A bottle of wine every day

[biscbek]

Been doing it for two years now. I don't even get drunk anymore . It's a habit . I work from home so it doesn't affect me driving or anything . No kids at home. Partner works away mostly .
Is it really bad ? Do others drink this much ? Don't really know why I'm posting . I don't even know if I want to stop

I've just poured a glass

No! Pour it away, you've got to 4 on without any and that's an achievement!

*4pm

Please pour it away and do something else.

Watch a tv programme
Read a book or a magazine
Go for a walk
Phone a friend
Tidy out a cupboard
Read the reddit thread or the mumsnet thread that someone linked to above

A craving only lasts 15 minutes or so. If you can do something to distract yourself until it goes, it will help.

Ah it's so hard OP. I started the thread that someone linked to earlier because I was/am drinking too much. Failed massively last week and still drank every night but I reduced my intake. This week is going better so far. Baby steps.

Please come and join us if you want some additional support

@Patbutcherismyhero Thankyou . I'm trying to find the link xx

I think the fact that you've posted this demonstrates that you know you are drinking too much. There is no way of massaging this to seem okay. But you can do something about it. As others have suggested, maybe start by having two consecutive days off every week and limiting yourself to say, half a bottle, on the days you do drink? Or could you try low alcohol wine? Then reassessing what else you can cut out after a month or so?

Of course it’s bad, you’re an alcoholic.

I think it’s far too much a bottle of wine every night!! Is it not expensive? How much would you save if you changed to just having a drink on a Friday!

I’m not a drinker anyway so to me it’s an awful lot.

@heartsonacake

Of course it’s bad, you’re an alcoholic.

I had to chuckle at this!

I like the dry January and dry October idea.

@biscbek did you pour the wine away or carry on drinking it?

@biscbek
Don't beat yourself up for having a glass. Just try to make better choices next time.

I think you've already done it but delayed gratification works well. When you fancy a glass say I'll just do this first. Do a task then maybe try again I'll just do this before I have a drink. Make plans around drinking. I'll have a drink on this day or I won't drink on that day. Keep busy. Find a non alcoholic drink that you like and make it special/put it in a wine glass so it feels like you're having a treat.

Also be wary that once you see your GP and they advise you to cut down it becomes much harder to get life insurance. Speaking from experience.

I'm a recovering alcoholic with 26 years of sobriety. One thing that I can see clearly about my drinking years is a fact well known in medicine - that alcoholism is a progressive disease. It gets worse over time in a predictable fashion. It also causes changes in the neurochemistry of your brain:

Molecular basis of alcoholism

This is what causes the desire and eventually the craving to drink.

I won't bore you with tales about how awful it was for me at the end or what it took for me to get sober, but I will advise you to seek help in stopping drinking. Very few people quit successfully on their own.

Good luck.

@heartsonacake. @Heyhih3

It may have taken the OP a lot of strength to start this thread. She needs support, not name calling.

@TazSyd Thankyou . I've joined the group on here . I won't be replying on here but thanks for all for the kind words x
And glad you find it a laughing matter those that were sarcky .

[quote TazSyd]**@heartsonacake. @Heyhih3

It may have taken the OP a lot of strength to start this thread. She needs support, not name calling.[/quote]
It’s not name calling, it’s stating a fact.

OP is an alcoholic, and mollycoddling her and trying to hide that won’t help her recover. She needs to first acknowledge she’s an alcoholic so she can then take steps to fix the problem.

I wish you all the very best, I've been thinking of you all day. I know how hard it can be so I hope you get the support you need x

heartsonacake it is impossible (and irresponsible) to diagnose someone as alcoholic from posts on a chat forum.

@bibbitybobbitycats

heartsonacake it is impossible (and irresponsible) to diagnose someone as alcoholic from posts on a chat forum.

No, it isn’t. She’s drinking a bottle of wine every day, she can’t stop herself, and she wants to drink in the mornings as well.

She’s an alcoholic. There’s no pussyfooting around that. And she won’t get better until she acknowledges that.

@heartsonacake,who are you to think you have the right to say a person is an Alcoholic!!!

Not everyone who drinks that much is an Alcoholic,they can stop drinking and find another hobby.

Being an Alcoholic is nothing to do with the amount drunk.

I am an Alcoholic over 17years in recovery.I would never presume to tell people they are Alcoholics,we never do that in Alcoholics Anonymous.

The OP needs to decide for herself how much of a problem her drinking is to her.Not some random person who doesn’t know her deciding for her.

Yeah, sure. Pretend drinking a bottle a day is normal then

Not one person has said that it's a good thing or "normal". There are many, many different patterns of drinking and reasons why people drink.