Siblings with close birthdays - yes or no

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I have a DD and thinking of trying for baby 2 soon. I am keen the new baby isn't born too close to DD's birthday because I worry it will make it less special, id like at least 6 weeks between and so would probably try and time things (as much as you can) to be due at least 2mo before or after her bday.

But DP thinks it doesn't matter.

Does anyone have experience either way?

My sister and I are one week apart and I do feel sorry for her as hers is first so there’s a lot of “see you all again next week” etc hers is also 25th (end of month) and mine is the 1st - everyone is always up for a drink,meal out etc for mine as it’s after pay day - but sure nothing that can be done to change it. I don’t have any memory of it being a problem when we were young.

My partner and my dad are one day apart and I find that harder! Never mind that my niece is 2 days later lol - and these dates are definitely out of control!

3 days between my sister and I. We shared birthday parties when we where younger up till about 8/9. Never really bothered us birthday being so close. But it’s an expensive couple of months as a lot of the family have birthdays over a 6 week period! We recently got together and 8 cup cakes with candles needed for all the birthdays missed over lockdown!

No experience here but I can't see it being a problem. They could have a joint party which takes away a lot of stress, shopping and organising. The younger one can also wear the hand-me-down clothes as they will be the same age for each season, rather than one in summer and one in winter where the clothes will be completely different.

My dds are a month apart. Makes for an expensive few months as it's close to xmas too.

My brothers birthday is about 3 weeks after mine and I was never bothered about it.
My daughters birthdays are 2 weeks apart. When I was pregnant I was concerned that DD2 would be born on DD1s birthday or the day before or something, as I think it would be a bit rubbish to have them that close together, but it worked out OK.

Lots of people in my family have very close birthdays - my mum and her mum share a birthday, my husbands birthday is the day before his mums and my dad and uncle have birthdays 3 days apart. None of them have ever expressed it being a big deal.

@Clevs

No experience here but I can't see it being a problem. They could have a joint party which takes away a lot of stress, shopping and organising. The younger one can also wear the hand-me-down clothes as they will be the same age for each season, rather than one in summer and one in winter where the clothes will be completely different.

Yes I was hoping for this with my daughters. Hasnt quite worked as DD1 was small when she was born (25th c) while DD2 is big (75th-91st c) but I'm sure the clothes will catch up with her has DD1 didnt stay small for long!

Ds was due 18th Dec and DD 1st jan.....Dh is 3rd November (along with my grandfather ) im the 5th November, Ds 10th November and DD is the 28th!

Honestly you can't really control these things. I tried to have summer babies both times and due to miscarriages my dd was born in November. Same thing this time and my next is due in November too. Be lucky to get two weeks between them. Weirdly my partner had three children and they are all November birthdays too. So between us we will have five in November! Expensive!

I think it’s a bit of a
Bonkers thing to consider.

2 of Mine have birthdays in the same week. Don't think it really matters to them tbh but it's expensive for us!

My brother was born the day after my first birthday and I hated it. He was always given at least one present on my birthday and I just used to think why can I not just have one day that's special for me! He still got to have his birthday all to himself the day after though.

Two of mine are 5 days apart the week before Christmas. Spectacularly bad planning on my behalf, I always lose my mind for about a month trying to organise everything.

My 2 are 8 days apart. I wouldn't have planned it that way but 2 miscarriages later I was happy that DC2 was born. My siblings were twins, a friend has the same birthday as her brother, her ch8ldren are 9 days apart. IMO you are over thinking it. As much as you might want and plan you cannot dictate these things

Mine are close and I think it's nice.

Why on earth would you take down one set of cards for another though. Have them all up at once and a big celebration, with separate cake and presents on each individual day. Think it makes it more special actually.

This is some next-level micromanagement.

5 year and a week between my 2. Never been a problem

My sister and I have birthdays exactly one month apart. Never been a problem. (Except my dad sometimes forgetting which was which...)

DS1 and DS3 share a birthday (three years apart). It's never been any problem at all.

In fact I made a real effort to deliver DS3 before midnight, because the thought of birthdays on two consecutive days was significantly worse than on the same day (the latter has some charm, incl less effort required on making a cake), also because when I dashed off to hospital in the late afternoon DS1 said he at least wanted a birthday twin, if I was going to miss his birthday tea.

I have 2 DDs 5 days apart (with DHs birthday that week too) people often comment on my bad planning but I had a miscarriage prior to DD3 and almost lost her, sometimes we have no control over these things and I’m so happy she’s just here.