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Do you have much of a personality?

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Ladywinesalot · 07/07/2020 21:29

I’m in my 40’s, kids, married, work, degree, homeowner. (Telling your as it makes up me/personality)

But I’ve recently (lockdown) been thinking that I don’t think I have much of a personality.
I have sooo many interests: read, films, food, wine, music, fashion/makeup, exercise, friends, family travel

But I never feel like I come across or am very interesting. I don’t feel like I have a sparsely personality and I hate lying or embellishing the truth so any story I tell is matter of fact.

I also don’t like to offend or upset people so watch what I say so not to hurt their feelings.

I feel very vanilla and boring, and I don’t like it!!
How does one get a good personality?

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Ladywinesalot · 07/07/2020 21:30
  • sparsely = sparkely
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OnlyFoolsnMothers · 07/07/2020 21:42

Hmm HmmI have a very standard every day life- which I like- no hobbies as such. But I do have an opinion on most things, quite forthright with them too! Do opinions make people interesting or what they do?!

Duvetdoggy · 07/07/2020 21:45

I think that's being gstuck with your own head in lockdown. We usually have so much social interaction that when that's taken away the personality we have, to get by, leaves us with ourselves and we realise how mundane we are.

I've had days on end with myself and a cat. If the cat meows its like a good night out.

bitofasleuth · 07/07/2020 21:49

If by 'personality' you mean life and soul of the party, look-at-me hyperactive, demanding to be the centre of attraction at all times and super popular, then I have to say I think I'd much prefer you as you are Grin

BillywilliamV · 07/07/2020 21:51

Who are you trying to impress with your sparkling personality, if you have people who love you then they love your personality, they don't want you any different..

Unless you want a Radio4 comedy series?

LaurieFairyCake · 07/07/2020 21:53

Yep, I'm also dull

Dog likes me though (I do good chin rubs)

LaurieFairyCake · 07/07/2020 21:53

Yep, I'm also dull

Dog likes me though (I do good chin rubs)

motorcyclenumptiness · 07/07/2020 21:59

I've had fungal infections that could outshine me in the personality stakes

BlessYourCottonSocks · 07/07/2020 22:00

I don't know about personality. I've been told in the past I have 'charm' and I think I'm used to talking to lots of different types of people and drawing them out of themselves. I've never considered myself particularly pretty but I'm(professionally) good at warmth and empathy.

Inside I'm old and grumpy.😀

JMAngel1 · 07/07/2020 22:02

I think self deprecating humour goes a long way and just being interested in other people.
A few quick retorts and some funny anecdotes. But never at the expense of someone else.
I think my DH would say I have too much personality Grin

Crimblecrumble1990 · 07/07/2020 22:06

I think I know what you mean. Generally happy with my life, it's a good one, but I often think at my funeral, how would they describe me?

Probably a generic 'kind, smart, bubbly woman' but I wouldn't say that necessarily described me very well. You can't really say, she was a very average kind of woman who wasn't very memorable...

Crimblecrumble1990 · 07/07/2020 22:06

I think I know what you mean. Generally happy with my life, it's a good one, but I often think at my funeral, how would they describe me?

Probably a generic 'kind, smart, bubbly woman' but I wouldn't say that necessarily described me very well. You can't really say, she was a very average kind of woman who wasn't very memorable...

missyB1 · 07/07/2020 22:08

I do when I’m around people I know but I’m totally useless around anyone I don’t know well.

Shatandfattered · 07/07/2020 22:28

I'm what people regard as too much. Forever being annoyed with myself for being too opinionated, too loud, too much. Sit for hours cringing at the "blunt truths" I've spoken or that me being funny and full of carry on at parties is actually annoying.
To summarise, I would like to think I come across as forthcoming, honest and loyal to a fault, funny, warm and lovable.... In reality I'm probably nippy, annoying, blunt and eye rollingly irritating.

Shatandfattered · 07/07/2020 22:29

Pressed too soon. Basically my point is what you are probably referring to as personality is less appealing than you just as you are

JellyfishandShells · 07/07/2020 22:29

I think I used to be a lot more ‘sparkling ‘. I’m not shy or introverted but not the life and soul of the party either, more a quietly confident charm both professionally and in private social situations.

I’m still good at talking to strangers, or in a new situation but after about an hour of an evening out I sort of run out of steam and enthusiasm now. And I’m not bothered about it in the least.

LesNanas · 08/07/2020 00:57

Anyone who would legitimately self-describe as either ‘sparkly’ or ‘bubbly’ would have me reaching for a large stick, so you’re good, OP.

Fatted · 08/07/2020 01:05

Does it matter OP? Who are you trying to impress? The people who love you, love the personality that you have.

I definitely compartmentalise my personality. Different people see different sides to me. It's only DH who sees it all. Work colleagues would find 'real me' far too sweary, loud and opinionated. Family and friends would be mortified at how professional I am in work and my kids probably wouldn't understand why I don't talk about pokémon for 8 hours a day with grown ups like I do when I'm with them.

TwoZeroTwoZero · 08/07/2020 01:10

I'm boring as well, even out of lockdown. I can never think of anything of any value to add to a conversation, my witty comebacks always miss the mark if I manage to get them out before they're too late, I'm very shy and I don't really do anything or go anywhere that gives me something to talk about and I'm shit at giving help or advice. I have strong opinions but rarely voice them and am not bothered about arguing with people to bring them around to my way of thinking. I don't tell jokes very much and a lot of quick remarks or witty one-liners go over my head. In other words, I don't feel like I'm a nice or interesting person to get to know or even just to pass the time of day with. God knows how I managed to meet dh and keep his attention long enough for him to marry me!

Lollypop4 · 08/07/2020 01:16

@OnlyFoolsnMothers

Hmm HmmI have a very standard every day life- which I like- no hobbies as such. But I do have an opinion on most things, quite forthright with them too! Do opinions make people interesting or what they do?!
I'm exactly the same as you really. I have zero hobbies , I do enjoy meeting friends though -usually is with the kids as Im a SAHM. I'm pretty sociable, I have been told often I am quite funny, Im also really bluntly honest with my opinion. I have clashed with quite a few people, all family members, because Ive been maybe too bluntly honest. I guess that could make for an interesting personality?
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Ladywinesalot · 08/07/2020 20:56

@Duvetdoggy

I think that's being gstuck with your own head in lockdown. We usually have so much social interaction that when that's taken away the personality we have, to get by, leaves us with ourselves and we realise how mundane we are.

I've had days on end with myself and a cat. If the cat meows its like a good night out.

Yes, maybe this. I’m so bored of myself and unsure how to entertain me if that makes sense?

Cat meowing 😂

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Ladywinesalot · 08/07/2020 20:59

@OnlyFoolsnMothers

Hmm HmmI have a very standard every day life- which I like- no hobbies as such. But I do have an opinion on most things, quite forthright with them too! Do opinions make people interesting or what they do?!
Perhaps a well informed opinion can make a person interesting. Depends on delivery and weight of what you have to say.

I don’t like to force my iPhone on on someone as I believe we all come at like with a different experience and perspective so iur opinion is bound to differ.
But maybe if I was more openly opinionated I would be more interesting?

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Ladywinesalot · 08/07/2020 21:01

@Shatandfattered

I'm what people regard as too much. Forever being annoyed with myself for being too opinionated, too loud, too much. Sit for hours cringing at the "blunt truths" I've spoken or that me being funny and full of carry on at parties is actually annoying. To summarise, I would like to think I come across as forthcoming, honest and loyal to a fault, funny, warm and lovable.... In reality I'm probably nippy, annoying, blunt and eye rollingly irritating.
This is how I was and I would cringe at myself for months if not years so I toned myself down ALOT. But then I miss my fiery passionate self too.💓
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Ladywinesalot · 08/07/2020 21:01

Soz for the heart - fat fingers

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KetoWinnie · 08/07/2020 21:02

I think I do yes.

But I remember feeling 'who am i?' types of thoughts when my two dc were small. That was more to do with my x who had sapped the joy out of my life though. I thought weird things like ''is that how I would react to that joke?''. ''Would I be shocked by that?''.

Sounds weird now when I type it but I don't feel like that at all now so it's not permanent.

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