He stood me up, now he's texted. Gather round ladies

[WhosThatGirl89]

For those who followed my thread from yesterday about being stood up. Well guess what? He's just texted. Note its not on WhatsApp. Heres what he said "sorry I couldn't make lunch the other day (yesterday!) Something came up I couldn't get out of. If I could've made it I would have"

Classic. Any witty replies?

Just reply saying I don't think this is going to work out Paul (or some other name that isn’t his name). Then send no more responses regardless of what he replies.

As he openly lied and blocked you when he knew you were already at the venue, I'd have to say "fuck off" and block if I were you. I think you have to block, as if you get more messages, it will remind you of him every time and you need to try to forget him now. What a horrible bastard though!

@TenShortStories

"Totally understand, I had a friend who had a toileting accident a few mins away from a date once too. These things happen to people who find dating nerve-wracking, it's nothing to be ashamed of, perhaps bring spare undies next time you meet someone though... just in case?"

Then block before he can reply and set you straight.

If you do reply PLEASE send this and block!

@WizardOfAus - yeah, it was a great one. OP look up the Mnetter "Runninginrain" is is mindblowingly brilliant.

@Communardo - you've managed to walk away from a LTR without a comment, but you can't walk away from a MN tread without a comment?

I vote send just the k 😄

OP, I found the thread. It’s called, DUMPED BY TEXT:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3800477-Dumped-by-text?pg=1

As I say, it’s a masterclass in dignified silence.

The loser you’ve been seeing will also go crazy if you DON’T REPLY.

Don’t reply. I think it will have more of an impact than “whose this”. The best thing in my opinion is just to keep him wondering what you’re thinking.

That must be upsetting, OP. I'm sorry.

As some PPs have suggested, I suspect absolute radio silence by you will give you more entertainment from his future communications and be better than any 'witty' answer.

He's saved you future heartache with this behaviour as he would never have been good enough and just acted this was later when you had more emotional investment. It's possible he was seeing someone else.

Good luck in finding someone good. Success is the best revenge.

There is simply no point replying. He wasn't nice. Just block and delete him

what an arsehole. Unless he had a heart attack on his way there, he has some cheek.

I do like the red flag reply!! That or maybe just laugh at him - 'lololol can't believe you think you can text me after that. Move along.'

He's not on Facebook as far as I know.

Ah. That old chestnut.

None of the smart arse replies will make a difference to this bellend. I would honestly ignore OP.

IF I did feel I had to reply then if, for example is name is James, I would just put 'Thanks Dave'. 😊

I think i’d reply with ‘yesterday was inexcusable, don’t contact me again’ let him know he was an arse and that you don’t stand for it

Agree that no reply is the response that will cut him down the most.

You won't get the truth out of him, and what could he say anyway, it doesn't matter.

Just let him know that YOUR bar was higher than him. Any response like I had a nice time without you, although funny and lighthearted, might just make him think that you're still an iron in his fire.

Do either one of two things...
Nothing, don’t reply or...
Me and your wife have had a good giggle about it...

@NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1

He's not on Facebook as far as I know.

Ah. That old chestnut.

Yes, I had this one too once. He slipped up and said something he'd read on facebook.

"Hey, no problem!! I actually met up with someone so much nicer and more respectful than you. We shagged on the table, I recommend the pad Thai!"

@WizardOfAus

OP, there was a thread on here at the beginning of the year about a girl who was DUMPED by text after THREE years. Her boyfriend messaged her in the middle of the night saying they weren’t working out and he signed off with, “no need to reply.”

The amazing thing is, she didn’t reply (Despite being desperate to) and it drove her ex-boyfriend absolutely batshit crazy. He ended up bombarding her with texts saying things like, “don’t you think you’re being horribly childish by not responding.” And also sent her messages trying to reminisce about their time together. She didn’t reply. NOT ONCE. And that bastard ex-boyfriend learnt a hard and horrible lesson.

Find that thread. It’s a fucking master class in walking away with dignity.

God, I remember that. Amazing woman!

Ugh. It probably isn't worth replying but I would be wanting to say something like 'at your age, you should have learnt not to treat people so disrespectfully. I'd appreciate it if you didn't contact me again.'

I'll give it a read wizardofaus
Some of these are making me smile though so thanks for keeping me company

bluebellsareblue 😂 brilliant

That dumped by text thread is pure gold. Not replying drove him absolutely insane - I love it. It’s genius.

Ignore and block.

I’d be all out of witty replies and go for get fucked and don’t waste any more of my time.