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He stood me up, now he's texted. Gather round ladies

530 replies

WhosThatGirl89 · 26/07/2020 19:40

For those who followed my thread from yesterday about being stood up. Well guess what? He's just texted. Note its not on WhatsApp. Heres what he said "sorry I couldn't make lunch the other day (yesterday!) Something came up I couldn't get out of. If I could've made it I would have"

Classic. Any witty replies?

OP posts:
userabcname · 27/07/2020 08:06

Definitely keep ignoring. It's working! I sense a mantrum coming....

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WhosThatGirl89 · 27/07/2020 08:13

Morning. Woke up to this message

"If you ever want to chat or meet up just drop me a message. I'd like to stay in contact"

Lol. Thanks for all the messages everyone. I'm pretty sure I would've replied to him if I hadn't posted on here!

OP posts:
MarshaBradyo · 27/07/2020 08:14

Good work op. Must feel a lot better now. You did very well.

auntieElle · 27/07/2020 08:36

Haha, you win! And just by keeping your silence! 🎉🎉

Ishihtzuknot · 27/07/2020 08:38

He knows a lost a good person now he’s panicking that you didn’t run into his arms forgiving him! Well done for being strong and ignoring him

Ishihtzuknot · 27/07/2020 08:39

*he

OhioOhioOhio · 27/07/2020 08:42

Omg. Ignore. Seriously. What a dick. And he definitely doesn't deserve any contact. It's so weird. I have a very nasty xh who didn't give a shit about me in our marriage. As soon as I realised, long after separation, the grey rock method the better. And weirdly it drives him nuts. He is now desperate for contact.

daisypond · 27/07/2020 08:59

Yes, you win now. Continue to ignore.

Malin52 · 27/07/2020 09:07

@MarkRuffaloCrumble

Yeah, its al fun and games saying these snarky replies on here, but don't send him any of them, he'll just justify to himself that he was right to stand you up because you're obsessed or nuts etc.

No reply says everything you need him to know. He's insignificant and rude so deserves to be ignored.

Absolutely this. Some of the suggested replies are really cringe and obviously made up and they'll make you look like you are a lunatic! I'd probably respond factually with a clear subtext that he's a twat and you have no intention of seeing him again. "I see, well have a nice life then" should do it.
caramelbun · 27/07/2020 09:09

Yes well done OP, ignore and now block. Being stood up is unacceptable full stop.

CF still thinking he might get a shag out of this no doubt. Angry

AlternativePerspective · 27/07/2020 09:13

I wouldn’t block. I would only ignore. And I would open every single message just so that he knows that you’ve seen them, and are ignoring them.

I think that knowing you’re being ignored is far more powerful than thinking you’ve been blocked. Iyswim.

daisypond · 27/07/2020 09:15

Do not say "I see, well have a nice life then"!
Do not reply. You do not care whether he has a nice life or not. Don’t give the impression that you do. He is irrelevant to you.

Honeyroar · 27/07/2020 09:16

He’s hysterical, isn’t he!

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 27/07/2020 09:16

Don’t block this is too much fun....also no point responding now

LunaNorth · 27/07/2020 09:17

I love that you haven’t replied, OP. Class act.

Staplemaple · 27/07/2020 09:18

Good for you OP, nothing gets them riled and wanting contact like when you ignore them. Just whatever you do stay strong and don't ever contact him again no matter what he says, you deserve better.

GoGadgetGo · 27/07/2020 09:25

If on Whatapp. I would not even open the messages if he sends any more, then he will know they are being ignored.
Reading them will give him the misconception that you have an interest in what he has to say. You don't.
I would block though. Youve had the text. There is no more to see here.

AlwaysOnAbloodyDiet · 27/07/2020 09:27

Well if ever we needed proof, this thread has just done it.
Silence is golden... you win! Grin

I bet if you had replied, either an angry text or an accepting his apology one, he wouldn't have replied.
It's your silence that is torturing him 👏 😂 He can't bear you to have the upper hand

AudacityOfHope · 27/07/2020 09:30

Thank god you've maintained your silence.

Some of the 'hilarious' replies on here are 😱😱😱😱

doingitforthefrill · 27/07/2020 09:31

What an absolute bastard he is!

I would of ended up texting back immediately and regretting it soon after! Ignoring is the way to go though, it’s clearly really bothering him hence why he’s text so many time already Grin

EL8888 · 27/07/2020 09:37

Hahaha love this!!! Well done for ignoring and yeah continuing your ignore seems the best policy here

Smallsteps88 · 27/07/2020 09:37

”If you ever want to chat or meet up just drop me a message. I'd like to stay in contact”

Wow does he think you’re so desperate for his premature climaxing cock that you’ll cling on for any scrap of attention? Grin

Really has a massively inflated self of his own worth to your life.

dublingirl66 · 27/07/2020 09:37

'I'm just hugely relieved to have dodged this bullet

BYE BYEEEEEEEE'

diddl · 27/07/2020 09:44

He's coming across as desperate isn't he?

Wonder why when he so casually threw away the chance of meeting up?

"I'd like to stay in contact"-he must like talking to himself!

Hangingover · 27/07/2020 09:53

You win OP. IGNOREance is bliss.

I fully predict in about a week's time at 2am on a Saturday you'll get a "Hi, wht u up to?".

These fuckboys are so bloody predicable.