Brooklyn Beckham is engaged

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They've been dating 7 months and he's had a series of girlfriends.
Would you be happy if your 21 year old said they were engaged? Irrespective of who he is if he was my kid I would feel that he was too young and they'd not been together long enough. But what would I know?

He is probably bored and wants to do something. At least they needn't worry about money.

comments like the ones in this thread can be very damaging

Only if you choose to read them and choose to base your self-worth on the opinions of complete strangers.

You seem to be saying that nobody should say anything less than positive about any public figure, even if they actively choose to invite the public into their 'private' lives. Don't you think that these people bear any of the responsiblity for putting themselves out there and actively encouraging people to take an interest in them? Or do you believe in telling people only what they want to hear?

Not rtft but response to the op
7months is a short time to be engaged on that basis alone i would ask my child to consider all elements due to this.

But i was engaged at 20. At not a million years ago. Im now 30. And have been with dh for 12 years. Only 1 family had an "issue" with me being so young and they were not a parent and i calmly told them i didnt need their blessinv or approval so they could think what they wanted

Only if you choose to read them and choose to base your self-worth on the opinions of complete strangers.

The thing is, when people are vulnerable, they don’t always make the best choices. They read the comments to try to feel better about themselves and end up feeling worse.

You seem to be saying that nobody should say anything less than positive about any public figure, even if they actively choose to invite the public into their 'private' lives. Don't you think that these people bear any of the responsiblity for putting themselves out there and actively encouraging people to take an interest in them? Or do you believe in telling people only what they want to hear?

People can say what they like. It’s why you would want to say something so negative that I find interesting. Most of us have family and friends who post on social media, we often know it’s maybe not their real life. So a photo of a friend posting a photo of a meal out with their parents and siblings all smiles when you might know that they don’t actually get on well with their siblings. No one comments anything sarcastic or nasty they just say, lovely photo, hope you had a good time etc. We wouldn’t dream of saying anything negative even though they’ve put themselves out there. But then many people feel they can do it with ‘celebs’. I find it strange.

I suppose I just think ‘if you’ve got nothing nice to say, don’t say anything’ when you don’t know these people. If they had done really bad things then absolutely comment on them. But producing a book of photos, getting a job because of who your dad is.... they’re not really anything terrible. If these were people we knew in real life we wouldn’t comment negatively on our friends social media.
I see all social media as putting yourself out there but I wouldn’t comment on famous or none famous people’s posts negatively.

I suppose I just think ‘if you’ve got nothing nice to say, don’t say anything’ when you don’t know these people.

So I was right then?

You are saying that we should only say 'nice' things about people and feed their egos?

I agree with you that being gratuitously nasty is wrong, but I'm going to stand by what I said: If you're hyper-sensitive about the opinions of complete strangers, don't invite them into your life.

But producing a book of photos, getting a job because of who your dad is.... they’re not really anything terrible

No, but equally, nor is pointing out any of the above, is it?

And that's all anyone else has done here, but you're chastising them for being 'nasty'. Are we supposed to censor ourselves at all times, just in case Brooklyn Beckham might log onto MN and get 'upset' about 'nasty comments'?

Dh and I dated for 4 months before we began talking about our future together, engage at 20 and married at 22. Sometimes you just know... I’m now 38 and happily married.

So I was right then?

I think people can do what they they want. But I’m glad I don’t think it’s ok to be a nasty person. There’s usually a reason why people are nasty to others, a bit like the playground bully. I think people would get far more out of working on that reason than making negative, mocking, sarcastic comments about others. It’s often easier to just carry on and not face up to your own issues though.

You are saying that we should only say 'nice' things about people and feed their egos?

I’m saying why would you need/want to say something negative about someone you don’t know when they haven’t done anything terrible. There’s a reason for it even if the people doing it don’t realise.

If you're hyper-sensitive about the opinions of complete strangers, don't invite them into your life.

I totally agree. I don’t see why you’d invite strangers into your life even if you’re not sensitive. But then there are very few people’s opinions I care about and I haven’t grown up with social media being a thing. One of my kids was pissed off with something on snapchat, I said ‘just delete it’, you’d have thought I’d just told him our dog had died. Many, probably most, young people just can’t imagine life without social media. It’s crazy in my opinion, but perfectly normal to them.

I don’t think we’ll agree so I don’t think there’s much point in me posting again. I stand by my views and have given my reasons.

A bit of my last post didn’t post.

No, but equally, nor is pointing out any of the above, is it?

People have mocked not just pointed out things about him. Yes, I think mocking is nasty.

I was engaged at 19, after 3 months. Still together and very happy 25 years later. Its not perfect (what is?) but I feel lucky that we grew together when it would have been easy to grow in different directions in our 20's. Another family member is married to the girl he met at 14 and they've never been out with anyone else.

I wouldn't judge and would wish them luck.