Siblings with close birthdays - yes or no

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I have a DD and thinking of trying for baby 2 soon. I am keen the new baby isn't born too close to DD's birthday because I worry it will make it less special, id like at least 6 weeks between and so would probably try and time things (as much as you can) to be due at least 2mo before or after her bday.

But DP thinks it doesn't matter.

Does anyone have experience either way?

My cousins are 5 years apart and have the same birthday, I know that isn't likely but they hated it! Lots of joint things, didn't feel special.

DP's brothers are twins but that's a bit different I think.

Yes, there's only three days between mine and I feel really sorry for them, the first one's cards have to get moved ( not taken down) to make way for the second one.
When they were little, they always had joint parties, they always have their own cakes but even then its not very special as we do it all again three days later.

All 3 of mine are within a month. It hasn't been a problem at all except we have a lot of cake in that month!

My godchildren are 3 days apart, GD was due on GS's birthday! They do okay so far, they're 7 and 9 and have had joint parties and separate parties, it's expensive and a bloody busy week for the parents but neither child seems to mind (although I guess it's early days!)

Dp and his sister have a 2 year age gap and their birthday was the same day. He was always very close with her and they had joint birthdays etc growing up. I think the morning was devoted to his sister and the afternoon was then his turn to get the attention. Worked really well for them.

My 3 are close together, you don't necessarily get much of a choice DD2 was 2 months early.

If you can time it it’s definitely worth keeping them apart. Having to shop/plan/organise children’s birthdays and parties is time consuming and can be expensive.

DS and DSS are 3 days apart (DSS is also 3 days apart from his little brother but the other way)
We have joint parties which are lovely

My brother and me are two days apart, my dad and niece both teo weeks later. It's fine. We all had our separate birthdays when young with our own cake, and as adults we have a friends birthday (unless milestone birthday, that might be a big party) and we decidd on one other day within those two weeks to see each other and exchange gifts. Mostly a neutral restaurant setting. We don't mind. Just make sure that as kids they do have their own day, party and cake.

Mine are consecutive days. It's tough on the first one because her cards etc have to come down overnight and it's never the same when I put them all up together on the third day. She's glad she doesn't actually share a birthday with her sister though so she's grateful for small mercies!

Mine, dp & 2 dc all have our birthdays In a 28 day period. It’s an expensive 4 weeks

I like it to spaced out nicely.
My 3 kids birthdays are all 3.5 months apart

Um I find this an odd post. But then there are twins in my family so birthday sharing comes with the territory. I think it's a non issue. Don't sweat.

If you can plan it like it then do it. I would. My dd and ds birthday are 2 months apart and with dh in between. Doesn’t seem as special. And also a very expensive time of the year for me!!

My three had due dates in the same month, 25th, 28th, 31st. Their actual birthdays are spread out by five weeks due to a combo of 1 being late and the other two being early. We’ve always treated their birthdays separately, no joint presents, only joint parties when they were very very little and only a couple of those. It’s been fine, if expensive for that month!

Mine are 3 days apart - it's never been a problem - they even had a shared party at ages 4 and 8 (not keen on it now as teenagers though!!)

Mine are 2 years apart and they love it. They get all excited together and treat it like Christmas.

There is one day between my mum and my sister.

There are four people who share my daughter's birthday. MIL, SIL and BIL.

Not really sure how my daughters birthday will turn out (she's 1 next year) but I may politely insinuate hers takes top spot since I selfishly don't want to share her first birthday..

My sister is two years younger but we have consecutive birthdays, had she waited a little bit longer then it would have been the same day.

We hate it, neither get the birthday they want. I don't want a fuss she does. I'm quite happy for just her birthday be celebrated but other people wont have it. It's always the birthday weekend (which ever is closes), growing up we couldn't afford to do two separate parties so it was a joint one with just family no friends as it would have made it too big/expensive.

Two of my dc's birthdays are two days apart. It wasn't planned that way. When they were small we did joint parties but stopped doing that when they turned 5&7. We now keep it as separate as possible for them. They have never complained about them being close together though.

My brother and I were born in the same month but a few days apart. I never found it an issue at all (am the elder). We had joint birthdays when we were children, which I liked. And I don’t think I ever thought about cards - I think they were probably all up at the same time. I really liked that we had each other to celebrate with.

2 of my dc share a birthday - 11 year gap .. 2 ds's are 2 days apart - 14 years gap.
2 ds's 11 days apart - 8 year gap.
Never gave it much thought one way or the other!!
Oh and 2dc 9 days apart with 9 year gap!

I am a week apart from my brother (and the day before my dad), DH is a week apart from his and my DC are 10 days apart from each other . It doesn’t matter in the slightest to any of us.

I don't think I could be that vexed.

The ages where it might matter are so few years, really; unless you are the type who over-invests in all family birthdays when your MIL barely speaks to you for weeks because you had to work thus couldn't drive 3 hours, and back, to attend BIL's birthday.

His 47th.

2.5 weeks between my eldest 2 children’s birthdays and it’s always been fine, there’s a (nearly!) 4 year age gap so they’ve never really done joint stuff. We don’t do big parties though, usually just family round for cake (eldest gets to choose what she wants to do but she generally just wants to hang out/go somewhere she likes with one or two mates). Neither of them have ever felt pushed out or anything though - in fact they like that their birthdays are close as they know that once 2’s birthday is here, 1’s is round the corner and they get all excited again if it’s important to you OP you might as well try and avoid it but you can’t always plan this stuff!