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Would it be unacceptable to make someone a 50th birthday present?

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Progress2019 · 16/07/2020 10:26

My best friend is 50 at the end of next month. I don’t see her much but I wanted to buy her something lovely, unfortunately the lockdown meant that we had no income at all, and have been living off our savings. Theres really hardly any spare money left.

Shes really hard to buy for at the best of times, as she owns a gift and antique shop. Shes not into fashion and beauty, and although shes a keen reader, she volunteers in the library, and I know she’d hate to receive books.

Her favourite book as a child was Heidi, and we have a thing, that whenever things are going badly with our lives (mostly child related, as neither of our teenagers were easy), we’d say ‘shall we go to the mountain?’ Or ‘my bags are packed, the cabins booked’, silly things like that.

Before lockdown, i’d bought her a really old copy of Heidi, and I was thinking, to go with it, I could make some felt bunting with mountains, trees, a log cabin, and maybe a goat. Is this a stupid idea? Her home is more quirky and eclectic, than minimalist or modern. I think I have all the materials, can sew and draw a bit.

My family would definitely not think something homemade was an acceptable present, especially for a milestone birthday but i’d love some more opinions. If it sounds shit, i’d rather know!

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CokeyCola · 09/09/2020 16:44

What did she give you for a big birthday? People can be very funny about these things.

Dinosauraddict · 09/09/2020 16:55

I just wanted to say OP that DH and I were gifted some handmade bunting earlier this year and we absolutely treasure it. It's beautiful (as is the one you made). It's hung up in our house over a fireplace and we love it. Some people are really grateful for home made presents (it came with a home made cake that we also appreciated but clearly didn't last as long)! Presents aren't about the money and I'm shocked and disappointed in your friend. Please don't take her reaction to heart.

Vintagevixen · 09/09/2020 16:57

Well I would have loved it. Hopefully she is being off with you for another reason, lockdown etc has done this to a lot of people. If it is because of that, then she is rude and ungrateful particularly if she has any knowledge of your financial situation....

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EndothermicHands · 09/09/2020 17:19

The bunting is bloody lovely and I would be so touched that a friend had gone to such an effort for my birthday. It is far quicker and easier to just buy something but so impersonal.

Sorry she is being off with you, I can't understand it, I thought lockdown would've shown people even more the importance of friends and relationships and putting things into perspective Flowers

MuseumOfYou · 09/09/2020 18:35

I would have loved that too. Much nicer than anything bought. I never thought I would say this and mean it - it really is the thought (and time and trouble) that counts.

Redshoeblueshoe · 09/09/2020 18:42

That's lovely. I'm sorry she didn't like it

HDready · 09/09/2020 18:53

Just wanted to add my voice too, I think it’s lovely and I’m sorry that your friend has been a bit off.

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