How has your 'one that got away' aged?

[SisterNight]

Inspired by the childhood crush thread. Has anyone else been nosey and tracked them down for a snoop on social media?

Mine has adorable twins and looks very happily married. He's aged lovely, still got a twinkle in his eye. I think of him from time to time (especially when DH is being irritating ) and still think he could've been 'the one' he just sadly didn't feel the same way about me. Despite us being very good friends and having the odd drunken fumble over the years which looking back was as he knew how I felt about him.

We lost touch in our twenties for no particular reason other than me making the permanent move to the town I went to uni in and general drifting apart. Years have passed by but just the thought of him makes me feel like an awkward silly teen again!

Please share yours with me so I don't feel so pathetic

I didn't realise we were only allowed one each? I have several! Maybe half a dozen - and each one is looking great and living their best life. We are now all in our late 50s early 60s and if social media is to be believed every one of these men is happily married with loads of great teenage/adult kids and grandkids, enjoying a great many exotic holidays every year and each and every one has aged 110% better than me.

We're still good friends, but I do not find him the slightest bit attractive now. It's not that age hasn't been good to him, he just has an odd style, and my taste in men has dramatically changed!

He still looks great, I'm his 'one that got away' too and when I see him occasionally, he always slightly wistfully tells me 'I've not changed a bit'
He's married, dc, I don't ever see him with his wife but when we meet up it's always in a crowd and dh really likes him.
Dh is aware we had a 'thing' but he's secure enough in our relationship to not worry, he also still thinks I'm a total catch and seems to think every man must fancy me (they don't!) so he'd expect my male friends to secretly fancy me anyway (again, they really don't!!)

I have no idea as he doesn't have social media and googling brings up nothing. He isn't even on his family's social media!

My ‘one that got away’ broke my heart and it took me a long time to get over him and realise that he had some really unpleasant personality traits. I wouldn’t get back with him for all the tea in China, but I look him up occasionally. He has no social media presence (unless it’s under a fake name) but he seems to be doing well for himself. Not surprised though, he came from an extremely privileged family to his eternal shame, he fancied himself as a bit of a tortured artist type!

First boyfriend has been married and divorced, no kids that I can see, and can’t believe it but has settled quite close to where I live (like within 100 miles). Still had all his hair .

@notangelinajolie feel similar to you here re the eyes and the realisation taking a while. Maybe because I never pursued anything with "the one that got away", the rose tinted specs are in full force and I daydream about him sometimes. Alot more during lockdown it must be said! We never would have worked but I very much wish I'd had the guts to snog him and shag him and have a lovely summer fling by the sea haha. Either way I would have been hurt, so may aswell have had fun

Mine passed away suddenly at 39 from an undiagnosed heart condition leaving a wife and 3 children.

He was my first love and I was still in tough with his family, although not with him directly. We were friends before we dated and always hoped we would be again one day but it wasn't to be.

Bald lol but if I was single I still would!

Mine is definitely aging very well in the looks department and has become super successful in his field, despite it seeming like he’d be a bit of a loser in our younger years.

However he has never grown up and is still selfish and immature according to a mutual friend.

They are both looking hot and appear to be great fun lm afraid!

@MintyCedric sorry to hear that. Earlier this year l found a long ago ex has killed himself. Very sad for his family, especially his children

His hair is receding even further. I don’t remember his eyes being as close together either. In retrospect he was a bit of a dick and very controlled by his parents so that might be effecting how I view him. He still lives with his parents and brothers and is trying to ‘establish himself’ as a professional musician in a band. He is a waiter. Not particularly attractive now to a grown up woman but kind of charming when you’re 19!

I fell madly, deeply, hopelessly in love at age 16. He was soo cute. His family moved to Australia a year later. I married someone else. And divorced 10 years later. Twenty years later ex H is very overweight, has wrinkles upon wrinkles and is a raging alcoholic.

My one that got away still looks like a young David Essex. I have heard on the grapevine that he has recently divorced. I’m counting my pennies in the hope I can afford a trip to Australia. I may only need a one way ticket.... We can all dream 😁

Quite well tbf. He's successful, married and I know they were wanting to start a family but I don't think it happened for them. We don't talk much, just happy birthday/new year messages, the odd random one.

Mine was when I was 18 and living in a different country. He was a bass player, tall, lean, long hair and a beard.
He was 9 years older than me and smoked too much dope but was shy and gentle. I hoped he would ask me to stay when my dad's job finished and we had to go home.
He didn't but got in touch 3 years later to tell me he missed me.
I was pregnant with DS1 and my horrible now ex husband made me write a shitty letter telling him to never contact me again.
He's on social media, never married and apart from cutting his hair short and going grey looks just the same. I feel wistful sometimes but he was a really irresponsible person and I love my long haired bearded dh2 more than I can say.
Actually they're quite similar apart from the irresponsibility and dope smoking so I must have a type!

@MadCattery what a wonderful post. So pleased for you both

He's happily married with lovely children. But he's made such disastrous financial decisions he's squandered their money. And despite a brilliant start to his career, and being in a legal field that ought to have made him rich, he's made such bad decisions he's lucky to still be practicing.
So glad he did marry someone else. It could have been me he dragged down to penury.

I can’t find an online photo of mine, so I’m assuming he’s not looking too good. Career going well, though. I read his publications.

Mine has done very well professionally. He's a consultant at a large London teaching hospital. He continues to be charming and handsome and lives in a gorgeous flat, just south of the river.

He's very happily married to an equally handsome and charming Frenchman and they make a much better couple than we ever did 😆

Mine is still a hot date. He's worked all over the world and married a gorgeous and fun French woman he met in Japan and they've recently moved back to my city so I've met them at a couple of parties. We've still got loads in common and friends in common and my partner likes them so hope we get to hang out once corona has gone.