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Wedding menu opinions

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Lockdowners · 08/08/2020 21:17

Big barn wedding. We are deciding on our caterers. How would you feel about this menu:

Canapés

Starter- big sharing platter of houmous, olives, cheeses, breads etc (veggie)

Main- braised blade of beef with shallots and mushrooms OR goats cheese and aubergine rollatini (veggie) - both served with new potatoes, honey glazed root veg, green veg in pesto, salad.

Dessert- our (fudgy chocolate) wedding cake

Evening- wood fired pizzas

Kids can have the menu or there will be a kid friendly option too.

Wines on tables. Waiters will ask if anyone would prefer a drink (free) from the bar. Free bar in the evening.

How would you feel about this as a guest? Any dietary requirements catered for too.

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Leflic · 09/08/2020 08:07

Food fine.
My only comment would be how are they serving it. We had a fabulous buffet; only no one worked out the first round of buffet was just a starter. On the invite we had said canapés, champagne and speeches followed by buffet meal.

The canapés were served at the tables which people assumed were starters because they were substantial. Then there was a served buffet table for people to go up to. Everyone piled they’re plates thinking this was the main. And then loads of marvellous fish and meat came out for the main to the surprise of everyone.

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Lockdowners · 09/08/2020 08:07

So what I’m getting from this thread is that the menu is generally good but could be improved if I:

go with the vegan option for all veggies to avoid goats cheese
remove the pesto from the veg
serve the share platter in individual portions

Other than that there is the odd dislike of mushrooms so I will make sure they are large enough to avoid.

I haven’t got round to the specifics of the bar as it is some time away but there will be lots of soft drink options for kids and adults.

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EasilyDelighted · 09/08/2020 08:20

You said you don't think you have any vegans but if you do they won't be able to eat the honey glazed veg.

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Extracurricularfatigue · 09/08/2020 08:21

It sounds lovely, and the vegan option definitely appeals more, even though I like goat’s cheese.

People will have a good time because it’s your wedding and they’re happy for you. You’re not running a restaurant!

We bought beer and wine for a free bar at our wedding, and our caterer said she always found people bought too much. She was definitely right on our account so we had plenty to drink at home over the following months.

Sheknowsaboutme · 09/08/2020 08:24

Fuck Covid, I’m coming!

Alez · 09/08/2020 08:28

I think the menu sounds good. If there are any vegans though, they will only be able to have the potato and salad sides as honey and the cheese in the pesto won't be vegan (though some don't mind honey). So that's another reason perhaps to have one fancy type of veg and one plain!

PurBal · 09/08/2020 08:44

It sounds fairly formal for a barn wedding but I'm guessing that's the vibe your going for. Menu itself sounds really good, I'd be super excited. I know you didn't ask this but I'd be confused as to what to wear with the menu + barn + wedding, so I guess I'd just make sure it's clear on your invites :) I would say I've been to a lot of barn and marquee weddings as I grew up in a farming community but these venues don't tend to have floors where we live so no stilettos and no long dresses and oftentimes the men wear jeans and wellys.

AteAllTheAfterEights · 09/08/2020 08:48

I don’t eat cheese so no starter or main for me... does the green veg need pesto?

Brendabigbaps · 09/08/2020 08:48

Not a dig at your menu, it sounds lovely. But why do places insist on covering all the veg in something “honey glazed” and “pesto dressing” just give me some well seasoned and cooked veg!

YippieKayakOtherBuckets · 09/08/2020 09:16

I think ‘barn’ has some pp picturing bales of hay and dirt floors. There are a lot of converted barns used as wedding venues which are very smart indeed - I got married in one. They have floors and everything

sashh · 09/08/2020 09:20

If you have lots of groups of people or families you could replace the starter as a picnic basket between people from the same household to stop the covid fear, it would work well in a barn as well. You could use cardboard boxes like the McDonalds happy meals.

It sounds fab, in fact when is it? Where? What do you want as a present?

Luaa · 09/08/2020 09:56

If I were invited to a wedding in a barn I would wear the same kind of outfit I'd wear to any other wedding. I've never been to a wedding where it would be acceptable for anyone to wear jeans and wellies.

MrsWhites · 09/08/2020 10:05

I’m a bit late to the party but I’d be happy with the menu but again not in the form of a sharing platter with other households (double dipping 🤮), could they be served per couple/household instead for example?

maddiemookins16mum · 09/08/2020 10:11

I’m buying a hat.
Lovely menu.

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Lockdowners · 09/08/2020 10:22

Definitely ditching the pesto but I love honey glazed root veg so I am going to do a bridezilla foot stamp and insist they stay.

Just to confirm that it is a very nice barn with lovely gardens and a proper floor - not some kind of ramshackle, uneven floored place in the middle of a farm! Does the menu sound super fancy? I was going for middle of the road!

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MrsWhites · 09/08/2020 11:21

Definitely not super fancy OP, it’s a nice balance of nice food without being pretentious (in my opinion anyway)!

Some people definitely have the wrong idea of a barn, I’ve seen some gorgeous barn style wedding venues. They look beautiful when dressed in a rustic, vintage style!

EasilyDelighted · 09/08/2020 11:50

I just don't like veg fancied up like that unless they are the main part of a meal rather than the side, honey glazed is a particular dislike for me but I know it's popular. I don't think it's super fancy overall.

iklboo · 09/08/2020 12:17

I don't like olives but bread & cheese are a winner. Not sure about a sharing platter - that bread & cheese is MINE!

Main - lovely beef option, goats cheese is foul.

Dessert - I really hate chocolate cake. I might be in the minority I think maybe you need another dessert option, just in case.

sashh · 09/08/2020 13:35

I've never been to a wedding where it would be acceptable for anyone to wear jeans and wellies.

One of my friends put on her invitations, "You will be in a barn, the only seating is hay bales, jeans are probably the most suitable thing to wear"

InTheWings · 09/08/2020 14:48

I've never been to a wedding where it would be acceptable for anyone to wear jeans and wellies

I have. A lovely farm marquee wedding where everyone was transported from the church to the reception on the back of a tractor trailer lined with bales to sit on, outside benches, dancing in a lovely decorated barn.

Also a camping wedding on a campsite, bell tents, bales to sit on, campfire,

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