My mother thinks my dad’s clothes are too skimpy

[Notcontent]

This is something I never thought I would be posting about...

My other is in her 60s but has always been young for her age, in that she has always had younger friends and looks and behaves like someone younger. She considers herself to be someone who has liberal views, etc. This is why I am so surprised by her views all of a sudden!

Dd is 14 and very sensible. When she first entered the tween/teen phase, she was very uncomfortable with the changes to her body and just wanted to wear trousers and baggy jumpers. In the last few months she seems to have finally become more comfortable with herself and not feel ,ike she has to hide. Today she wore a new top, which is quite fitted but with some loose mum style jeans and trainers. She sent a photo to my mother and my mother actually called her and asked her if I knew she was wearing that as it was inappropriate!!! I had a conversation with my mother and my mother seems to think 14 year olds should not wear anything that is slightly revealing. The thing is that dd just dresses to please herself - no one else - and she is not even curvy so does not look like she is trying to look sexy or anything... the top was a bit like this:

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Thoughts? Am I an irresponsible parent?

Title says dad 😂.. tell your mum to leave her be .

well I thought this was going to be about your Dads “stuff” falling out his short shorts

Major title fail!!!! 😂😂

Sounds like there is too much focus on clothing in your family. Why was your DD sending a photo of her clothes to her grandmother?

Anyway lesson learned- don’t send grandma any more photos of her outfit.

I'm imagining vest and short shorts with a Kevin Webster perm and 'tache

That’s a hilarious fail @Notcontent!!! I pictured an aging dad in a crop top and shorts!!!!!

Gutted it’s about your daughter...

Was so interested to hear what Dad was wearing 😅😅😅

Haha, if it was your dad that would be so much better. I was imagining inappropriate running outfits or lycra. I would be a tad uncomfortable with a 14 year showing as much as that top does but if she's just playing about with outfits at home then does it matter?

Anyone remember that episode of Friends where Phoebes boyfriend doesn’t wear pants and everything is in full view when he sits down

Love the top @Notcontent I think your daughters clothes are fine and lovely. My mum wore less in the 1960’s!!

Smallsteps - not at all - dd has been calling her grandparents on a daily basis and sending them photos because they ask for them - they are not in the U.K. and have felt very isolated because of the Covid lockdown.

@Widdlywoo2u

Gutted it’s about your daughter...

Sorry to disappoint!!!! I have derailed by own thread... 🤣

I would be having a word with your mother about being critical if your DD's way if dress etc. Stamp on it now

Ha, another one thinking you could all see your dad's meat and two veg at the dinner table, but not the stuff in the plate....

Dds top is lovely.

Oh I misunderstood and thought she sent a photo of her outfit rather than just a photo of herself and her grandmother noticed the outfit.

I’d just tell your mum to stop being silly.

I'd tell your mother that given she likes hearing from her granddaughter, she had better wind her neck in, as your DD won't be so keen to make contact if she just gets criticized every time.

To be honest I would say that to dd now and she's an adult. I don't like cropped tops except on beaches. I'm with your mum here. Of course my dd bought such things with her own money at 14 but she didn't wear them if going somewhere with me

But... but you can see the girl's WAIST!!!!

It's exactly the sort of top I would expect to see on a younger teenager. Good for your dad daughter for greetings a bit more body confident and wearing it. I do hope your mother's words didn't get as far as your daughter and give her any more hang ups.

MrsTelford yes i remember Gunther told him to 'put the mouse back in his house'. Op it sounds like your mum doesn't want your dd to grow up, or at least to develop a woman's body, and if she has to develop one she should cover it up. Its very backwards thinking and your dd is doing/wearing nothing wrong.

Getting* not greetings

That's really really tickled me. Sorry

If it’s like that top, I bet she looks lovely.

Tell your mum to mind her own. Let your daughter celebrate her lithe 14 year old body while she has the chance.

Just sounds like older generation being grouchy and negative. My dad did the same when I wore a bikini in the garden in 1978 . He acted like I was strutting around in a basque & fishnets, with a red sock on the lightbulb.

I'm so disappointed it wasn't your Dad. I had an image of him 'falling out' of his short shorts Alan Partridge style

I was picturing your Dad looking like Peter Stringfellow! 🤣🤣🤣

Love that top. I think it age appropriate. Really gran is out of order and I hope you tell her that.