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Wedding menu opinions

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Lockdowners · 08/08/2020 21:17

Big barn wedding. We are deciding on our caterers. How would you feel about this menu:

Canapés

Starter- big sharing platter of houmous, olives, cheeses, breads etc (veggie)

Main- braised blade of beef with shallots and mushrooms OR goats cheese and aubergine rollatini (veggie) - both served with new potatoes, honey glazed root veg, green veg in pesto, salad.

Dessert- our (fudgy chocolate) wedding cake

Evening- wood fired pizzas

Kids can have the menu or there will be a kid friendly option too.

Wines on tables. Waiters will ask if anyone would prefer a drink (free) from the bar. Free bar in the evening.

How would you feel about this as a guest? Any dietary requirements catered for too.

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minnieok · 08/08/2020 22:23

All looks yummy to me, no issues with sharing platters myself even with Covid, I love goats cheese

Ginfordinner · 08/08/2020 22:24

Traditional pesto is not vegetarian as it contains parmesan cheese which is made from animal rennet.

While I love pesto, am not vegetarian and have no food allergies, I think you could just omit the pesto from the green veg and just drizzle extra virgin olive oil over them instead.

The menu sounds delicious BTW.

ForTheLoveOfCatFood · 08/08/2020 22:30

Sounds lovely Smile

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IHaveBrilloHair · 08/08/2020 22:33

What does it matter whether you personally dislike x or y?
Unless the hosts are going to ask each guest what they want and provide it, you'll never be able to cater for everyone's taste.
As adults surely its quite easy to eat what you can and be polite, join in the chat at the meal and have fun?
Or do people who dislike onions or whatever sit there with a face like a slapped arse and whinge it was all so terrible?
"Oooh, Tim and Margot's wedding was awful, they served hummus and the dessert was apple crumble and I much prefer rhubarb."

rainkeepsfallingdown · 08/08/2020 22:36

It sounds wonderful, but I'm not touching a sharing platter again until there's a Covid vaccine.

BackforGood · 08/08/2020 22:39

It doesn't, IHaveBrilloHair
Of course - indeed as I, and some others have said already in our posts - we would politely eat what we were given (unless it were something we really would struggle to eat and then just say 'no thank you'), and enjoy the conversation, company and occasion.
But the OP has specifically created a thread to ask what people think, so therefore, people are helping her, by replying.

Presumably, if 95% of people said they didn't like X or Y, then she might rethink. I don't know, I was just answering the question.

Luaa · 08/08/2020 22:42

Oh there is vegetable tart Tatin with red onion marmalade option for vegans

I'm vegan now so would obviously go with this, but even when I was veggie I would have much preferred this to goats cheese. I can't stand it, even the smell makes me feel ill, so I think this would be better as your vegetarian option too.

Lockdowners · 08/08/2020 22:51

Thanks for the comments all. Yes it is absolutely useful to me to know people’s personal tastes as if lots of people on the thread dislike one thing then this might translate to my guests too and I will rethink (looks like the vegan option might be better for all veggies).

People will be offered the choice of veggies by waiters so they wouldn’t necessarily be having all options. Interesting about the pesto veggies, sounds like plain might be better or at least a veggie pesto.

Free bar we are buying the booze ourselves and getting bar staff to serve it so it is not the great expense it might have been otherwise.

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nowaitaminute · 08/08/2020 22:54

Sounds lovely...I didn't give options at my wedding. It was a set menu! We did cater for vegetarians though.

coronabeer23 · 08/08/2020 23:00

Sounds wonderful. Free bar is standard here, only been to one wedding ever with a pay bar so to me that sounds perfectly normal.

CasuallyMasculine · 08/08/2020 23:02

I love goats cheese!

As a vegetarian of nearly 40 years I get a bit pissed off these days that there is rarely a vegetarian option - just a vegan one, the thinking being that at least vegetarians can eat it.

I often think with that reasoning, why not make everything vegan - after all, meat eaters can vegan food?

Arrarker · 08/08/2020 23:12

I will eat anything except goats cheese!

TheDIsiilusionedAnarchist · 08/08/2020 23:14

Lovely menu but I think goats cheese and aubergine are a bit risky, both very much marmite. On the other hand any dubious guests could fill up on sides or order the vegan main.

Lockdowners · 08/08/2020 23:17

Gah! Now I’m torn about the veggie option. My initial thinking had been that the vegan one was boring but there are a few people who dislike goats cheese. 90% of our vegetarian guests are in my close group of friends so perhaps I will enquire about their feelings towards goats cheese.

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KurriKawari · 08/08/2020 23:18

I love olives and hummus but hate sharing platters. And even as vegetarian, I cant stand goats cheese. Instead of the two average vegetarian and vegan dishes- have one spectacular vegan option that both can eat.

Lindy2 · 08/08/2020 23:20

It sounds delicious but like other posters it will be a long time before I will feel comfortable with a sharing platter with anyone other than my own household. That starter but in individual portions would be nice though.

tara66 · 08/08/2020 23:21

A choice of another dessert?

Lockdowners · 08/08/2020 23:21

Can you give me an example of a spectacular vegan option? I don’t think I have ever eaten a vegan meal so I’m really the wrong person to be deciding this

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Graphista · 08/08/2020 23:29

Honestly?

As a veggie who LIKES goat cheese I'm sick to the back teeth of it being the usual option for veggies! And many veggies don't even like goat cheese it's a very marmite food

Also rollatini is basically a pasta free lasagne and doesn't really go with the sides you're offering, plus lasagne is also what veggies are very often offered and it gets old very quickly. The tarts Tatin sounds a better option to me.

There are LOADS of other veggie options that don't include mushrooms or goat cheese (the 2 that veggies are usually lumbered with on formal occasions that are both marmite foods) that would go great with those sides, frankly seems a lazy and inexperienced catering option to me

Also yes if the veggies are also being offered the pesto veg you need to check with the caterers that they're using veggie pesto (sadly too many caterers/restaurants STILL don't bother checking or informing themselves on such things)

I also agree that a sharing platter will NOT go down well in a coronavirus conscious world, plus agree with others that there's often at least one person per table who snaffled more than their share or grabs the nicest parts of the platter for themselves.

I also think a choc fudge cake - which is a personal favourite of mine - is too heavy heavy and claggy for a 3 course meal.

For a summery setting you want something light and refreshing for the dessert and not necessarily the wedding cake. A citrus cheesecake or mousse or a light sponge cake - it's why people don't like fruit cake too.

Caterers does this because it’s easier and cheaper for them than individual plates. yep!

Frankly given the ubiquitous veggie option, imbalanced and clashing flavours and easy starter option I'd be looking at a different caterer if possible or at the very least give them a proverbial kick up the arse to do better!

Is this where you've saved money for the free bar? Because as you can see from the thread people don't really expect a free bar certainly not for the whole day.

Providing toast and wine for the table is plenty.

I'm not only someone who's been a guest many times I've also worked in the industry and heard what guests did/didn't like - which they very rarely admit to the bride and groom.

The free bar the way you're doing it I'd be interested to know:

How many hours the wedding is lasting

How many guests

How many drinks per guest you're allowing for - generally when bridal couples choose this option I've found they usually under estimate how much they will need/will be drunk. Not least as there's bound to be at least a few problem drinkers there just by law of averages.

How on EARTH you think you're going to manage all the various preferences - as it's not just gin/rum/wine/vodka people can be quite fussy about brands too and if they're under the impression that it's a professional well stocked bar that is being paid for they may well be disappointed on the day.

There are many good reasons why a bar service costs what it does - there's a lot more to it that simply doing a booze cruise the month before and hiring bar staff that are willing to go along with such a set up!

If you want an honest response from your veggie friends tell them both options don't just ask if they like goat cheese

I know I'll likely get flamed for having picked it all apart...but you did ask and I think it's doing you a favour if you know well ahead of time while you can still change things.

Prior to working in the industry I organised my own wedding, we had a hot and cold buffet as that made the most sense as we had a mix of all sorts of diets and allergies and intolerances to consider! It was completely nut free as we'd 2 guests with severe nut allergy, we had veggies, vegans, pescatarians, Jews, Muslims and my ex
Mil was on a special diet due to health issues.::

It was just easier! The caterers were informed and were very good on the day setting out the food on different coloured plates/flags etc so guests knew which foods were under which restrictions

It bewilders me that in 2020 supposedly professional caterers STILL seem to find it so hard to cater for something as basic as vegetarianism. Let alone the many other dietary requirements of guests.

No they cannot do a restaurant service, but they can research and develop their services options so that one dish covers a wide multitude of dietary requirements.

I've been veggie over 30 years and I've cooked on many occasions for omnis, people with allergies, or other reasons for their dietary requirements and managed to do dishes that suit us all. And I am no professional!

Sorry bit of a soap box moment there it just annoys me that caterers STILL don't put the effort into such things.

Itisbetter · 08/08/2020 23:29

What time of year are you getting married? For me the meal sounds heavy in the heat but would be lovely if it was cooler.

tectonicplates · 08/08/2020 23:30

When is the wedding? After corona, there might be people who don't want to eat from a sharing platter depending on their views on hygiene.

The veggie option sounds fine - as long as there's no mushroom risotto then it's all good!

tabulahrasa · 08/08/2020 23:39

Yeah goats cheese is... divisive.

I hate it, it tastes how goats smell. I also don’t like mushrooms, I end up hungry at a lot of weddings, lol

Lockdowners · 08/08/2020 23:44

Wedding is not going to be in summer. It is likely to be a little cooler.

Thanks to the poster who took time out and gave the big long critique.. all taken on board. I ruled out buffet as I didn’t want guests having to stand up and get their food themselves. The veg flavours may clash with each other but they are supposed to be options rather than having all on one plate. The veggie option is proving difficult- does anyone have any suggestions for a veggie dish that is a people pleaser? We have got friends in the booze industry providing us with a lot of options for drinks that can be returned if not drunk so the bar is under control.

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katy1213 · 08/08/2020 23:49

I don't think the pesto goes; plain steamed vegetables would be nicer. I'd pass on chocolate fudge cake, too heavy to end a meal and I really don't like it; something light and fruity would be much nicer.

CasuallyMasculine · 08/08/2020 23:50

The veggie option is proving difficult- does anyone have any suggestions for a veggie dish that is a people pleaser?

If it were me, anything vaguely pie-like would be perfect. It almost doesn’t matter what’s inside (because I love pastry!) but butternut squash, feta cheese and spinach would be lovely, and would satisfy those weirdos who don’t like mushrooms or goats cheese Wink