Siblings with close birthdays - yes or no

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I have a DD and thinking of trying for baby 2 soon. I am keen the new baby isn't born too close to DD's birthday because I worry it will make it less special, id like at least 6 weeks between and so would probably try and time things (as much as you can) to be due at least 2mo before or after her bday.

But DP thinks it doesn't matter.

Does anyone have experience either way?

My neice and nephew share a birthday!

He was born 8 weeks early by emergency c section the evening after DNs 3rd birthday party in the afternoon

You can't always plan these things...

I got my baby brother for my 8th birthday and I feel like it bonded us. We've always been really close. My 3 sons are all born in the space of 2 weeks and it's never been a problem.

My three have birthdays June, July and August. DH’s birthday is in August too. I’ve never considered it a problem.

They all think summer birthdays are ideal.

10 days between me and my sister's birthday and they are both in flaming January.

This month son number 2 is on 16th, son number 3 is 18th, our wedding anniversary is 23rd and then hubby's birthday is 24th!
Its an expensive month but each day is special. I usually bake their cakes - one year I baked one and bought the other and felt awful about it so never did it again. This year will be different as son 2 is away from home during the week now so this will be his first birthday away & we'll have a joint celebration on son 3s birthday x

Mine are slightly too close together 3 weeks, then 1 week until DH and then 5 weeks. But we also wanted to avoid Christmas/November/Jan (too near Christmas), August (too young for the year) and September(too old for the year and they might be born early!)
I seem to remember the year we conceived DS2 and DS3 October was busy so we opted to have birthdays close together.

It's okay, but I would prefer a Feb/march birthday for one of the children.

Sorry posted too soon..... was going to continue...
Whatever you decide, it'll work and each day is as individual as each child xxx

My kids are in the same month - and my birthday is also in that month. And my niece’s and my DH’s brother.

I wouldn’t have planned for mine and the kids’ birthdays to all be in the same month, but that’s what happened.

If you can plan, I’d say make them a little further apart!

That particular month for me is quite tiring 😅 we have separate parties and cakes etc so that’s exhausting on its own. My birthday often gets forgotten about because no one can be arsed anymore (me included and I don’t care that much anyway!).

Ultimately it doesn’t really matter. But for convenience, I wouldn’t plan for your DC’s birthdays to be at the same time.

Five days apart.

My sister has dc birthdays day after each other but 7 years difference.

DD and DS are 2 days apart, and their cousins is 2 days later. There's lots of cake that week. They have separate parties, and they don't seem to mind. (unfortunately sil turns it into a best present and more party guest comp each year but that's a different story.)

My brother and I have the same birthday. Every year seemed shadowed by him tbh. Lots of joint family parties where most people seemed to forget it was my birthday too.

I quite like it in a way, as then they both have a similar experience around the same time. It don't think it matters that much tbh. Even if they are only a few days apart, you can celebrate separately if you want to.

There is a week between my childrens birthdays. They are adults now but I always thought it was great. If the one with the later birthday was jealous it was easy to say its your birthday next week, similarly if the one with the earliest birthday was jealous I could remind them that it had just been their birthday and we could talk about their presents their party etc.
Both had their day and the fact that their birthdays were close helped rather than made it more difficult.

My SIL wanted twins. DN1 was born, then she had DN2 exactly a year to the day the following year, an induced birth. Held elder child back until the younger one started school so they both started on the same day, in the same classroom, stayed like this all through primary school and for the first 3 years of secondary school. They had joint parties always, never a second cake at the ones I went to. Dressed them the same always, expensive business as she couldn't pass on clothes to the younger child. Gave them the same ridiculous hairstyle. You couldn't make this stuff up. Fortunately, one has a distinctly different hair colour.
Eventually they "rebelled", quietly.

I would say don't over-think this, just start trying for a baby when you feel ready. Best of luck, hope it all goes well for you.

My sons is Christmas day and his sisters is 2 weeks later. Very expensive few weeks.

My two were born on the same day. It's OK but everyone goes on about how lovely it is, how we'll save on parties etc which isn't true especially as they are a boy and a girl.

We have to bake two cakes buy two lots of gifts. We make sure that they don't feel like they have to share their treats and gifts because it would be rubbish for them and they wouldn't have to if they were born on different days! We also sing happy birthday in full to each child. I wouldn't have worried about it before but they were due a few days apart and if I could have chosen I would have wanted them a couple of weeks apart at least but this is how it is and they'll realise its a cool fact when they get older!

July is expensive for me. Me and both ds were born then. Ds2 should have been born on the 3rd, then it was 13th (same as his brother) but due to midwife shortage he was born on the 16th. I was born on the 1st.

My two have birthdays just less than two weeks apart. I didn't think about it, we struggled to conceive my first so just tried again as soon as we could and it happened really quickly. My birthday is in the middle of theirs as well and it's usually over Easter so for two weeks we have a lot of presents and chocolate! It's fine and while they are young I've often bought them a big joint present to share. We still make lots of fuss over them on their individual birthdays. Don't really see the issue.

All mine are in the same week and my birthday too. We make it special, birthday cake everyday and special day on the day. Birthday week is fun in our house

Dc1 & Dc2 are 12 months and a day apart. It’s been good so far. Joint party, possibly individual one this year, or days out. We make a point of it being their day though. No complaints do far.

Someone I went to school with has 4 DC.. eldest DD and middle DSs (twins) have the same birthday, youngest DD is the day after 🙈

Hadn't even thought about the expense of close birthdays 😱 but also very true that having control is a bit of a mirage when it comes to babies arriving.

6 days between dc 1&3, both boys, 5 years between them. Not really a problem, I would never do anything joint, both treated separately etc. Dc 3 was early, should have been another couple of weeks between them. Only thing that's annoying is they are both August! Already an expensive time with the 6 weeks holidays! Mil's birthday is also inbetween! Everybody else is spread out throughout the year.

I went into labour with dd on ds's 2nd birthday, in the middle of his party! Was desperate for her not to be born until after midnight so my midwife ordered me to go and lie down and do nothing, in order to delay it all a bit! Got me out of the washing up anyway. Lasted until mid-evening, when I had to concede defeat and go in to hospital, but an epidural slowed things down a bit more and she was thankfully born at 3am the next day,
It's been a bit of a faff every year to make dd's birthday as "hey!" as ds's when we've been a bit "birthdayed out" but we've made it work.
They're now in their 20s and still speaking to us.

I mean it's not ideal but in the scheme of things not a big deal. My 2 dds have birthdays 13 days apart in January. It is an expensive month and full on with the shopping and organising, but for them I don't think it's a problem. They both feel their birthdays are special.

I have three dc born on the same day or three days earlier. Means for two days a year I have 3 four year olds or 3 five year olds etc. It’s fine and much cheaper to do a shared birthday party.