How has your 'one that got away' aged?

[SisterNight]

Inspired by the childhood crush thread. Has anyone else been nosey and tracked them down for a snoop on social media?

Mine has adorable twins and looks very happily married. He's aged lovely, still got a twinkle in his eye. I think of him from time to time (especially when DH is being irritating ) and still think he could've been 'the one' he just sadly didn't feel the same way about me. Despite us being very good friends and having the odd drunken fumble over the years which looking back was as he knew how I felt about him.

We lost touch in our twenties for no particular reason other than me making the permanent move to the town I went to uni in and general drifting apart. Years have passed by but just the thought of him makes me feel like an awkward silly teen again!

Please share yours with me so I don't feel so pathetic

aged well. Still very intelligent but married to his career (medicine) which he pretty much warned me would happen

No kids. A few LTR but I saw him at a mutual friends wedding 2 years ago and he said they never work out because he focuses on work too much. Not shocked. He also told me he compared his partners to me...and if we had stayed together we would be married with kids (dont think so...read evidence of MARRIED TO THE JOB!)

Anyway hes a lovely guy and I think of him fondly

Huh, mine was the one that got away until I found out the fucker was married AFTER he last made a randomised appearance in my life and we had a cracking weekend together. I had no idea. It was pre-social media. Tosser. Shame, I still have reminiscent moments!

They have changed quite dramatically looks-wise, but also, and more significantly,I realise I had no real common ground with them and would have been extremely unhappy I think had something worked out in the way I thought I wanted at the time.

I often think of the Garth Brooks song “Unanswered Prayers”.

We still chat every now and again, maybe once a year, just a general hello, how are you conversation. DP knows and is completely fine about it. I’m happily shacked up with a baby on the way and as much as the ex was a lovely chap and I think highly of him we would never have worked out. Not in a million years.
That said, he is objectively attractive, long term single but has turned into a bit of a conspiracy theorist which is annoying.

I don't think I have one - obviously I have exes but am v happy they are for various reasons! I have looked some of them up in bored/nosey moments but I'm always shocked at how old they look... I must look just as old but I suppose as I see my face everyday I don't notice - or I'm just in denial 😆

I’ve not seen him for almost 13 years but I still think about him, not spoken to him either. I’d imagine he has aged a lot, probably still a Romeo, he was absolutely no good as long term I don’t think but I absolutely adored him and I still think about him

Well, mines exactly the same as he was 16 years ago. I still speak to him and I helped him recover after his divorce. I think he’s the most genuine person I know.

And he still looks good surfing. He laughs at my jokes, he’s adventurous and he’s the best cuddler.

I just hope that a nice woman comes along and they have a family because he’d be an amazing dad.

Anyway, that’s enough of me being temporarily smitten 🤣

I did a bit of social media snooping during lockdown and yes he has, better than me anyway. I did realise reading his posts that things worked out for the best, as we really did have little in common and now even less. I do think I would get the "butterfly tummy flip" if I was to bump into him again though.

Mine has turned into a red trousered, yellow socked prick. I bumped into him a few months ago and he was just so very loud and for some reason has adopted a Boris Johnson-esque accent. It’s a shame as I’d always remembered him fondly but seeing him in real life just shattered all my memories of him being a decent bloke.

Friends on social media. We were in school together. He’s still ridiculously hot.

One of mine looks like Jabba the Hut now.

Surprisingly unwell. An old high school friend got married and he looked well, but there were lots of photos and people from our old school congratulating him and all I could think while seeing them all is 'why are pretty much all the guys I went to school with balding so much??' I'm in my mid-thirties and a few guys I know now are like that, but dozens of my old classmates are looking sparse on top and overall really bleh, including some old flames. I've joked that there must be something wrong in the water.

There is only one that got away I'm curious about on occasions, but I haven't seen anything about her years.

I wish I knew. Can't find him on social media - he moved to Australia when we were in our 20s so could still be out there. No mutual friends any more. Shame, he was so hot, and just a lovely bloke.

The actual one that got away has remained devastatingly handsome, slim, and still has nice hair. I know this because he is slightly famous in his field and I have stalked him online, just to see. 🤭

Glad I'm not alone! Red trousered, yellow socked prick made me chuckle

I often wonder if I think of him so fondly because of the rose tinted glasses effect. I think lockdown has made me especially nostalgic.

flopsy is your one that got away Mr Tumble?

I looked mine up on social media and he looks absolutely dreadful, you'd never know that he was very good looking when he was much younger. We haven't spoken in 40 years!

Mine looks better with age :(

Still hot and I still would (if not married)

The guy I lost my virginity to looks like Gru now.

He's aged badly, especially compared to DH, and has moved into a line of work I'm fundamentally morally opposed to, so I now regard it as a bit of a lucky escape.

He's married with at least one DC though, so presumably he's happy.

Haha social media stalked one these past few months. Soooo good looking still.
Shame I can't say the same.

Oh God he's still sexy AF 😩 Trains hard and has an amazing body (we are early/mid 30s).

He's single but dating. No kids and no LTR that I know of.

I love my DH, I love my DCs I have with him and our family unit, but I'd definitely be with this 'one who got away' if the timing was different for both of us at the time.

Mine's totally fucked up. Breaks my heart.

He was so intelligent, good looking, gift of the gab and all that.... But always very genuine and fundamentally a good person. I thought he'd rule the world one day. Had a very fucked up childhood though, in and out of care and with a mother who was very mentally unwell.

He's a drug addict now, and currently missing several teeth through getting into fights (and probably the drugs, but some were knocked out). No secure accommodation. Big into conspiracy theories and I suspect needs a lot of mental health support.

I'm happily married now but it does still upset me to see where he's ended up. We message now and again (with DHs knowledge - we were only kids really when we were together) but its so hard to reach him when he's on the drugs.

Mines dead