Night alone in a hotel

[Missushbb]

Am I weird for contemplating this? Just so tired, fantasising about some peace and quiet and a decent sleep!

Do it!! Even the anticipation in itself, will be amazing! I've stayed in student accommodation on a university campus before, whilst at a conference. Even though everything was very basic, it was bliss! Slept so well. Listened to music and read. I've also stayed in a nice hotel alone for one night and again, the actual experience was so much bigger/better than what it was, if you see what I mean. No endless chatter or arguments, no routines to follow, just your own agenda! Do it - you won't regret it

Ah yes, the anticipation of a night away!

Get to the hotel as early as you can (ie, morning). The hotel staff will look after your bags. You can then go out and check-in as soon as you can.

One of the worst thing about this lockdown is that I don't get to go away for an occasional night for work any more!

I was inspired to do this by MN.
Left 18 yr old at home. First time ever I hadn't dragged her along with me. One night in budget hotel, booze and nibbles in bed, breakfast, wander around new town then met up with dsis for lunch. Lovely time. Will do it again.

I regularly book myself into a hotel for a night just to get a whole night's sleep without a child joining me and to relax for a while. If you feel like it, and can do it I'd highly recommend it - I'm like a new woman when I get back.

Just looking at a couple of hotels just now. I'm surprised but heartened that this is not that unusual or weird! Just need to recharge my batteries, relax and enjoy some peace and quiet. No holidays this year and I know much worse things could happen, just desperate to get away from this house just for one night.

I’m currently sitting in my hotel, looking out over the balcony at a beach. It isn’t far from my home, but that’s the point: I don’t want to spend hours travelling to get here. My friend and I love what we called the “hotel experience”! It’s everything that has been described so far. The sense of freedom is amazing!

You’ll come back feeling refreshed and rejuvenated. You may also start to feel guilty, so don’t!!

Hmm so mentioned it to my dh who said he thought it was suspicious and a bit weird!! Ffs

Not suspicious or weird - the luxury of having a lovely bath, dinner and breakfast made for you and sleeping for as long as you like isn’t weird at all.

Suspicious and weird? Jeez, he’s a peach isn’t he?

I know!

Yeah cause you sound like you've got the time and energy to be up to no good 🙄. Is he not the sort to take himself off somewhere alone?

I love this! I used to travel a lot for work and I enjoyed staying in hotels by myself so much. I wanted a night in a hotel for mother's day, we had a takeaway of DP's favourite food instead.

Oh god that would be my ultimate dream - one night would be great, two would be amazing. If I got two nights, I would spend my whole day inbetween eating and drinking coffee in silence, napping, taking ridiculously long baths, reading. The only human interaction would be with room service. Absolute bliss!!

YANBU!

I need this and intend to book somewhere nice when the kids go back to school. Mid week because mt husband can't copy with the kids all weekend alone.

Likewise I can count the number of hours alone in the house since March on one hand. I'm sick of having to go out to get headspace as my husband never leaves the house.

@Firenight

I need this and intend to book somewhere nice when the kids go back to school. Mid week because mt husband can't copy with the kids all weekend alone.

Likewise I can count the number of hours alone in the house since March on one hand. I'm sick of having to go out to get headspace as my husband never leaves the house.

I swear, Partners wfh create a whole set of challenges for a lot of women.

My friends dh retired last year and it’s like you say, firenight: he never leaves the house so SHE has to leave the house to get headspace. Retirement of one’s DP is a huge challenge but at least that was generally later on with no small children around.
Now suddenly you’re together 24/7 often with D.C., and the wth may be long-term.

A lot of men just don’t get “hotel experiences” hence the OPs Dp’s objection

Sounds good. It's the sort of thing I used to fantasise about. During lockdown I've not seen anyone and it's been nice so need of the fantasy :-).

Yes I think that's it, he thinks i could relax here at home rather than spending money. My money so it's not that he thinks I'm wasting our money, just that he doesn't understand why you'd pay to stay somewhere! Ffs.

Both he and I have been WFH. He would be happy to stay in his little isolation bubble but I miss London, social interacrion, ad hoc coffees, work travel. And those nights away! He doesnt understand. Doesn't see how much of everything I do. And that I need a break

Yes, he works from home sometimes anyway, pre-Covid, and is shielding so will probably still work from home for the foreseeable future. It's just too much being in such close quarters ALL THE TIME!!

I know shielding is coming to an end soon, his workplace is encouraging wfh for the foreseeable future for most staff I think.

I’ve got young kids and I’ve been on a couple of spa days which have been wonderful. My husband has encouraged me to spend the night away and relax but I just felt too guilty. I’m not meaning to sound martyr-like, I don’t think any mother should feel guilty for wanting headspace, that’s just my own issues.

On the other hand, I love my family so much but this far into lockdown and working from home and us all being on top of one another, my patience is completely shredded. I’m on edge just expecting to be interrupted at any moment and can’t absorb myself into work or any task without someone asking me something. My husband seems to have got worse asking me endless questions too, or maybe it seems that way because I’m so agitated.

I’m actually jealous of my friends sending their kids to nursery or grandparents’ several days a week and being able to work in peace. Which is horrible! At this point, I don’t think I’d feel remotely guilty of a single night away alone, I’d bloody embrace it! Not talking to anyone except room service. Being ALONE. Sleeping, reading, watching whatever, all the wine and snacks. Absolute bliss. Go for it OP.

Agh I had a weekend in London last summer with my little boy, Harry Potter world; great memories which have been lovely to look back on these last couple of months.

That. Sounds. Amazing.

Yep, it's the constant questions!! No gumption to look for something, why bother when you can just ask me?! Honestly couldn't get a word out of my son today, headphones on, forced him to come a walk, then I went to the toilet and he was shouting through the door for me, he wanted to tell me about a video he'd been watching!! Feel a bit rubbish as I snapped at him but honestly, is it too much just to be able to go to the toilet in peace?!!