How has your 'one that got away' aged?

[SisterNight]

Inspired by the childhood crush thread. Has anyone else been nosey and tracked them down for a snoop on social media?

Mine has adorable twins and looks very happily married. He's aged lovely, still got a twinkle in his eye. I think of him from time to time (especially when DH is being irritating ) and still think he could've been 'the one' he just sadly didn't feel the same way about me. Despite us being very good friends and having the odd drunken fumble over the years which looking back was as he knew how I felt about him.

We lost touch in our twenties for no particular reason other than me making the permanent move to the town I went to uni in and general drifting apart. Years have passed by but just the thought of him makes me feel like an awkward silly teen again!

Please share yours with me so I don't feel so pathetic

Mine looked like marti pellow back then (late 80s).. But lacked any ambition or drive.. We are friends on Facebook now and occasionally chat. To be fair, he still looks pretty decent. No regrets though as we are both happy with our lives.

Mine still loves himself immensely, still dresses in the same sort of fashion that he did at 16 and is married to someone who looks like she could be his mum!

I have two! Gosh that makes me sounds very weird.

First was my first kiss and first love. Went out of and off for 5 years from aged 14 to 18. Never actually did the deed, lots of fumbling. He used to play me big time. He used to hit on me when his other girlfriends left the room! I was so enthralled by him. Ergh.
It took my many years to stop thinking of him with stomach butterflies.
We ended up a friends. Occasionally speak on social media. He married late and has one child. Looking at his life now we would have never been suited. If he walked in now I'd be pleased to see him but definitely would have butterflies.

My second one was my college best friend. Steve. Oh god I loved him. Total, pure and simple un-required love. I'd say he had a look of Morrisey about him. The arsehole knew I adored him (as I told him) and he used to sleep with me. God the shame. I had no self worth. He used to pick me up and sleep with me when he had no girlfriend or needed a shoulder to cry on.
Again it took years to get him out of my system. Not until I met DH in fact. We were in the same friendship group and they all came to my wedding. I think that was the last time I saw him.
We're all nearly 50 now and our college friendship group has drifted over the years. I haven't seen or heard from in 15 years.

It's taken me years to trace him and he has no social media, but a few months back I found him on a work website with a mugshot. His hair is completely grey, and much older but he looks happy enough.
Again, I think I'd have hated a life with him.

I'm a much stronger person now!

I definitely would *not have butterflies.

Mine is not exactly 'one that got away' as I broke it off. But he was my bf from 18-23 and my first experience of being completely and utterly consumed with love and passion.

He has aged terribly. He was beautiful when young. Now, at 49, he is fat, bald, his nose has grown exponentially and he's not remotely attractive.

Mine's still with his girlfriend whom he met about six months after we split up because he didn't want to get tied down. He moved in after a couple of months but he's still not married to her and they have no children. On the other hand I met my husband a few years later and we've been married for 32 years.

@BobFleming The nose! Men's noses really grow don't they?

Mine is not anywhere near as "hot" as he was but he probably thinks the same of me!

Mine was quite devastatingly beautiful, back in the day. He’s now fat and average looking. Good.

What's this about noses? Does everyone nose grow?
Mine hasn't aged well either, belly, hair loss... And yes... I had thought a different nose!

Mine is now 63. I am 43 and it ended when I was 22. We've always stayed in touch.
He still makes my breath catch in my throat. It's funny because I fell in love with him at 19 and everyone said I was too young to know my mind/age gap would show etc etc. He was the one who rejected me ultimately. I would've married him and had his children and still felt the same about him as the first day I saw him.
Having said that, he wasn't right for me. I have the best husband now, who is also a fabulous father to our children. I wouldn't leave my marriage for my first love, even if the chance was there.

[quote GreekOddess]@BobFleming The nose! Men's noses really grow don't they?

Mine is not anywhere near as "hot" as he was but he probably thinks the same of me![/quote]
Yes the noses get a lot bigger

Badly but then so have i

My boyfriend from when I was 18 is really looking his age. I hadn't seen him or any photos until recently when I came across him on Facebook. I won't be contacting him, no point. He was lovely but it's in the past now and he seems happily married etc.

He looks his age but he looks great. He's just a more seasoned version of the young man I once knew and loved. I still feel great love for him though not in a sexual or even sensual way. I just think he's the loveliest man I ever met. We didn't work out because I think we knew that we wouldn't have worked out. Glad we figured that one out before we made a mistake.
He's done so incredibly well in life. But he was always going to do well. He's so talented and people just love working with him and being in his space. He is full of good energy and he just radiates kindness and love. I wasn't good enough for him, tbh. He's absolutely with the right woman. 17 years they've been together. No kids, which I think is a bit of a heartache but not enough to keep them from being totally happy and smitten. My love runs deeply for him. He's had so much goodness in his life and he deserves that. He's worked hard for it.

Bald but still has eyes that look deep into my soul whenever I see him.
Divorced twice.
Children with both wives.
And number 3 is about to leave.
He broke my heart but I reckon I had a lucky escape. I am so glad I didn't run after him.

My DH might be a bit grumpy sometimes (as am I) but 30 years married and he still loves me to bits. A million times more than baldy would ever have loved me.
To my eternal shame it took me years to work that out.

I'm still friends with him. He is fat and bald but bizarrely I still fancy him. He has a very nice wife and I have a very nice husband though so I wouldn't!

Really well. He's a professional martial arts teacher and champion. I so still would (if I wasn't married to and adore DH, of course!)

Mine hasn't aged well looks-wise necessarily but he seems to have found his calling work-wise not too long ago, which makes me really happy. He always saw what needed to be done but put most of his energy in chasing girls, drinking and dumb politicking. I think we complemented each other really well but with his stupid antics I never felt safe and eventually booted him out of my life. I still wonder if we've grown up enough now to be friends or maybe more, but I don't want to get in touch just to find out that he has a partner or his personal life is just as messy as it used to be.

Unlike my ex first love, my dh has not grown his nose. It seems to happen to a certain type of nose (and ears).

Mines aged not to bad though he had a hair transplant for his 40th which took a bit of getting used to.

I ended up friends with him and his now wife, she's lovely.

He's done well for himself and they live in an amazing house, she doesn't work and spends her life at the gym.

I have to work, boooooo

I think I kind of have 2 as well.

One was a LT relationship at uni. Relationship ended due to having to move apart for work/study. We're in touch occasionally. Still a lovely guy, looks same but grey, very fit still, though I think DH has the edge. He seems happily married with DC, and I'm happy for him. His career hasn't taken off like I expected it to though. I suspect his humour might have grated on me eventually, but overall would probably have been a happy relationship. God I miss his voice though. He had a lovely voice.

The other is now my best friend. Still incredibly bright, funny, and very good looking. But... not marriage material. It would be like being married to BBC's Sherlock (early episodes).

Oh, he popped up in my life a few years ago. There is something I cant place between us but it was never to be. Sad that he isn't in my life but I know it wasnt right. He's still good looking but not in the way he once was.

Aged very well. She was always a good looking blonde and still is. She's also now a senior police officer.

We dated five years, until we were 23 and broke up because he didn't think he'd want to get married and DEFINITELY not have kids. I married, had kids and split up with DH#1 after 22 years. And, ex is now my DH#2. If he had married and had kids, I wouldn't have been able to go back, but he never did. Just a couple of LTR. He says I am the alpha and the omega, the 1st and last. I know he's older and his hair is greying, but I honestly still see the 23 yr old boy that I loved. We've been back together now 13 years and it is like a never ending honeymoon. We are still making up for the time we missed together. Two managers at work married their girlfriends from their teens. I can't imagine being happier. We appreciate each other so much more than we did when we were young and I am so thankful for him and our marriage.

Aged not much for a 43 year old, looks pretty much the same ( which is a bit weird he's never grown up clothes wise/ hair is the same. He has however turned into a total and very single, childless, TWAT. Alas what I see on social media makes me cringe.