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Have you ever used a male escort?

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PurpleMackington · 02/08/2020 09:32

Just curious really!

I spent last night with a male escort. Not actually as a client but 'personal'. We connected on a dating app and he was very open about what he does, and since neither of us are looking for anything serious, I thought that as long as we were safe I would still like to see him

Ended up having without a doubt the most incredible night of my life, and when I was telling a friend about it this morning and she jokingly asked if he was with his rates, I honestly said I would pay double (even if I was getting about £500 worth of his 'services' free Grin).

It got me thinking, there is obviously a market for this out there and obviously discretion is key so whilst I probably think I don't know anyone who has used a male escort, there must be women I know who have. So I wondered I would ask the sophisticated ladies of mumsnet to see what their experiences have been?!

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Bluntness100 · 02/08/2020 10:41

[quote PurpleMackington]@ClickandForget this is absolutely the service that is advertised. I think career women etc who need a date for corporate events and things like that.[/quote]
Then why is your op insinuating it’s sex?

Meruem · 02/08/2020 10:41

I think there’s a market for it. Yes you can get random sex on tinder etc but that comes with downsides and risks. For one, most men you meet that way don’t care about a woman’s pleasure (I say that from bitter experience!) and you also don’t know if they might turn nasty and force you into things you don’t want to do. If an escort attacked you they’d be risking their livelihood. They’d also want to give you the best experience in the hope you’ll be a repeat customer. It’s not something I would do myself but I can see the advantages in paying someone.

ItsAlwaysSunnyOnMN · 02/08/2020 10:44

Maybe it’s part of his sales technique

You said yourself you had the most incredible night of your life

Personally would never consider paying for sex. No one needs to pay for sex it’s a choice they make and men have been conditioned to believe they have to have sex

emilybrontescorsett · 02/08/2020 10:46

O knew a woman who was an escort. She did escort men to events. Usually as their plus one in business events. I'm not saying she didn't have sex afterwards but she did accompany them to events.
I do think there is a demand for make escorts. Mostly they are good looking and will satisfy a woman sexually whereas meeting someone on a dating app quite often falls short of expectations I imagine.

VeeDubber · 02/08/2020 10:53

I'm confused, your OP clearly makes out that he's a prostitute but then you say it's all about career women who need a +1 for a corporate event.

No, I've never paid a man for sex and I don't think I ever would. I have a Womanizer and a Rabbit vibrator that, in the absence of a man, do the job just nicely without the risk of catching an STI. You claim he has regular STI tests, but the results of the test are null and void the minute he has sex with a new punter.

VeeDubber · 02/08/2020 10:56

Do you use the word escort to soften that’s what he is?

Yes I suspect 'escort' makes it much seem more palatable than 'prostitute'.

KittyHawke80 · 02/08/2020 10:58

A significant number of women pay male escorts - to accompany them to events; for companionship; or indeed for sex. And they pay handsomely: it's not 'against the wall for ten Lambert & Butler' so they wouldn't have to sleep with men in order to supplement their income 😂

SmileyClare · 02/08/2020 11:04

£500 for a shag? Is that what he charges then? I'd rather spend my money on something else and sort myself out!

I can't easily separate sex and emotion so although I quite liked the idea of just sex with no strings attached when I was single, I actually feel quite used or start to develop feelings if it's on going.

An escort/ prostitute wouldn't appeal to me at all.
How oddly old fashioned that some business women want to hire a man just so they don't have to be single at corporate events?! What's so wrong with turning up single? Why lie about it and have a pretend partner? He might turn out to be a complete part and then you're stuck with him all evening at your event. Grin

I would worry how much an escort is "performing" with me rather than being authentic. It sounds like you had a good night though Wink Are you hoping to see him again? Will it just be for sex nothing else?

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PurpleMackington · 02/08/2020 11:05

@Bluntness100 because even though the service is advertised as company for events, I'm under no allusions. He is sleeping with at least some of his clients.

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PurpleMackington · 02/08/2020 11:08

@SmileyClare he charges £200 per hour to escort a client.

I did wonder if I would worry that he would be putting on an 'act' but needn't have worried. He clearly enjoyed himself, as did I. And I am seeing him tomorrow!

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Newwayofthinking · 02/08/2020 11:10

Prostitution is wrong on so many levels, both for males and females

ClickandForget · 02/08/2020 11:16

What's so wrong with turning up single?

Nothing apart from you can get stuck in conversations with people you don't know or don't particularly want to continue. It's not so you don't look like a saddo because you have no partner - for the person I know it's so she has (as I said earlier) a human base to retreat to. She doesn't hire a young good looking stud. Just a similar-age presentable escort. They don't usually turn out to be prats tbf. They know what their job is.

SmileyClare · 02/08/2020 11:21

£200 an hour sounds absurdly expensive. Does he do this for a living? I mean he probably only has to have one punter a week for a few hours to make a reasonable wage. Does he show off about it? I wouldn't find that attractive, it's all shallow isn't it.

Just make sure that you're heading into this with your eyes open. If you spend a lot of time with him, like his company and "connect" then you'd start to get feelings for him wouldn't you? Then it all gets very messy indeed.

Sorry to sound like your grandmother Grin

SimonJT · 02/08/2020 11:23

@KittyHawke80

A significant number of women pay male escorts - to accompany them to events; for companionship; or indeed for sex. And they pay handsomely: it's not 'against the wall for ten Lambert & Butler' so they wouldn't have to sleep with men in order to supplement their income 😂
My job is very corporate, at functions it is fairly common to see older male and female attendees with what are clearly escorts. Some aren’t at all shy and will happily announce it!
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PurpleMackington · 02/08/2020 11:26

He hasnt bragged about it, I wouldnt find that attractive either. Agree it is expensive but we are in the south east where everything seems more expensive, and he is also insanely gorgeous and in very good shape.

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albatrossdreams · 02/08/2020 11:27

They’d also want to give you the best experience in the hope you’ll be a repeat customer. It’s not something I would do myself but I can see the advantages in paying someone

I would have assumed that is the advantage of paying too - you get to control the encounter, it's centred on your pleasure and hopefully the guy knows his way around a woman's body. You might get that off a random from tinder but its highly unlikely.
I still wouldn't do it. I only want to have sex with someone who genuinely fancies me.

SmileyClare · 02/08/2020 11:30

Simon yes I'm sure that goes on. I find it such a weird set up though. Either you're pretending all evening that you have a partner oh hi this is my fiance Craig, he works in finance or some rubbish. Then you might have more questions, where did you meet? what a farce!

The other alternative to announce to the room that you've hired a prostitute for the evening is worse! You're advertising to everyone that you're using someone for sex and wouldn't that be completely humiliating for the escort as well. Treating them like a commodity.

WhattheHhashappened · 02/08/2020 11:31

Do you see this as getting a freebie or do you actually like the man? You say you’re seeing him tomorrow so he obviously likes you.

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PurpleMackington · 02/08/2020 11:34

I like him. Not in a "going to get emotionally attached" or wanting to date him, but certainly as someone I enjoy spending time with and very much enjoy sleeping with!

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SwedishEdith · 02/08/2020 11:42

£200 an hour sounds absurdly expensive. Does he do this for a living? I mean he probably only has to have one punter a week for a few hours to make a reasonable wage.

Can't be making anything/much now if escorting women to events?

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PurpleMackington · 02/08/2020 11:45

He doesnt do it for a living, he actually runs a couple of businesses.

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ClickandForget · 02/08/2020 11:45

Either you're pretending all evening that you have a partner oh hi this is my fiance Craig, he works in finance or some rubbish. Then you might have more questions, where did you meet? what a farce!

It doesn't have to be like that. Escort can be introduced as a friend.
Doesn't have to be a fiance or husband or partner, and no lies are needed.
In the instance I'm aware of, the woman wouldn't be engaging in that minutiae of small talk anyway, and the rest of the people are essentially strangers (apart from the business connection) so unlikely to ask where they met. He's just a friend after all. And an excuse to be more in control of your own time should you find yourself stuck in a gaggle you want to extricate yourself from. A human base to retreat to, as I've said before. It's really as simple as that.

ClickandForget · 02/08/2020 11:50

The other alternative to announce to the room that you've hired a prostitute for the evening is worse! You're advertising to everyone that you're using someone for sex and wouldn't that be completely humiliating for the escort as well. Treating them like a commodity

But if you've hired an escort for an event, for the reasons I've described, you haven't hired a prostitute. It involves no sex at all.
Closer to a PA to be honest. Or a minder.

SmileyClare · 02/08/2020 11:53

Do you hire escorts for events clickandforget? Hiring a pa or a minder from a recruitment agency would be cheaper than £200 an hour. I'm still not quite getting it.

ClickandForget · 02/08/2020 11:54

Or as my husband has just observed, someone to hold your handbag while you go for a pee. Don't know where that came from.