Brooklyn Beckham is engaged

[Bouledeneige]

They've been dating 7 months and he's had a series of girlfriends.
Would you be happy if your 21 year old said they were engaged? Irrespective of who he is if he was my kid I would feel that he was too young and they'd not been together long enough. But what would I know?

Wouldn't be fair of me to criticise - I was engaged at 20 and a mother at 21, married at 22. Long happy marriage as well until i was widowed at 39. Well maybe I do everything at top speed...

His parents have had a successful marriage and met when they were young

Are you kidding?

His parents have had a successful marriage

[smirk]

I shall rephrase 😁

He takes photos doesn’t he?

Don’t we all?

All these nasty comments, it’s like being back at school. Why does a young man that you don’t know have such an effect on people I wonder?

My eldest dd is 21 as well. But she's about to go into her fourth year of college (well online or whatever it's going to be in September) and although she's been with her boyfriend just over a year I would not be happy if she got married. Anyway she says she wants to travel when she finishes college!

I met my do when I was 13............25 years on he doesn't seem to be going anywhere.

My first instinct is bad idea. However I've been with DH since I was 21 (although we didn't get married until i was 26) so I suppose it could work.

He's done a lot more in his life than the average 21 year old so it's not as though he's lead a sheltered life with no experiences

HAHAHAHA at Brooklyn Beckham, man of the world.

What I actually meant was that he is not like the average 21 year old in that he has done the travelling, met all kinds of people,etc. It's not like he has to save up to buy a ring, pay for a wedding, buy a house etc. Do you really think the average 21 year old is more of a "man of the world" these days?

@Bouledeneige - does he actually need a career! Careers aren't the be all and end all you know. He's 21 for crying out loud, not a child, let him do what he wants. Nothing to do with any of us and tbh all we know about him is what we read in the gossip columns.

I still think 7 months of relationship is far too short, jo matter what the age.

You can't know someone. You can't have seen them, how they react throughout the year and seasons. Do they love Christmas? Detest new year, get a bit SAD over the dark winter months, love spring daffs and tulips. Love parties and bbqs. Hate the wasps in summer. How do they react in stressful situations like a job loss, withdrawal and retreat? Share joys and are generous with their money when they get a new job or win something?

How quickly do you ever get to REALLY know someone? Irrespective of BB's young age, I would be Concerned.

I think I’d be more concerned tthat he was engaged after seven months, and it would cross my mind to wonder ifhis older girlfriend was dating him for his fame and money.

I suppose I’d be surprised as I’d prefer my son to be completing his tertiary education at that stage.

I certainly don’t agree with the poster who felt getting engaged after seven months at 21 was a sign of emotional maturity! Some will be mature and committed, some will not be. There are plenty of silly immature people who get engaged (let alone married).

So what she do people consider old enough to get engaged? Going by how many people have children without getting married, it must be quite old.

He briefly went out with one of DD1’s former classmates. I think it was good for her career for about 10 minutes.

@eaglejulesk I think having a purpose is important, and for many that manifests itself through a career.

Maybe it’s not needed in his situation, I’ve never been mega rich so can’t imagine what his day to day life is like... But surely, feeling useful and having things to work towards is motivating and satisfying. Maybe he has all that without a career, but what’s the long term sustainability of it?

And YY to the short space of time they've known each other. Even at that age, and even in their circumstances, it’s not long at all.

Who even cares honestly.

My 21 year old son has purchased a 3 bedroom house with his gf.
At his age I gave birth to him, getting engaged is nothing.

21 seems a fine age to get engaged to me, 7 month relationship also fine .
I was 17 and had been with now DH 4 months when we got engaged. I was 18 when we got married after a further 6 months. 20 years and 2 kids later still going strong.
Congratulaions and Good luck to Brooklyn and his fiancee I say.

I got married at 22 was a complete disaster friend of mine got married exactly same age a month before they are still together 23 years on. I can’t judge and I think my own children have seen enough to know that it didn’t work out great for me!

It is young but he seems to have had a lot of girlfriends so maybe he does just know. I ended up moving in with my husband earlier than logic would say is sensible. I suspect both sets of parents have consulted lawyers given the family wealth on both sides.

Why does a young man that you don’t know have such an effect on people I wonder?

I’ll give you a clue.

If he had been a truly anonymous 21 year old, I wouldn’t have given two hoots about his engagement. He is inherently uninteresting.

However! How do we know about this engagement, and his 21-year back-story? Oh yeah, because his parents have told us all about it. A number of posters have informed us that Brooklyn is 21 and thus an adult capable of making his own decisions, so let’s assume that Brooklyn has gone along with the strategy of ‘spare no detail of our lives, let’s release it all for profit [well most of it, nobody mention Rebecca Loos or the other women]’ and fully understands the consequences of living his life in that way.

Can you see that any family who presents their not-particularly-interesting son as a gifted photographer, pays to release a book of indifferent photographs, pays for a glittering launch party, all fully publicised of course, arranges for him to pretend to shoot a Burberry campaign, lets it be known that Brooklyn is at a ‘prestigious’ college to learn photography (who knows whether it is prestigious? In any event his place will have been paid for so the prestige is irrelevant) and arranges for Brooklyn to release a statement on starting at the college saying that there were several ‘fan girls’ amongst his fellow students swooning over him, is inviting derision when the real life son doesn’t quite live up to the publicity they have arranged?

Where was the announcement when Brooklyn dropped out of the ‘prestigious’ college after a couple of months? Oh yeah, conspicuous by its absence.

The Beckham family chose to sell their kids’ lives for profit. Do you think that people are daft enough to perpetually lap up the propaganda and never laugh at them? They have invited laughter and derision.

Well it can't be easy to be their son. I mean, very easy in some ways, but he must battle with feelings of how can I make my mark.

His parents probably tried to make it happen for him too soon. He's only 21. He will find what he likes and what he can make money from if he's lucky

Or he'll live off his parents' money. And if he does, that's hardly the end of world. Maybe he's going to end up grounded enough not to need the validation of strangers wondering if he has any talent or not.

If he gets married and it doesn't work, he can get divorced. He can afford that. Nobody will suffer that much.

I don't think that the Beckhams have sold their kids lives. They all seem to have chosen as teens to put themselves on line. Never heard any of them speak.