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He stood me up, now he's texted. Gather round ladies

530 replies

WhosThatGirl89 · 26/07/2020 19:40

For those who followed my thread from yesterday about being stood up. Well guess what? He's just texted. Note its not on WhatsApp. Heres what he said "sorry I couldn't make lunch the other day (yesterday!) Something came up I couldn't get out of. If I could've made it I would have"

Classic. Any witty replies?

OP posts:
DaisyYellow · 26/07/2020 20:52

Don’t worry about it. You’ve saved me time by letting me know you’re an asshole early on.

SuperlativeScrubs · 26/07/2020 20:52

And definitely do block! Interesting or not, if this is how he plays on a third date god knows how abusive he could be in future.

Beamur · 26/07/2020 20:52

Ignore..stay strong!

Communardo · 26/07/2020 20:53

@WhosThatGirl89

It is difficult to not reply! I'm trying to be strong here
You sound quite desperate op Two dates and two threads on mn , and you are trying to “be strong “ I’ve walked away from long term relationships with less angst than this
Jojo19834 · 26/07/2020 20:53

I like the suggestion for the K. He may well come back after that as you have responded, but then ignore him

Staplemaple · 26/07/2020 20:53

He'll be more annoyed at your silence. I wouldn't block him yet though, I predict he will send another pathetic message soon, then block.

FancyPants20 · 26/07/2020 20:54

Definitely don't reply. It will drive him insane. Leave it a week and then block him.

LeatherFlanny · 26/07/2020 20:54

Do not reply! I had a similar thing happen once but I clearly showed that I was bothered. I will never forget walking into a pub a while later and seeing him and his mates looking at me and laughing. Just don't reply.

burnoutbabe · 26/07/2020 20:54

You could do an

OMG you are alive, I called all the hospitals and police to track you down as assumed you'd been run over.

Or maybe just the thumbs up response.

midsomermurderess · 26/07/2020 20:54

Don't reply. He's not, as they say, worth it.

Chuly · 26/07/2020 20:54

Don't dignify that with an answer.

Whilst it's fun to imagine any number of smart ass responses, all that will do is give him an 'in', and show him that he's still getting rental space in your head.

Honeyroar · 26/07/2020 20:55

“You were never going to be marriage material, I just thought you’d be a bit of fun. But you weren’t even that! So I’m not up for wasting any more time on you. Sorry.”

DifficultPifcultLemonDifficult · 26/07/2020 20:55

OP does not sound desperate at all Confused

She has been treated horribly, and it would be tempting for anyone to want to reply in those circumstances.

FrolickingLemon · 26/07/2020 20:55

I'd put money on him being attached.

Definitely ignore. And count it as a lucky escape. The ignoring becomes very easy when you tell yourself he has shown you he is a twat and you are worth more.

Not worth any more of your time.

daisypond · 26/07/2020 20:56

Definitely don’t say sorry!

NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1 · 26/07/2020 20:56

Could he be partnered up OP? Maybe thats it. What does his facebook status say?

sadeyedladyofthelowlandsea · 26/07/2020 20:56

Ignore, but don't block. I know how bloody tempting it is to reply with something cutting, but then you'll be waiting to see if he replies, which will make you even more wound up! Just leave it, so he's the one left hanging, just as you were yesterday.

Original poster
WhosThatGirl89 · 26/07/2020 20:57

Well good for you communardo
I'm saying these things in a lighthearted way. If I was actually desperate I'd be begging to see him again. If my pathetic life offends you then don't read about it

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peachypetite · 26/07/2020 20:58

Don’t let this take over your evening. Seriously. Just forget him.

DurhamDurham · 26/07/2020 20:59

I think arranging another date and then standing him up just gives the whole sorry episode too much of your head space.
He sounds awful and useless and not worth your time and energy. Send a laughing emoji and block. Job done.

Russellbrandshair · 26/07/2020 20:59

She has been treated horribly, and it would be tempting for anyone to want to reply in those circumstances

I agree. But someone who does what he did isn’t going to suddenly self reflect and say wow you’re totally right! I was a giant dick. I’m so so sorry is he? He’s looking for a quick ego boost. He WANTS a reply, any reply to show to him that he can still affect her emotionally. It makes him feel wanted and attractive to elicit a response. The OP is never going to get a decent explanation from this twat. By replying it’s just hammering home the message that she is bothered and hurt by him. He doesn’t care!!!

Ignoring him is far more insulting to him.

Original poster
WhosThatGirl89 · 26/07/2020 20:59

He's not on Facebook as far as I know. I can't remember his last name 😅

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MarkRuffaloCrumble · 26/07/2020 21:00

Yeah, its al fun and games saying these snarky replies on here, but don't send him any of them, he'll just justify to himself that he was right to stand you up because you're obsessed or nuts etc.

No reply says everything you need him to know. He's insignificant and rude so deserves to be ignored.

auntieElle · 26/07/2020 21:00

@Russellbrandshair has got it right.

DailyKegelReminder · 26/07/2020 21:02

Agree with PP. Any reply you give him wont make him suddenly realise hes an arsehole, or think dammit I really lost out. If he can stand someone up after saying he is on his way he is obviously a dickhead.

I would ignore it.