdown123]@CaptainMyCaptain

I'm assuming a beige buffet consists of chicken nuggets, sausage rolls etc?[/quote]
There's another thread about it. I have been to such buffets in the past and not been impressed (all stodge and not even a tomato) but apparently its a 'thing' and very popular.

MitziK · 14/08/2020 19:07

I don't use FB for more than a free means of contacting people, but it's none of their fucking business, anymore than I want other randoms being able to find me.

There are also people I know outside of work that they do and I don't want the connection made - this particularly applies for when somebody turns out to be a couple of degrees away from an ex, as being found by him would be my absolute worst nightmare (happened a few years back).

CaptainMyCaptain · 14/08/2020 19:17

I regularly go onto FB just to find and pre-emptively block people I work with - not all of them are because I dislike them as people, it's more likely that it's because they're FB friends with other members of staff I don't want trawling through my history.
That's quite a good idea although I sometimes check people's Friend lists before accepting them. I don't have many Facebook friends.

tinytemper66 · 14/08/2020 19:32

Someone IRL annoyed me and in a fit of pique I deleted and blocked about 10 colleagues at once on Instagram as I realised they annoyed me too and I didn't want them knowing what I was doing. I have also received a request for one of them to follow me again but am keeping her hanging. I am a petty bitch though!

MilerVino · 14/08/2020 19:52

I've blocked people on FB I'm not friends with but am in some of the same groups as. There's only so much racist, bigoted shit I can take. Not saying that's the only reason to block someone - it is after all quite possible someone has likewise blocked me for being too much of a hippy or something.

CaptainMyCaptain · 14/08/2020 20:15

I was blocked by an ex colleague who posted a whinge about not being allowed to celebrate St George's day at school any more because it might offend someone. I pointed out that we were allowed and I always did it and had led many an assembly on St George (acting out the dragon story). So she blocked me.

homecomingcabbie · 14/08/2020 20:53

@FedUpofLockdown123

OK. I didn't know you could be blocked by people you weren't Facebook Friends with (how would you know?) although I always block the random men who want to follow me on Instagram.

You can. I automatically block parents and pupils at the school where I work if I see them on FB, occasionally I see them on local selling pages etc.

LiBan · 14/08/2020 20:56

@Alexandernevermind

She is probably just trying to separate her work life from her social life.

A version of this. Or she doesn't want to risk something she told you being told to somebody else. Or she met a guy on tinder and it turns out you're a mutual friend.

Whereland · 14/08/2020 22:32

I unfollow people who share missing persons posts so that could be if

converseandjeans · 15/08/2020 20:44

whereland I thought it was just me who found it annoying!

LionLily · 16/08/2020 02:00

I've recently decided to block everyone from work. I had a policy of not having colleagues on my SM but about a year ago it fell by the wayside and I ended up with about 10 colleagues on FB.
When things got a little fraught in work recently and there was a bit of drama, I found I was worrying about what they might think of certain posts or things I was doing, so when I went on leave I rehashed by friends list and removed work contacts.
I think I feel better for it. Of course, the nosey part of me would like to see what they're up to, but it feels good when someone says 'did you see what X put on FB, I think she's referring to Y' to be able to say 'no, I didn't see it because I don't have FB for work colleagues'.

And of course, now I can moan about a shitty day in work without any repercussions.

LirBan · 16/08/2020 12:10

yeh i know what you mean. I was half laughing earlier at how much better my teens are at picking the best response in the situational judgement tests I am practising, all their years of experience managing me have paid off, obviously with umpteen colleagues on my fb, I can't post that.

OnTheWheelOfLife · 16/08/2020 12:46

Have you shared any particular views?

When I have shared support for BLM people have unfollowed/unfriended me. Likewise when they have shared ‘All lives matter’ or refugee bashing I have done the same to them.

Maybe you shared an opposing view they feel strongly about. Or, maybe they don’t like you. That’s tough to hear, but you can’t win everyone in life.

squirrelsbizaar · 16/08/2020 12:59

Blocking is not the same as unfollowing. Unfollowing means that the person is still your ‘friend’ but you don’t have to see the drivel they post, they don’t know that you have unfollowed them too.
Blocking means that someone can’t find you on Facebook, or see anything that you comment, like, on mutual friends status’s, pictures and such like.
I have blocked a few colleagues in the past, because they where nasty gossips and I didn’t want them knowing anymore about me than necessary.
The op also followed the initial post up with a comment about the workplace being full of backstabbers, it’s a good move to only have trusted colleagues on Facebook and block everyone else. If that’s the case.
I’m not sure how the op is in position to know who his friends are or not on Facebook, unless she is asking other colleagues, or cyber stalking him, even if it’s done innocently and there is no malice intended, it’s not the kind of work colleague I would want on Facebook. I would be concerned that the lack understanding around office etiquette and boundaries, would drop me in it, so I would block the op too.

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